Ukuphula i-idyll phakathi kwabatshatileyo banokwenza nantoni na. Ubomi bentsapho obonwabileyo bunokubanjelwa ingxabano, ukungaboni kakuhle, umona kunye nokungcatsha. Okukugqibela "kunzima". Siza kuthetha ngeempawu zokungathembeki kwamadoda namhlanje.
Kutheni oku kwenzekayo?
Ubuqhetseba bukhohlisayo. Ukudibanisa nesenzo esinjalo kwisithandwa somntu othandayo akusoloko esalindelekile kwaye ebuhlungu. Ngaphambi kokuthetha ngeempawu zokungcatshiswa komyeni wakhe, kufuneka siqonde izizathu zalo mkhuba.
Kutheni amadoda atshintsha? Akunakwenzeka ukuphendula lo mbuzo ngokungathandabuzekiyo:
- Isizathu sisowesifazane. Kuphi umtshato - kukho abantwana. Ubusuku obuthongo, ukungabi nako kwexesha elibi, ukupheka rhoqo, ukucocwa, ukutshiza-apho ufumana ixesha? Umtshato "uvavanyo lwangempela". Le ndoda iyafuna ukubona umfazi omhle, ohlambulukileyo, othobileyo ekhaya. Kodwa inyaniso ayikufunanga. Kwiinkxalabo zemihla ngemihla, umfazi ulahlekelwa ukukhanya kwakhe, aphelise ngokupheleleyo abantwana kwaye unakekele indlu. Ungathini kulo mzekelo? Okokuqala, indoda kufuneka iqonde ukuba eli xesha kufuneka lifumaneke. Kodwa ininzi yomsebenzi, kwakhona, kuya kufuneka yenziwe ngumfazi. Cela uncede unina, udade okanye intombi. Vumela abanye babo bahlale kunye nosana ixesha elithile. Ngeemeko ezinjalo, thatha ithuba lokuzinyamekela: uhlambe, yenza imaski yokuzicoca, u-manicure, i-pedicure. Hlangana nomthandana wakho njengokungathi uhamba naye nomhla. Zithobe kunye naye.
- Ku malunga nokuziphatha. Ukukhanga kwangaphandle akunako ukuhlawulela ukwesaba ekuziphatheni nasekuhambeni kwexesha. Amadoda akakwazi ukumelana nokumemeza nokubetha izitya. Zama ukulawula iimvakalelo zakho neemvakalelo zakho. Musa "ukuxhatshaza" intanda yakho ngentanda, uhlale ufumanisa ubuhlobo kwaye wenze ibango. Umtshato ngumsebenzi onzima apho kufuneka uhlangane kunye.
- Isizathu sisendoda. Kubonakala sengathi utshatile "yodwa," kwaye amehlo akhe aphikisiwe. Akukho nto enokuyenza, amadoda ahluke. Omnye usetyenziswe ukuhlambalalela kwindoda, ukuthanda nothando, kwaye akanakulungele ukuxhamla kunye novuyo lobomi. Umanizer, uDon Juan, okanye uCasanova - engabalulekanga, la madoda angabonwa ngokukhawuleza. Indoda yamantombazana akayi kuphinda afundise, kwaye awuyi kukwazi ukutshintsha bonke abafazi bakhe. Uyazi ukuba ubani otshatayo, ngoko kuya kufuneka ubekezele.
Ukususela kwi-clouding yesikhashana yengqondo, akukho mntu u-insured. Indoda inokushiya intsapho, kodwa kwiimeko ezininzi amadoda abuya. Njengoko bethetha, iinqongo zibetha umsila, okanye uMtyholi uyakhohliswa. Okanye mhlawumbi ubunzima bexesha eliphakathi kukugweba.
Ukwazisa
Impawu zokuqala zokungcatsha komntu zibonakala ngokukhawuleza:
- Uziva ukuba indoda iyahamba "ishiye". Intuition izama ukukunika uphawu, mhlawumbi lufanele ukuphulaphula;
- lakho iqabane liyakukulahla embhedeni. Ngaphambili, oku kwakungenjalo, yaye kungekudala sele kubanda;
- akunqabile ukuncoma, akayi kuhlamba kunye nawe, akabonakali nantoni na into ekhethekileyo ekusebenzeni ngokubambisana kwexesha.
Ngaloo minye impawu yokungcatsha komyeni wakhe kunokuthiwa ixesha elide. Kwimeko nganye kukho iimeko ezizodwa. Ukungangqinelani nokuziphatha komlingane kunzima ukungaqapheli. Kufuneka uqaphele oku kulandelayo:
- ukutshatyalaliswa kokungahambi kakuhle komntu;
- ukucaphukisa ngenxa yezizathu na ngaphandle;
- ukungaqiniseki kwingxoxo;
- ingqiqo;
- izizathu ezingenangqondo zezenzo nezenzo zabo;
- ububele obungenangqondo.
Imiqondiso enjalo yokukrexeza, njengemilenze emilenzeni kunye neentambo zamabhinqa kwipokethi yengubo - le ngongoma ye-hackneyed ye-anecdotes. Ebomini, amadoda ahlakaniphile kwaye anengqiqo. Ukuba umntu wabuya "washiya", akunakwenzeka ukuba ufumane malunga nalo. Yena, njengoko bethetha, wenza ishishini aze ahambe ngesibindi, ngokuchanekileyo, watshintsha ingqondo yakhe kwaye wazincama. Ukuba ukutshutshiswa kuye kwandula, umyeni uthathe inkosikazi, kule ngxaki kufuneka uzimisele: mhlawumbi kunye naye okanye ngaphandle kwakhe. Unokulinda, okwenyaniso, ixesha elithile, kodwa kufuneka unqume into into efanayo. Zihloniphe kwaye unakekele intsapho yakho.