Isimo sengqondo kumama-mkhwenkwe ngumxholo obuhlungu we-anecdotes, amabhayisikobho kunye namabali avela kwiimvanoveli zentombi. Kuye kwenzeka, kude kube kude ukuba ngaphambi kokuba indiza ingacasuliwa abafazi bafikelela kwi-rubrikhi yeentengiso "bathathe umsebenzi onobungozi." Kodwa konke oku kunako, ukuba kungagwenywa, ubuncinane ukunciphisa iziphumo zokunxibelelana. Ngokubanzi, funda kwaye uphefumlelwe ngcebiso malunga nendlela yokulahla uninazala. Qaphela!
1. Ukuba awunalo umkhwekazi osemthethweni okwangoku, kodwa sele sele "unako" ukukhawuleza ukuxubusha ikusasa lakho kunye nabathembekileyo bakho - yenza ukuba kucace ngokucacileyo ubudlelwane emva komtshato, kwimisebenzi yakho kunye nendima "yeendwendwe" ekhaya lakho: ngubani amalungelo, amandla kwaye, ngokubaluleke kakhulu, apho umgca. Emva kokuba uvumelene kwangaphambili, uya kuphepheka iintlungu, izihlazo, iinyembezi kunye nokuqhawula umtshato.
2. Xa umbuzo wokukrazula umama- mkhwenkqisayo awusayikucinga, kodwa ke iphupha lakho elibi kakhulu, ngoko umyeni wakho kufuneka abe ngumlingani oyintloko. Ukuba awunaso ixesha, "unina" wakhe uya kumthabatha. Hlela ingxoxo enyanisekileyo uze umcele ukuba aphendule imibuzo ethile:
- Ngubani ojongene nenhlalakahle yentsapho yakho - unomyeni wakho okanye uninazala?
- ngubani oyinkosikazi endlwini yakho - wena okanye umama wakho?
- Unamalungelo awuninawo umama wakho ekhaya, ingaba amandla akhe angenelela ngaphaya kwezipho kubazukulwana bakhe kunye nemihlangano ebusika, ebomini bakho kunye nobudlelwane bakho ?
- lithetha ntoni ukuvumela ukuba usebenze, ukuze ubeke onke amanqaku angentla "kunye" kunye noninazala?
Akunamsebenzi ukubuza yonke le mibuzo xa uhlala nonina endlwini yakhe. Qonda, ibhinqa kunaliphi na ubudala lihlala liyingqinikazi, elikhusela ummandla wayo. Unelungelo lokukuvumela ukuba ungene ekhitshini, uhlambulule igumbi lakhe, ufunde kwaye ugxeke okuqulethwe ngaye, akunike nje icebiso, kodwa imiyalelo kunye nemiyalelo, njalonjalo kule moya ... Kuphela kwintsimi yakho unelungelo kuye ukulwa, kuphela apho iindwendwe, kwaye kungekhona inkosikazi epheleleyo. Ngaphantsi kwelinye uphahla abesibini abafazi abakho.