Wakhula umntwana ocolileyo kwaye onokuthula, kodwa ngolunye usuku yonke into yatshintsha. Uphendulela ngokukhawuleza ukugxeka, ukukhawuleza, kwaye ngamanye amaxesha unokulwa. Imbonakalo yobundlobongela kwiintsholongwane inokufunyanwa ngokoqobo kwiintsapho zanamhlanje. Kodwa akusiyo wonke umzali owaziyo ukunqanda umntwana wakhe kwaye aqondise amandla akhe angenamandla kwisitya esinokuthula.
Izizathu zokubandezeleka kwabaselula
Iminyaka yobudala ayikho into engekho into ebizwa ngokuba yintshintsho. Eli lixesha lokulwa nobuntwana nokukhula komntu njengomntu. Yaye akubona zonke ezi zinto zihamba kakuhle. Ngokuxhomekeka kwimeko, ukukhulisa kunye nosapho, ubudlova kwabantwana nakwishumi elivisayo kunokuthatha iifom ezahlukeneyo:
- ukuhlambalaza: nayiphi na igama, elithethwe ngaphandle kwendawo, lingabangela ukucaphukela. Yaye kungekhona kuphela abantu abadala, kodwa ngabaontanga babo;
- ukucaphukisa: esinye sezibonakaliso ezibalaseleyo zexesha lokutshintsha. Ukubonakaliswa ngokunyaniseka nangokukhawuleza ngenxa yesiphina isizathu;
- krokra: kwinqanaba elithile lokuguquka, nayiphi na intlekele eshiya ukuthembela kwihlabathi elingaphandle, ekholelwa ukuba "wonke umntu uyamchasa";
- Ulwaphulo olusondeleyo: zonke izicelo ezivakalayo kwidilesi yomntwana zinganakwa okanye zenza izenzo ezichasene nezo zivakalayo;
- Ulwaphulo olungqalileyo: umntwana uselula ukutsalisa umntu othile, echaza ngendlela yokubamba, ukuhlambalaza, amahlaya amabi;
- ulwaphulo lomzimba: ukusetyenziswa kwamandla emzimbeni kubantu;
- Ulwaphulo lomlomo: kwiintsholongwane, lubonakalisa ngesimo sokungahambi kakuhle kwemisindo - ukukhala, ukusongela kunye namagama. Yona nto ibaluleke kakhulu kwixesha lokuguquka.
Ukuxhatshazwa phakathi kwentsha yinto engenakufumana inshurensi. Nangona inzala ithole ingqalelo enkulu kwaye ifundiswe kakuhle phambi kokuguquka, akukho mqinisekiso yokuba ayiyi kutshintsha xa ifikelela kwiminyaka eyi-12-13. Ngako oko, ukuthintelwa kobundlobongela kulutsha kufuneka kuqhutywe kwintsapho nganye.
Ukulungiswa kobudlova kwabaselula
Ngelishwa, ukuxilongwa kobudlova kwiintsholongwane akusoloko kusenzeka kwintsapho. Kodwa ukuthabatha umntwana oguqukileyo kwi-psychologist kuya kuba yingxaki. Ngako oko, ukuba uqaphele ukubonakaliswa kokuqala kobugwenxa, kuyafaneleka ukuba usebenzise imithetho ethile yokunciphisa:
- Ungaphenduli ulwaphulo-mthetho. Eli cebiso lifanelekileyo kubazali bezikolo zasesikolweni. Nangona ukuziphatha komntwana kukwenza ube neentloni, ungafani naye, ngaphandle koko imeko iya kuphuma ngokupheleleyo ekulawuleni. Kwakhona abazali abafanele bafunge ngomntwana, njengoko akwazi ukukopisha indlela abaziphatha ngayo.
- Umsebenzi oyintloko wabazali kukuzama ukufumana ulwimi oluqhelekileyo nomntwana, kungabandakanyi ukufunyanwa kunye nokulawula. Kubalulekile ukubonisa umntwana iimpawu ezilungileyo zobuntu bakhe-ubunkokeli, ukuzama injongo, ukukwazi ukufeza eyakho, nokukhuthaza umntwana ukuba
phuhliso lwezi mpawu. - Abazali abaninzi bazama ukutshintshisa amandla omntwana osemncinci kwisitya esinokuthula. Kule njongo, amacandelo ahlukeneyo aphelele: ukuyila, ukudansa, ukudlala ezemidlalo, njl.
- Bonke abazali abaziphatha ngayo kufuneka banike umntwana ukuba azive nje njengelungu elipheleleyo lentsapho, ohlonipho lwakhe luhlonishwa kwaye luhlonishwa. Umntwana kufuneka abe nemfuneko kwaye aqondwe.
- Hlonipha izimvo zomntwana ebomini, ungazami ukubeka umbono wakhe kuye. Khumbula ukuba naye unomntu, nangona engakhange avuthiwe.