Namaxesha amaninzi, bafazi, benxungule ubudlelwane obungaphumelelanga, isiseko sazo iimvakalelo zomlilo, sinqume "kodwa, lo mthando, ndiya kutshata ngokubala!". Kodwa ngokuphindaphindiweyo kumantombazana anqwenela ukwenza umtshato ngokubalwa, akhangele, njengokungathi awonakele, angenanto engcwele, ahlamba ngokuvuya kakhulu ngamatye kwaye athiwa ngamazwi ambi. Ingaba yinto ephosakeleyo yenzondelelo okanye iindumiso ezidumile, kwaye umtshato wokulungeleka ngowokugqibela kukuba ngowesifazane kuphela ongazihloneliyo unokugqiba?
Umtshato othandweni okanye ngokulula?
Ekuboneni kokuqala, ubudlelwane bokubala kubonakala buhlazo kwaye buhluke kwizesondo ezenziwa ngabahenyu, kuphela isitampu kwipaspoti. Kodwa oku kuqale ukujonga, kuba ukuba ucinga ngalo, amantombazana aneminyaka elishumi elinesibhozo ubudala abonakaliswe yimvakalelo egijima kwiofisi ye-registrar. Abasetyhini abasebekhulile bacinga ukuba ngaba abo banyulwayo baya kuba nako ukubonelela intsapho, nokuba uya kukunyamekela umfazi kunye nabantwana nokuba uyafuna ukwenza. Kwaye ungacingi ukuba le yintsimi yezintombi ezingenanto engenamdla kunye nezindwendwe, abaninzi abafazi abakhanyayo ngamehlo, ngaphambi kokuba bakhethe ukutshata, ukuba bangazilinganisi zonke iingxaki kunye neengxaki, ngoko bade bacinga ukuba "siza kuphila phi ". Kwaye akukho nto kule ngcamango evukelayo - awuyi kuzaliswa uthando. Ngaphezu koko, kukho amabali amaninzi xa ushada ngaphandle kwemvakalelo ekhethekileyo, kodwa ngokukholelwa ngokunyanisekileyo ukuba indoda iya kuba yindoda enhle, abafazi emva kwesikhashana babethandana naye. Ngoko umtshato ngokubala akubandakanyi uthando, njengoko kudlalwa kakhulu.
Ngoku ngoku siqinisekile ukuba phantse nawuphi na umtshato usekelwe kwingqiqo efanayo kwaye kungekhona othandweni, sinokuthetha ngenguqu yeklasi yomtshato ngokubala.
Ukutshata ngokubala - inzuzo kunye neengxaki
Ngamazwi athi "umtshato ngokubala" kuyisiko ukuqonda ukuphela komanyano womtshato kunye nezibonelelo zamabini omabini. Ngokuqhelekileyo le nzuzo ibhalwe kwisivumelwano somtshato. Ubomi bomtshato onjalo lula njani? Kwaye konke kuxhomekeke ekubeni unqwenele ukutshata kuphela ngemali yendoda okanye yena kunye nawe uhle. Ndiyavuma, ukuhlala nomntu onyanisayo kuwe kunzima, nokuba ngaba kuluhlu lwezinto eziphathekayo awuyi kuba neentloni. Ngokuxhomekeke kakhulu kwisivumelwano somtshato. Ngokuqhelekileyo oomama bahlawula ingqalelo, baxhomekeke kwiingcali zendoda ezayo. Ngoko ke kungakhathaliseki ukuba kunjalo, amagqwetha amenywe ngumlingane ozayo, uya kuba ngowokuqala ukujonga izinto azithandayo, kodwa akukho mntu uyazikhathalela ngokwakho, mhlawumbi, akayi kuba. Ngoko ke, ukulungiswa kwesivumelwano somtshato kufuneka kuthethwe ngokucophelela. Ukongeza, ukutshata nokubala, kufuneka ulungele ezi zinto zilandelayo kwimpilo yomtshato:
- Ulawulo olupheleleyo phezu kwezenzo zomfazi, ukuhamba kwakhe kunye noqhagamshelwano. Yibangelwa kungabangqineli kweqabane, kodwa ngumnqweno wokuqiniseka ukuba abantwana baya kuvela ngqo kuye, kwaye kungekhona kwi-barman ethande umfazi omncinci. Kule meko, umlingane ngokwakhe unqandekile kwiinkcukacha zokubonisa kwaye angacingi, ngaphandle kokuba, ngokuqinisekileyo, ukuchasana akuchazwa kwisivumelwano somtshato. Ngokuqhelekileyo, ukulawula okunjalo kuyanyamalala emva kokuba isibini sifumana umntwana okanye inani elifanelekileyo leendlalifa ezichazwe kwisivumelwano.
- Mhlawumbi ungena kwi "cage golden": iqabane liza kunika yonke into eyimfuneko, kodwa awuyi kuba nelungelo lokuvota. Oku kubangelwa kukuba indoda ibona ibhinqa ibe yinye yezinto ezifunyenweyo, njengento yesilwanyana esilula-ukutya kunye nokunyamekela kubonakala, kodwa ngubani oya kuthethana nesilwanyana? Ewe, le meko yezinto iyakwenzeka kuphela ukuba zonke iimali zijoliswe ezandleni zomyeni.
Kwakhona kunokwenzeka ukuba iqabane lingabonakali kwintsimi yombono wakho, ukuchitha ixesha elininzi kwiindlela zokuhamba kweshishini kunye neentlanganiso zokusebenza. Kodwa abantu abaninzi bathanda le meko - ukuba imali kuphela ekhadini ayipheli.
Kodwa ungacingi ukuba yonke into imbi kakhulu, nangona umtshato weklastiki ulungelelaniso kukho izibonelelo:
- Ukufunyanwa ngamacala omabini afunwayo, kwaye ke, ukuzaliseka ngokupheleleyo kumacala omabini ukusuka kuloo mbambano.
- Apha, ukhetho lokutshatyalaliswa komtshato alufaki, ngaphandle kweemeko ezichazwe kwisivumelwano.