Ubuntutsha buyinto ebunzima kakhulu ebomini bomntu, kuba ngeli xesha lelo lwakhiwo lobuntu, i-orientation yayo yexabiso kunye nezinto eziphambili kwizinto zokuphila zigqityiwe. Ukongezelela, kukho ukuphuculwa kwentsebenzo yesondo, ebonakalayo ngenguqu kwi-balance ye-hormonal. Kwaye kunye ne-hormone "ihamba" kunye nomoya: kukho ukucaphuka, ukugwenxa, ukulila. Abantwana banobusuku baphenduka kakhulu, basabela ngokukhawuleza kwizinto ezinjengezinto ezibonakalayo. Ngoko ke, xa behlangabezana neengxaki, bahlala belahleka nje, kuba abanalo amava okulungisa iingxaki zobomi. Kwimimandla enje iimeko ezisemngciphekweni kunye neentshapheko ezithintekayo, kwiimeko ezinjalo, iimeko zokuzibulala zivela.
Ngokwezibalo, ukuzibulala kudla ngokuqhutywa ngabantu abaselula abaneminyaka eli-10 ukuya kwe-14. Kuyimpazamo ukucinga ukuba ukuzibulala phakathi kwentsha kubangelwa ngabafuduki abavela kwiintsapho ezihlelelekile. Ngokuqhelekileyo, abantwana abasuka kwimindeni ephumayo bayakwazi ukuziphatha okunjalo. Kodwa yintoni ebenza baqhube kwisinyathelo esinjalo esiyingozi?
Izizathu zokuzibulala kwabaselula
- Uthando olungagqithwanga. Ewe, kwenzeka ntoni kwiminyaka eyi-10. Kwaye intombazana (okanye inkwenkwe) iya kuba yintlungu eyona nto yokuba into yokubonga ayibukeli kwindlela yakhe. Iingxoxo ezinengqiqo ezinokuba "u-Sasha uya kuba ngaphezulu kwesigidi" angabonakali, umntwana akakhathaleli oko kuza kwenzeka kwikamva, uhlala apha kwaye ngoku. Iintsholongwane zixhomekeke kwi-maximimalism, zifuna zonke okanye akukho nto. Ukuba abanako ukufumana oko bafuna, bakhetha "akukho nto" ...
- Ukungabi namandla. Ukuba umntwana ufumana kwiimeko ezinzima, ukulwa nalo awanako, unokukhetha ukuzibulala njengendlela yokusombulula ingxaki yakhe.
- Umtsalane wokuqwalasela. Ukuba umntwana unesizungu kwaye unqatshelwe ingqalelo, unokuzama ukumtsala ngokwakhe ngale ndlela. Ngokuqhelekileyo, ekhokelwa yilo sizathu, intombazana inokumelana nokuzama ukuzibulala, kuba eqinisweni, ukufa akusiyo icebo lakhe.
- Ukunyanzelisa. Ngenjongo yokuxhaphaza abathandekayo, kukho ukukhohlisa, ukuzama ukuphuma ebomini. "Nangu ndiya kufa - kwaye uya kuqonda indlela engalunganga ngayo", umntwana ucinga. Ukuba iinzame ezinjalo ziya kufana nokufa kwangempela, ngoko ke xa kwenzeka ukunganakwa.
- Ukuvakalelwa kobulize. Kuye, baninzi bahlangana nabaselula abasengozini, benentlangano yokomoya. Ihlabathi eliyinkimbinkimbi elingaphakathi kunzima kubantu abadala ukuba baqonde, oontanga abawwamkeli kwaye bawucinge nje.
Kufuneka nini ukuba usondele ekubeni usondele?
Ukuzibulala intsha ingaba yocetywayo, ingqiqo, kwaye ihamba ngokukhawuleza, ifuthe. Ngokuqhelekileyo zilandelwa zibonakaliso ezilandelayo:
- Umntwana uvaliwe, akanalo abahlobo kwaye akanakunyaniseki nabazali bakhe.
- Umntwana ngokukhawuleza ubonakala engenakukhathalela nokungakhathaleli kuyo yonke into.
- Umntwana uthandekile kwi-hypochondria, ucinga "izifo" ezigugu.
- Umntwana udonsa imifanekiso kwiingcamango aze abuze malunga noko kuya kwenzeka xa efa.
- Umntwana ngokukhawuleza uqala ukusasaza kubahlobo kunye nabaziwayo izinto ezixabisekileyo kuye.
Yonke le miqondiso impawu eziphazamisayo. Ngokuqhelekileyo oku kubonisa ukuba umntwana usele wayigqiba yonke into kwaye ngoku uceba kwaye ukhetha ixesha.
Ukuthintela ukuzibulala phakathi kwabaselula kuyinto ebalulekileyo kubazali. Kubalulekile ukuqapha isimo sengqondo nokuziphatha komntwana, ukuba uqaphele utshintsho olwenzekayo. Ukuze uphephe intlekele, kubalulekile ukususela ekuzaleni ukudala ubudlelwane obuthembayo kwintsapho. Musa ukugxotha iingxaki zezingane, nokuba zibonakala ngathi ziyingxaki - umntwana kule akhawunti ngombono ohlukileyo. Fundisa umntwana ukuba aveze iimvakalelo zakhe, kwaye akayi kuvaliwe, kuba lo mzekelo ubalulekile - bonisa oko uvakalelwa ngako.
Khumbula ukuba umntwana osemtsha makangesabi ukwabelana nawe iingxaki kunye namava. Ulwalamano olushushu, ukuthembela kunye nokwamkeleka okungenasisiseko kunokuthintela ingxaki yokuzibulala phakathi kwabaselula.