Umama, othe wanquma ukunika intombi yakhe emtshatweni, akulula: ngoku ayikho ixesha apho umnqweno wabazali yinjongo enkulu yomtshato osondele. Nangona kunjalo, oku akusiyo isizathu sokubuya. Ukuba uqhubeka ucinga ngendlela yokukhawuleza unike intombi ukutshata, makhe sizame ukubona oko kukuthintela ukuba uzalise umnqweno wokuba ngumkhwekazi, kamva, ugogo.
Inombolo yengxaki 1. Intombi ayifuni ukutshata, nangona, ngoluvo lwakho, lixesha elide
Kwiingcebiso ezenziwa ngabafundi bezondo zisezintendeni zokhuphiswano lwabo, ukuba emva kweminyaka engama-30 ukufumana umyeni wakhe kuya kuba nzima kunene, ukuba ukuzalwa kwangasemva akukwazi ukuba kwilizwe lethu, intombi ayiphenduli, okanye idibanise.
Isixazululo:
- hlalutya imeko kwintsapho yakho. Ngaba ulwalamano lwakho nomlingane wakho luba ngumzekelo kwintombi yakho, enokuthanda ukuyenza? Mhlawumbi, akakhange akhangwe yilo themba ayibonayo ebusweni bentsapho yakho. Kwaye ke kulungele ukuqala ngokuphucula i-conjugal "yemozulu." Njengomthetho, abantwana abakhulayo kwimindeni eqinile neyobunye abanalo msebenzi okanye umnqweno wokuhamba "kwindawo yokuqala;
- ukuba wena kunye nomyeni wakho ngokukhawuleza nibhiyozela ijubane legolide, kwaye intombi ehlala iqhayisa ngayo intsapho yakho ayikukhawulezi ukuba yenzele yona, mhlawumbi ihlushwa ngumntu ongathandabuzekiyo okanye ukuthanda othandana naye. Emva koko zonke izikhumbuzo zomtshato wakho ziyamlimaza. Thetha intliziyo yomntwana entliziyweni ukuze ufumene isizathu esiyiyo somfanekiso we-bachelor.
Ingxaki yenombolo 2. Abantombazana abanalo inhlanhla ngamadoda
Indlela yokukhupha intombi emtshatweni, ukuba wonke umntu oqala ukutshata naye, ulahle umntwana othandekayo phakathi kwezinto ezithandwayo?
Isixazululo:
- fumana i "rake". Nangona kunjalo, ndingathanda ukushwankathela imeko, ukuxilongwa okuthandayo "bonke abalimi beebhokhwe", khuphela: umntu okhangela ingxaki efanayo nguye ngokwakhe obangela ukuhluleka okuphindaphindiweyo. Isizathu esinokuba kukuba intombi izama ngamandla "ukuzinika" ukuba isatshatile, kwaye ukuziphatha kwayo kuyabethusa abantu abanezixhobo. Kubalulekile ukuba uyixhase intombi, kodwa ungenzi i-pair yegama lesibini, ukhanyisa ngethemba kunye nokuphelelwa lithemba, emehlweni omntu wonke ekugqibeleni;
- mhlawumbi indodakazi ifanele ivakashele ingcali yeengqondo okanye ithathe inxaxheba ekuqeqesheni okufundisayo okuya kumvumela ukuba enze ukuvakalisa okufanelekileyo;
- ubhalisele ukubonisana nomenzi womfanekiso. Kancinci oko kunika ithemba, njengenguqu yempumelelo yomfanekiso;
- Abantu abanenzondelelo abanomdla bangamothukisa indoda, kodwa umdlalo othakazelisayo ukhangela. Ukudansa kweBhola, imidlalo ye-equestrian, igalofu - izinto ezinjalo zokuzilibazisa ziya kunika nayiphi na intombazana ukuzithemba, ngaphandle koko baya kunceda ukugcina isimo esihle.
Ngoku ukuba uyazi indlela yokunceda intombi yakho ingatshata (ukuba ufuna uncedo), kubalulekile ukuguqula umyeni wakhe kwinkqubo enomdla kwaye uyeke ukwesaba, kuba amadoda akakhethi nje kuphela umfazi kodwa noninazala. Ngamanye amaxesha, kwanele ukutshintsha ingcamango "yendlela yokutshata intombi yakho" ukuba "indlela yokuba ngumkhwekazi omhle", kwaye ngoku awukholwanga yamehlo akho: intombi ishada ...