Khumbula umfundi, i-Komsomol kwaye, ekugqibeleni, nje ubuhle, i heroine yefilimu ethi "iCaucasus Captive"? Kungenxa yokuba wayenenhlanhla embi, ukutshata ngokunyanzeliswa, ngaphandle kwemvume kwaye engenalo uthando. Kodwa inhlanhla iselungile, yahlangula uShurik wayo onesibindi, kwaye kungekhona loo nto ... Nangona kunjalo, kwaye yintoni eyenzekayo? Ewe, wayeza kutshata, kwaye emva kwexesha wayeza kufaka inkundla enkundleni, ngoko bathi, kwaye ke, phantsi kokunyanzeliswa kwesi siganeko kwenzeka, kufuneka kulungiswe ...
Ubomi - into engaqinisekanga, kunye nomtshato - nangakumbi. Omnye utshata ngothando, umntu ngokubalwa, kwaye umntu ukhohlisiwe, wanyanzeliswa, wathi: "Kwakunjalo!". Okokugqibela, ewe, ihlaya.
Kodwa yintoni enokuyenza kwimeko apho omnye womtshato esafuna ukuqonda umtshato njengento engavumelekanga, makhe sibone. Okokuqala, inkqubo yokuqaphela ukungabikho nto ihluke ngokusuka kumtshato (umtshato). Nangona kunjalo ukuba zombini le nkqubo iqhutyelwa enkundleni, inkqubo yokwenza izigqibo zenkundla kunye nemiphumo yomtshato, okanye kunoko, "ikhefu" layo liya kuhluka. Okwesibini, kulula ukuhlukanisa umlingane kunokuba ufumane ubungqina obuyimfuneko bokungabikho komtshato, ubhale ngokuchanekileyo ingxelo yesibango, ungalibali malunga nemali yeburhulumente kunye nexabiso "elijikelezayo" olinike kummeli kwimicimbi yentsapho, ngaphandle kwayo, .
Ngaphambi kokuba uqhubeke nale nkqubo, kubalulekile ukugqiba isigqibo sokuba uyafuna oku, kwaye nokuba kuya kuba kuhle kuwe. Kwaye kubaluleke ngakumbi ukuba ufumane indlela yokuqonda umtshato njengengavumelekanga.
Kwaye, ngokwenene, isiseko ..?
Ukuba usagqiba kwelo nyathelo, ke izizathu zokubona umtshato njengento engavumelekanga. Kukho iimeko ezithile, ukugcinwa okuyimfuneko ngexesha lomtshato. Ukuqatshelwa kwento engenakwenziwa kuqhutyelwa isigqibo senkundla xa kwenzeka ukuba le miqathango yaphulwa.
Imimiselo yokuqaphela umtshato njengento engavumelekanga ingaba ngale ndlela:
- umtshato onyanzelekileyo. Umtshato wangena, kodwa kwabakho ukuba akukho mvume yokuzithandela ukutshata, ngokucacileyo, uSathana wayithatha;
- umtshato, apho iqabane elincinci lingenalo / linemvume ka rhu lumente wengingqi;
- xa umntu / umntu sele esele kwenye yomtshato obhalisiweyo. Yintoni endingayithethayo, ndiyilibale, mhlawumbi, ngomtshato wabo wokuqala okanye ingcamango engenayo;
- umtshato phakathi kwezihlobo eziseduze;
- umtshato phakathi kwabantu abanobudlelwane bomntu owamkelweyo kunye nommkeli;
- umtshato nomhlali ongekho mthethweni ongenakukhubazeka kwakhe;
- umtshato nomntu onesifo esifana nokusuleleka ngu-HIV okanye isifo esithathelwana ngesondo kwaye uye wagxotha omnye umntu ngale nyaniso;
- umtshato oyinyaniso, apho umntu / umntu otshata ngaphandle kwenjongo yokwakha intsapho. Mhlawumbi i-propiska idinga ngokukhawuleza okanye enye into, inqunywe ukunceda umhlobo ...
Into ephambili kukukhumbula ukuba awuyi kukwazi ukuqonda umtshato wakho njengento engavumelekanga kwiminqweno yeemali. Umthetho ujoliswe ekunciphiseni iimvavanyo ezinjalo. Oku kuhlawulwa kwaye akunakunqunqwa. Ewe, ukuba usenqwenela ngokwenene, zama - ungathuthuli, uthathe ithuba. Kodwa musa ukuthetha kamva ukuba awuzange ucetyiswe ...
Ukuqulunqa
Xa umtshato uthathwa njengongento kwaye zonke iingxaki zalo mgaqo sele ziphelile ngokwabo, lixesha lokucinga ngemiphumo. Ngokungathandabuzekiyo, ngaphandle kokuphazamiseka kwemihlaba kunye nezitya eziphukileyo, kuya kuba neminye imiphumo yokuqonda umtshato ongenanto. Makhe sicinge ngale miphumo ukusuka kwindlela yokujonga ubudlelwane bomthetho:
- okokuqala, onke amalungelo kunye neemfanelo ezibangelwa ngumtshato ongavumelekanga ukuba ziphele, kwaye ezitsha, ezibangelwa ukupheliswa kobudlelwane obunjalo, avuki;
- Okwesibini, ukungabikho komtshato akuchaphazeli amalungelo abantwana abazalelwa emtshatweni, umphumo wale nto unokuba noxanduva lokugcinwa kwezinto eziphathekayo kunye ne-alimony;
- Okwesithathu, ukwahlula kwipropati yabatshatileyo ekuqatshelweni komtshato akuvumelekanga ngenye indlela ngaphandle kwimeko yomtshato. Ipropati iya kuphathwa njengobulungisa. Ngalo mbuzo kuya kufuneka uqikelele ixesha elide kunye nelibuhlungu. Ukongeza, ngaphandle kwegqwetha elifanelekileyo, kuyacaca isidingo ...
Nantsi le nto, ixesha elide elindelweyo xa umtshato wakho ususwe ngokupheleleyo. Emva kokuba inkundla ifumene ingavumelekile, unokuphefumula ngokuthula. Kwaye kamva, xa ugcwalisa nawaphi na amaxwebhu, kwikholam "isimo somtshato", unokubonisa ngokuqinisekileyo ukuba awusatshatanga. Nento esikuvuyisayo. Kwaye, ungayifunanga nto?