Xa kunzima ukuhlala kunye nomntu ondibathandayo kunzima ukuhlala, yaye ngokuqhelekileyo le meko ixinzelelekile. Kukho iingcebiso ezininzi zeengqondo ezixhala ukuba ungakhohlwa ngokukhawuleza umntu emva kokuhlukana kwaye uqale isigaba esitsha sokuphila. Ingxaki yabasetyhini abaninzi kukuba kunzima kubo ukuba babeke ingqiqo, benethemba lokubuya komntu othandekayo.
Ungayibala njani umhlobo wakho emva kokuhlukana?
Iphutha eliqhelekileyo likhumbule indlela elungileyo ngayo indoda yangaphambili, indlela owachitha ixesha kunye, njl. Kubalulekile ukubeka zonke iimvakalelo kunye nokujonga imeko ngaphandle. Gxininisa kwixesha elibi, ukugqithisa ukuba ukuhlukana kwesisigqibo esifanelekileyo.
Kulabo abanomdla wokuba bakhohlwe ngonaphakade intanda yakho, kuyafaneleka ukunika isiluleko esisodwa esibalulekileyo - velisa iimvakalelo. Abasetyhini benza okuhlukileyo, ngoko ke umntu ufune ukukhala kumhlobo osondeleyo, ngelixa abanye bakhetha ukubetha umququzo okanye ukukhala. Enye inketho - bhala umntu owakuthandayo unobumba, apho uthetha yonke into engqondweni yakho, kwaye ke, uyitshise.
Kha wuleza kwaye ungalibalali umhlobo wakho ngonaphakade:
- Iingcebiso ezibaluleke kakhulu ezenziwa ngabafundi bezengqondo. Khumbula ukuba le yindlela yodwa yokufumana inhlonipho kunye nothando kwabanye.
- Sula isikhala sezinto ezinokungenani uxhumano kunye nolwalamano lwangaphambili.
- Vumela umtshintsho wokuqonda, ngoko fumana into enokuyenza. Ingaba ngumsebenzi, umdlalo, ukuhamba, ukulungisa, njl.
- Ukufumanisa ukuba ngokukhawuleza ukulibala indoda ayinakunakunyuswa njengalinyathelo elibalulekileyo - utshintsho. Bhalisa kwi-salon enobuhle apho unokutshintsha khona iinwele zakho, funda indlela yokwenza ukulungelelaniswa okufanelekileyo, njl. Hamba ukuyothenga ukuhlaziya ikhabethe lakho. Qinisekisa ukuthenga izinto ode waziphupha.
- Musa ukuhlala wedwa uze uzame ukusebenzisa ixesha elikhululekile kunye nabantu abasondeleyo. Oku kuya kunceda ukuphazamisa nokuqonda ukuba ihlabathi alithethi kumntu omnye.
- Abaninzi baphila ngomgaqo - "i-wedge ikhawuleza", kodwa eqinisweni le ndlela iqhinga lisebenza kancinci kwaye kuphela ukuba iimvakalelo zomntu owayengumthandi wangaphambili azihlali. Kufuneka ukuba unike ixesha lokufuduka kwixesha elidlulileyo kwaye ulungiselele inyathelo elitsha.
Ngokukhawuleza okanye kamva kuza kuza ixesha apho kubalulekile ukuqokelela ubudlelwane obudlulileyo kunye nokujonga imeko esele ihlalile. Kubalulekile ukufumana izigqibo ukuba ungaphinda wenze amaphutha kwakhona.