Abo bafunda inoveli kaMarko Twain "Tom Sawyer" mhlawumbi bakhumbule indlela umlingisi oyintloko ophupha ngayo ukufa kwakhe, ephikisana nonina. Wayecinga ngokucacileyo ukuba wayeza kuba ngumsindo kangakanani kwaye ubomi bakhe bonke bubetyala ngenxa yokufa "kwintombazana enhle." Kwizengqondo zendlela yokuzibulala, le ndlela yokuziphatha ithathwa njengengcamango emibini malunga nokufa kunye nokuba. Ngokuqhelekileyo umntwana uyabona ukufa, njengendlela yempembelelo kubantu abadala kwaye akaqapheli ukungafuneki kwemiphumo.
Ukuziphatha ngokuzibulala kubantwana kubalulekile ngexesha lethu. Abazali kunye nootitshala kufuneka bahlawule ngokukodwa ukuziphatha komntwana osemtsha ngexesha lokuchonga iimpawu zokuqala zokuzibulala.
Iimpawu zokuziphatha zokuzibulala
Ukuziphatha ngokuzibulala kwentombazana kunokubandakanya:
- iingcamango malunga nokungabikho kokubomi;
- ngcamango yokufa;
- iingxelo malunga nomnqweno wokufa ("Ndiyagula yonke into", "Andifuni ukuphila");
- Intshisekelo yolutsha lukhulile kwimibandela yokufa (iincwadi, iifom kunye nezentlalo zentlalo, imibutho engaqhelekanga yokuhlakulela ukuthambekela kokuzibulala).
Ngokuqhelekileyo, abantwana abaselula bafuna ukuziphatha ngokuzibulala ukuze batyelele ingqalelo. Ukuvela kokuziphatha ngokuzibulala kunokulandelwa zizizwe ezidandathekayo ezibonakalisa ukukhathazeka, ukuzivala ukukhathazeka kunye nokuzimelela, ukulungiswa kwezinto ezincinci, ukusondelana, ukuxhatshazwa kwabantu abadala, ukusetyenziswa kakubi kotywala nokusetyenziswa kweziyobisi. Ukuziphatha okunjalo kubandakanya ukuzibulala kwangempela , okungekho nto. Ezinye iintlobo zokuziphatha zokuzibulala ziquka ukuzibulala okuzimele , apho umntwana osemutsha ekhetha "ukuziphatha okuzibulala": ukungena kumaqela onobungozi, ukuqhuba ngokukhawuleza, imidlalo eyingozi, iziyobisi. Ngokuqhelekileyo, abantwana abaselula bayathandana nokuzibulala , apho isenzo sokuzibulala sisenza ingxoxo, ngoncedo olutsha olufuna ukuba luthethe kwaye luqondwe.
Izizathu zokuziphatha ngokuzibulala
- Ukuchaphazela ebalulekileyo ebomini yomntu osemtsha. Ngokuqhelekileyo ukuxazulula ingxabano yothando (ukwenza umntu ophosakeleyo uphenduke, fumana umntu ukuba aqaphele umntu oyithandayo, njl.).
- Vumela ukungquzulana nabazali. Isitayela esinobukhulu becala lokukhulisa, apho abantwana abancinci abanikezelwa ngemfuno yeemfestile, kukhokelela ekungquzululeni kwaye baqhubele phambili kwiingcamango zokuzibulala. Kwakhona, indlela yokumangalisa imfundo inokushukumisela umntwana ukuba afune ukuzibulala ukuze abazali bamncede.
- Ukungaqondi kakuhle esikolweni. Iintsholongwane ezineempembelelo zemfundo ezimbi ziphikisana nabafundisi nabaphathi. Umntwana ulawulwa yimfuneko yokuzithemba, ngokuvavanya kakuhle, ekunxibelelaneni, ukungabikho kwinto enokubangela ukuba umnqweno afe.
Imiba yobungozi bokuzibulala
Akunabo bonke abaselula abakwazi ukuziphatha ngokuzibulala, kwaye uninzi lwabantu abathambekeleyo lunokubakho kwiqela leengozi ezahlukeneyo.
- abatsha ababenokuzama ukuzibulala;
- abaselula ababenokuzibulala kwintsapho;
- ukusetyenziswa kakubi kotywala nokusetyenziswa kweziyobisi;
- abantwana abaselula abanenkinga yokuphazamiseka kunye nokudandatheka;
- abantwana abaselula kunye nezifo ezingapheliyo;
- Abaselula abasinda ekulahlekelweni komntu osondeleyo okanye obalulekileyo;
- abaselula, abasinda kubundlobongela;
- abaselula abasuka kwiintsapho ezihluphekileyo kunye nabazali abangabodwa.
Izindlela zokunqoba ukuzibulala
Ubutsha bubonakaliswa ngokugqitywa ngokupheleleyo kooncedo lwabazali, ootitshala nabaqeqeshi. Ngexesha elifanayo, ukuxilongwa ngokuziphatha ngokuzibulala kwabantwana abakwishumi elivisayo