Akukho nentsapho inokuyenza ngaphandle kwempikiswano, nayiphi na ingavumelani. Ukungavisisani kungaba phakathi kwamalungu onke osapho, yaye ngokuqhelekileyo oku kwenzeka phakathi kwabatshatileyo. Ngoko ke, ukuba ufuna ukugcina uxolo ekhaya lakho, akuyi kuba yinto engafanelekanga ukuba neengcamango zomtshato njengoko kunjalo, kunye nezindlela zokuzisombulula.
Iimbangela eziphambili zeengxabano zomtshato
Kubalulekile ukukhumbula ukuba kwiingxabano phakathi kwabatshatileyo akukho nto yokwanela kwaye ngoko ingxabano yabo iyinto engathandabuzekiyo. Kodwa usebenza njengomngcipheko: kwiimeko ezininzi iingxabano ezincinci azinikezelwa ngokufanelekileyo, kwaye oku, kudala, kudala izikhalazo ezininzi.
Iingxaki zengxabano zomtshato zi:
- Esinye sezizathu eziphambili zokwahlukana kwintsapho kwintsebenziswano yengqondo. Umntu ngamnye unobandlululo, izithethe, imigaqo kunye ngamanye amaxesha nabalingane abathandanayo, abanako ukuhambelana neempawu ezithile zomnye.
- Utshutshiso lwentsapho. Le ngenye yezizathu ezinzulu kakhulu kwaye ukunyaniseka okwenziweyo kwesi senzo kunokumiselwa yinkwenkwezi okanye xa umtshato ongenawo umvakalelo uthetha ngale nto kunye nomnye.
- Uthando okanye ungathandi? Njengoko kuyaziwa, ubudlelwane banamaqela amaninzi okuphuhliswa, kwaye xa isigaba sokuthandana nothando olungagwenxa, kwiintsapho ezincinane, iingxabano zomtshato zolu hlobo zinokuvela. Yaye xa iimvakalelo zothando ziguquka kwelinye ifomu, kunokubonakala ngathi enye yezithandabuzo ukuba akukho nto yangaphambili. Kule meko, ukuziphatha kwamalingani kuxhomekeke kwisimo sabo sengqondo. Ngoko ke, umntu ongenakucingisisa, uhlaselwa kwiimeko ezixinezelekileyo. Kwaye omnye umntu ubeka iimfuno eziphezulu kakhulu kumntu othandekayo, ngenxa yoko, iingxabano zizalelwa.
Isixazululo semibango yomtshato
Hlanganisa nezi ngcebiso ezilandelayo, ukuba ufuna ukuxabana kwentsapho phakathi kwakho nentanda yakho ayiyi kuba yimpikiswano yomtshato:
- Ungaze uhambe kubuntu ngexesha lokungavumelani. Khumbula ukuba iqabane liza kuhlala liphendula ngokugxeka okufanayo, kwaye oku kuya kuqhubekisela phambili imeko.
- Ngexesha lokuxabana, akufanele uzalise ukuziphatha komlingane ngegama elithi "awutshintshwanga" okanye "soloko unjalo".
- Ingaba imbangela yongquzulwano yangoku enye? Ngoko akuyimfuneko ukuxoxa ngenye enye ngexesha lempikiswano.
Kuwe, into ephambili ngethuba ukufumana ukuqonda okufanayo, kwaye ungafaki umlilo kumlilo. - Fumana isibindi sokuvuma ukuba uyiphutha.
- Yibambe kwaye ungayi kutyhila yonke into eqokelelwe ngokuhlwa. Isizathu salo kuphela yodwa: kwisiqingatha sesibini semini yonke into embi oye wayibamba ngexesha losuku lonke liqokelela. Kwaye ngamanye amaxesha umyeni wam akabandakanyeki nakuyo yonke into.
- Ungalokothi ungquzulane ebusweni bomntu wesithathu.
- Ukuba sele usuqala ukuxabana, khetha isigqibo, yintoni ofuna ukuyifumana nayo.