Wena kunye wenze izicwangciso zekamva. Bakha isidleke sabo, mhlawumbi, sele beba ngumama nobawo. Ababoni basibonile iminyaka emininzi. Kwaye ngokukhawuleza, njengobunqabileyo obuvela eluhlaza okwesibhakabhaka: umyeni ubika ukuba uyamthanda omnye, kwaye yena, omnye, uqala ukuba ngumncinci.
Ixesha elidlulileyo lihlala libuhlungu ngokukodwa kwiqhayiya lethu. Kubonakala ngathi into yokuba umyeni ushiye intsapho ibonakala ibalulekile, kodwa kubonakala kuwe ukuba le meko ibangela ukuba ahambe ngendlela engafanelekiyo. Uyazi kwangaphambili ukuba ngasemva umva wakho uza kuhleka njani ngento yokuba indoda ayizange ihambe nje, kodwa ibe yincinane.
Ngezihlandlo ezinjalo, kunzima ukugxeka iminyaka yakho yonke into. Njengoko, iminyaka ithathe umthwalo wabo, kwaye isibuko siyakuthandayo. Kwaye wena, njengowesifazane, ungabonakali nantoni na kuwe, kuba, ukuze umntu angathethi ngamava kunye nobudala bukaBalza, ubomi babonisa ukuba ulutsha luye lwabalalisa zonke ezinye iingeniso ezifunyenwe kule minyaka.
Zizo ngcamango eziyingozi kakhulu. Yeka. Akusikho kwiminyaka yakho, ngokuchanekileyo, kungekhona kuphela kuyo. Musa ukutshintsha uxanduva malunga noko kwenzekayo kwintsapho yakho. Kukho iindlela ezimbini: mhlawumbi umyeni wakho uyamthanda nomnye umfazi (kutheni akukho mntu uhlaselwe ngomshuwalense), okanye ubuhlobo bakho sele bube luhlobo oluthile lokuqhekeka, olwenzela ukuvuza.
Indoda ayizange ifunyenwe nje insizwa, yafumana into ayinayo:
- mxatyiswa. Ngangaphi na esiya kusiqonda isidima somyeni njengento ethile. Umntu ubaluleke kakhulu, kwaye lowo unamandla amakhulu kuye, uyamkhwelisa;
- ngqalelo. Ubomi bemihla ngemihla, sihlala sikhohlwe ukuba kungekhona abantwana kuphela kodwa umyeni ufuna ukunakekelwa kunye nokunakekelwa;
- umsebenzi wesondo. Akukho zivakalisi;
- lwakho uthando. Ukuba udala uvala ukubonakala kwakho, ngaba uyazibuza ukuba umyeni wakhe washiya ebantwaneni kunye nentle. Uthando lokwenene lukhanga abanye abantu abanjengombane.
Xa indoda ingenayo ngokwaneleyo yentla ngasentla, ihlala iphazamiseka ngumntu oneminyaka engama-kati ubudala, kwaye ifuna ukubuyela kwisangqa sobutsha kunye nokuzonwabisa. Kodwa ke wena kunye nosapho, ukuze unqobe bonke ubomi buhlangene.