Ngeklasi yokuqala, abantwana bahlalisana nabantu, kungakhathaliseki ukuba bayayifunayo okanye ayifuni. Kwaye ukuba indawo kwindawo yeqela kufuneka ilwe. Yilapho umntwana eqala ukuloba imizekelo eyahlukeneyo yokuziphatha kwentlalo. Luhlobo luni lwe-niche kwiqela eliza kuthatha umntwana lixhomekeke kubazali.
Iqhuba elimhlophe
Ukuba abazali bomxhaphazi kufuneka bahlale bezithethelela ngokuziphatha kwabantwana babo, oomama kunye nabazali babo "amaxhoba" kufuneka bafundise ngokukhawuleza umntwana ukuba akhuphe. Ukuba umntwana uphukisiwe esikolweni, ukukhwaza kuyathintela ingqondo yakhe ingekho ngendlela engcono. Kodwa isizathu sihlala silapho, nangona kunzima ukuyifumana. Ngokwenene, umntwana uhlaselwa esikolweni ngenxa yeempawu zobume bobukeka, impumelelo yemfundo, intetho engaqhelekanga okanye izinto azigqokayo.
Abazali baya kuqonda ngokukhawuleza ukuba umntwana uyayigxeka esikolweni. Ukuvalwa, ukuziphatha kakubi, izibonakaliso zomzimba (i-abrasions, izibhamu, iipokotshi eziqhekekileyo), ukungafuni ukuya esikolweni. Udinga ukuthetha ngokuthe ngqo naye. Nangona kunjalo, ukuba utitshala uphonsela umntwana, oyikayo, ngoko kuya kuba nzima ukufezekisa inyaniso.
Yintoni endiyenzayo?
Ukuqaphela izibonakaliso ze-alamu okanye ukuva iintsilelo ze-schoolboy, ekuqapheliseni ukuba umntwana uyalimala, abazali abahlali bazi ukuba benzani. Impembelelo ngqo kubantu abahlukumezayo ingangcima nje imeko yomntwana, kuba bonke abantu bayabambelela kwileyibhile yokunyelisa.
Utshintsho lwesikolo aluyi kutshintsha nantoni na. Ukuqonda indlela yokukhusela umntwana kumfundi ofunda nabo, kufuneka umele aqale ukungawutyesheli le ngxaki. Kufanelekile ukuzama ukuthetha nootitshala nabazali bamxhaphazi bakhe, kwaye kwezinye iimeko akuyi kuba yingozi ukufaka isicelo sokuthotyelwa komthetho. Oku kusebenza ngokukodwa xa kuziwa kubafundi bezikolo eziphakamileyo. Umntwana wakho kufuneka aboniswe kwingcali yengqondo. Ingcali iza kumnceda ukuba azithembe.