Ubomi bomntu ngamnye malungu kuxhomekeke kubuhlobo obuphuhliswayo kwintsapho. Oku kubaluleke kakhulu kwisizukulwana esincinane. Emva koko, imodeli yentsapho yabo yolonwabo yentsapho ixhaswe ngamanyathelo okuqala kwaye isekelwe kubuhlobo obusele bukhona bomama noyise, bobabini ngokuphathelele omnye nomnye kunye nabantwana babo.
Iintlobo zobudlelwane bosapho
- Ubudlelwane beDemokhrasi kwintsapho . Ehlabathini labazali abathi bakhetha uhlobo oluthile lwenkululeko kunye nokunciphisa, umntwana ngowokuqala, ungumhlobo. Bathethana naye ngeenyawo ezilinganayo. Akunakwenzeka ukuba uya kuva: "Hayi, uya kwenza oko, kuba ndithe njalo." Apha kukho ukulingana. Sekuncinane ukususela kumntwana, umntwana uphathwa ngokuhlonela. Kungenxa yoko, xa ekhula, uyazi ukuba kuthini ukugcina ukuthotyelwa, ukukwazi ukuphulaphula umnxibelelwano ngaphandle kokuphazamisa. Abazali banikela ngokuzithandela abantwana babo inkululeko yokuzikhethela, kodwa ningacingi ukuba xa umntwana esitsho ukuba ufuna ukuqala ukutshaya ngenxa yokuba abahlobo bakhe, unina noyise benza ngokuzonwabisa, baya kuvuma. Hayi, zihlala zilawula ukulawula. Indlela yokugatya okukhawulezileyo kunye nezimiselo ziyacatshiswa. Bathetha naye njengomntu omdala, uchaza indlela angalimaza ngayo impilo yakhe kunye nomlingo ololo hlobo. Kufuneka kuqatshelwe ukuba ubudlelwane kwintsapho enjalo balungiselela abantwana kwiimeko zokuphila kwangempela.
- I-Authoritarianism . Akunakucelwa ukuba kwintsapho enjalo ngumzali ongabodwa ongabhekana nobunzima obunzima, kodwa uzalisekisa imisebenzi yobabini nonina. Okanye bobabini abazali ngaba ngabantu bezakhono abafuna umyalelo omkhulu kubo. Ngoko, akukho nto inokuthetha ngayo nayiphi na ubudlelwane obuvumelanayo kwintsapho. Ingane ithobela, kwaye iyalela. Ukuba uzama ukubhena into ethile, ngoko mzuzwana uya kuzisola. Kukholelwa ukuba indlela efanelekileyo kakhulu yokubetha. Kunzima abantwana ukuba bacinge ukuba yintoni intetho ngentliziyo.
- "Ukutshatyalaliswa ngumama ngumyalelo wendlela . " Ngamanye amaxesha ubudlelwane bobudlelwane phakathi kwale ntsapho babizwa ngokuba yintando yesininzi, kodwa kubaluleke kakhulu ukubabiza ngokuba ngamagama-mbuso. Imvume yinto ephambili elawulayo kwimoya yasekhaya. Ngenxa yoko, abantwana bayakhula bazingca, bengenako ukuvelana .