Ubuhle besifazana, njengawo onke into ehlabathini - luhlala ixesha elifutshane. Ngesinye isikhathi, kwanona inkunzi enomnqweno omkhulu kunye nenkululeko inkululeko ivela kunye nembono yokuba ixesha lokutshata. AmaMommies, ehamba ngokukhawuleza nabahambahamba ngesitrato, abasabonakaliyo abo bachitha ubuncinci babo, kwaye nangona kunjalo, bayaba nomona, kwaye imoto yomtshato kunye neentsimbi kunye neetrabhoni ezibonakaliswa kuyo yonke into ayinomsindo, kwaye zibangelwa yinto ephilileyo yokuvalelwa.
Ewe, ukuba ngokwenene ufuna ukutshata, kufuneka ufumane umyeni ngokukhawuleza. Indlela yokwenza ngayo - akuyona umbuzo wokuqala, okokuqala kufuneka unqume ngokuthe ngqo, kutheni ukukhawulezisa le nkqubo: ixesha "liqinisa" okanye ngaba liqhelekileyo ngelixa?
Kutheni utshatile ngokukhawuleza?
Kubalulekile ukuphendula lo mbuzo ngokwakho. Inyani kukuba ukukhawuleza ekwenzeni izigqibo ezinzulu akusoloko kunenzuzo, ngoko ke, ukukhetha ngokukhawuleza kwendoda kunye nokubhalisa "ukukhanya ngokukhawuleza" kubhalisi kungaguqukana ngokuqhawula ngokukhawuleza. Hlola izizathu ezizimeleyo kunye nezizathu, kwaye ukuba zinyani kakhulu, kwaye ingozi yokudala intsapho nomntu ongaqhelekanga ayikukhathazi, ngoko sifunda ngokukhawuleza izinto ezilandelayo ukutshata.
Indlela yokutshata ngokukhawuleza nangempumelelo?
Ukuphumelela kule nkalo akulula: ezininzi izinto ezingenakuqwalaselwa: akukho mntu uyazi oko kuya kukonyulwa kwiminyaka eyi-10, kwaye ukhetho lwakho lwexesha elizayo, kunzima kunzima ukuqikelela. Ngako oko, umqathango oyintloko wokukhetha umlingane kukuthi ufanelwe nawe ngoku. Ukuba kukho iincinci "ezincinci" - ayikayiki, zikho konke. Kodwa ukuba uqaphela emva kwakhe i-penchant yobunxila, uomatshini wokugembula, umlutha weziyobisi okanye isimo sengqondo sokuxhatshazwa ngokwesini-siphume kuye.
Yintoni lakho iqhawe?
Ukutshata ngempumelelo, qwa lasela la madoda:
- ohlakaniphile kunye nolwazi (oluhle kumsebenzi);
- Uthanda izilwanyana (kungekhona umntu onenkohlakalo);
- ububele (akuyi kuba neengxaki, ezifana "zenzele ingubo entsha");
- enoxanduva (ayiyi kwakwakha ukukhutshwa komoya kwaye uthembisa oko kungenakwenziwa - kuya kuba nobukhohlisi obuncinane);
- ukukhuthaza (emva kweminyaka emihlanu yomtshato awuyi kuba nomvakalelo yokuba utshatile "intambo ye-infusoria" - into elula kakhulu kunye nobomi obuzimeleyo kunye nemiphumo elandelayo).
Ukuba udibana nomntu ubuncinane iimpawu ezintathu zokuqala, ke le sihlandlo sokucinga ngomtshato naye.
Unokukhawuleza ukufumana umyeni?
Abantu - njengewayini, banyamezele ixesha. Ngoko uqaphele ngesigqibo esiphuthumayo.
Ekubeni ubomi bungenakulinganiswa, kwaye ngokwenene, unokukwazi ukudibana nomyeni wakho kwindalo, uze wenze ubomi bakho busebenze ngakumbi: hamba kwi-cafe, ukwakha amehlo (ubukeka obuhle iiyure ezingama-24 ngosuku, akukho mntu ukhanselekileyo), kwii-excursions, imibukiso, i-rollerdromes, ii-cinema kunye nezinye iindawo zoluntu, ngelizwi, ukwandisa amathuba okuhlangana nomntu ofanelekileyo.
Iphulo: 21% yezibini zifumana iqabane labo elizayo, i-27% yezibini kwiindawo zoluntu, kwaye i-16% yezibini ziqhelana nabantu abaqhelekileyo. Ngenxa yoko isiphetho: sinxibelelana ngakumbi, sisoloko senza "ukukhangela ekukhanyeni" kwaye sijonge oogxa bethu.
Indlela yokutshata ngokukhawuleza?
Xa umntu efunyanwa, evivinywa, aze ahlangabezane neemfuno ezincinci, kufuneka aqinisekiswe ukuba atshate. Nazi ezinye iingcebiso malunga nendlela yokutshata ngokukhawuleza:
- Funda umzekelo womfazi wakhe (kungekhona ukuqonda okuphefumlelweyo kwindoda efanelekileyo, okokuba ngumfazi onokulungele ukuyisebenzisa ubomi bakhe bonke).
- Nangona iingcamango zakhe malunga nomfazi azifani neyakho, yenza ngathi: uze uphinde wenze "ngendlela yakho."
- Yenza uvuyo kwaye ungabi nxinzelelo kakhulu: kungakhathaliseki ukuba ufuna ukutshata, kodwa awukwazi ukuvumela ezininzi kwiintsuku zokuqala zonxibelelwano.
Yintoni kwaye ngubani onokukunceda ukutshata ngokukhawuleza?
Izinto ezimbalwa eziza kukhawuleza umtshato:
- ixabiso elimnandi nelimnandi;
- ukupheka okuphekiweyo;
- indlu ehlambulukileyo kunye nephefumle apho uhlala khona: makumfumene ukuba uyindoda enomdlakazi kwaye uyazi indlela yokwenza isidleke esithambileyo nakwi "kennel edibeneyo" apho ufuna ukuhlala ngonaphakade.
Abantu abanokukunceda ufikelele ngokukhawuleza:
- Abazali: kufuneka babonise ukuba bayonwabile kunye nabakhethiweyo kwaye sele bebathanda "umkhwenyana wesikhathi esizayo";
- Abahlobo: aba bantu kufuneka bakwenze kucace ukuba unokuchitha ixesha kunye nabo.
Ukuqonda ubugcisa "bomtshato osheshayo" akulula, kodwa ukulandela ezi ngcebiso, uzakukhawulezisa ukukhangela kwakho kwaye ukwazi ukuguqulela iphupha lakho.