Amadoda anengxaki enje kangangokuba nangona bafumana intombazana encinci enhle kunye neefom ezitshatshelayo ezikubo, baya kukhangela abanye abafazi.
Ukuze ungayonakalisi inkqubo yakho yeentlanzi, abafazi kufuneka bamkele isithembu ehambelana namadoda. Ukuba umntu ukhangele ubuhle, oku akuthethi ukuba uya kukhwela kuye ukuze azi ukuba naye.
Ewe, eneneni, kukho amadoda ahamba ngakwesokhohlo. Nangona imeko leyo yenzeke kanye, khumbula ukuba oku kudibeneyo. Ukuba sithetha malunga nendlela yokwenza imeko enjalo kwaye sikhohlwe ngokungcatsha komyeni, okokuqala, ibhinqa kufuneka iqhube i-introspection kwaye iqonde: ingabe ikulungele ukuhlala kunye neenkumbulo zokukhohlakele, kuya kuba neentliziyo kunye neemvakalelo malunga nokulibaziseka kweqabane, akuyi kuba neengcamango, ukuba indoda ichitha ixesha kunye nomnye umfazi.
Indlela yokulibala ukutshatyalaliswa kwendoda - iingcebiso zesazinzululwazi
Kubalulekile ukuqonda. Mhlawumbi iqabane liza kuguqa, liqale ukulila, likhale malunga nokuba kwenzeke ngethuba kwaye akusayi kuphinda kwenzeke kwakhona. Bambalwa abaya kufuna ukuphulaphula iimeko emva kwaloo mqathango, kuba babonakala bebuhlungu kwaye banobudenge. Kodwa kuyafaneleka ukuphulaphula. Kukwacetyiswa ukuba ubuze malunga naluphi uhlobo lweentombazana, ukuba libukeka njani, yintoni ayithandayo kwaye yintoni engayithandiyo. Oku kungabonakala kungenangqondo, kodwa kuya kwenza kube lula kubo bobabini. Emva koko, ukuba iqabane litshintshile, ngoko bekukho isizathu salo, esifanele siqondwe ukuze sikwazi ukuxolela size sikhohlwe.
Kufuneka ukwazi ukulibala ukutshutshiswa komyeni wakho kwaye ulondoloze intsapho yakho. Yaye loo nto ayenzeki ngasemva ayifuni ukuqala ukucacisa ubudlelwane kunye nokumemeza nokuhlaziya. Amadoda ayithandi abafazi abakhawuleza, abahlala besuka apho. Akukho mfuneko yokuzama ukuziphindisela, kuba oku kuya kunciphisa imeko, kodwa, ngokuchaseneyo, kuya kuyenza ibe nzima. Ufuna nje ukuba wamkele okwenzekayo uze ungakhumbuli.
Ezi ngcebiso ezivela kwiingqondo zengqondo ziya kunceda ukuqonda indlela yokulibala ukutshatyalaliswa komyeni wakhe, ukuba ngaba isigqibo senziwe ukugcina intsapho.