Ngokutsho kweengcali zengqondo, akukho sibini esitshatileyo esisinikwe isiqinisekiso malunga nokunyaniseka, kungakhathaliseki ukuba inani lexesha elidityanisiweyo kunye nokufumaneka kwabantwana. Nangona kunjalo, yonke into ibhinqa lifuna ukuba le nkathazo ibe yinkampani yakhe.
Kutheni amadoda asetshati atshintsha abafazi?
Wonke umfazi ohlala ebhekene nokungcatshiswa komyeni wakhe ufuna ukwazi ukuba bonke abantu bayashintsha kwaye zeziphi izizathu. Le mibuzo yaphendulwa ngabahlali bezentlalo abaye bakwazi ukujonga uhlobo lokungathembeki kwindoda ngokuphanda kwexesha elide.
Izizathu eziphambili zokuba kutheni indoda ithembele kumfazi wayo:
- zendalo zemvelo. Amadoda amaninzi "ahamba ekhohlo" ngenxa yobume bawo besilisa, okuyimfuneko ukuthelekisa abafazi kunye nokufuna okulungileyo. Ukungathembeki okunjalo kwindoda engenzi lutho ngothando;
- imeko eziyingozi. Amadoda amaninzi akopela abafazi bawo ekuhambeni kwezorhwebo, eholide, ekuhambeni kwexesha elide, kumaqela ebhekele. Ingqiqo yenkululeko, amahomoni angamadoda kunye, ngokuqhelekileyo, utywala, ukuphelisa ukuthembeka komtshato;
- rhoqo kwintsapho. Esi sizathu siqhelekile kokubhinqa nowesetyhini. Indoda ephile iminyaka engama-15 kunye nomfazi wayo, ayisayiqapheli indlela yakhe yangaphambili. Ubundlobongela obunzima kunye nobomi bendlu buya kumnyusa umntu ukuba atshintshe;
- isiqhelo esingaqhelekanga. Esi sizathu sisendle kubazali bethu, kodwa, ngelishwa, ngokuphindaphindiweyo kuya kubakho kwintlalo yanamhlanje. Ukuba umyeni utshintshile kunye nendoda, ngokokuba umfazi ukhona enye indlela yokuphuma: ukumshiya ngokuvumela ukuba le nto iphile ubomi bakhe.
Bangaphi amapesenti amadoda aguquka?
Kukholelwa ukuba amadoda atshintsha ngokuphindaphindiweyo kunabesifazane. Mhlawumbi, bekuyiminyaka engama-20 ukuya ku-30 ​​edlulileyo. Kodwa ngokwezifundo zanamhlanje, umfanekiso ushintshile ngokuphawulekayo. Kulungile okanye kakubi, kodwa abafazi bekhulu lama-21 bathanda ukuya ngasekhohlo ngaphantsi kwabayeni babo. Ngokuqhelekileyo, kwizixeko ezahlukahlukeneyo namazwe inani lamadoda angathembekanga kunye nabafazi bahluke. Inendima enkulu kulo mbandela idlala ngokuziphatha kunye nomthetho.
Kwintsimi yelizwe langaphambili le-CIS, malunga nama-40% amadoda atshatileyo atshintsha rhoqo abafazi bawo. Emahhala eMerika naseYurophu, eli nani lifikelela kuma-45%. Phantse i-73% yamadoda esitshatileyo atshintshe abafazi babo ubuncinane kanye. Kula mazwe ahlala kumaSilamsi, inani lamadoda angathembekanga lincinci kakhulu. Ubuqhetseba kula mazwe kuthathwa njengesono esikhulu kwaye sihlwaywe kakhulu ngumthetho.
Uyazi njani ukuba indoda iyatshintsha?
Kukholelwa ukuba umfazi wakhe uyazi malunga nemicimbi yothando yendoda yakhe enye yokugqibela. Enyanisweni, olu lwazi lubuxoki, kuba ukuqonda ukuba indoda iyatshintsha kakhulu umfazi oqapheleyo.
Iindlela zokufumana ukuba umntu uyatshintsha:
- utshintsho olungalindelekanga lwangaphandle kunye nesigqoko;
- umyeni waqala ukuhlala emva emsebenzini;
- umyeni waqala ukuthatha ifowuni yakhe yeselula kwindawo yokuhlambela kwaye uthetha ngengxolo yamanzi;
- umyeni wakhe waqala ukuchitha imali engakumbi ngeendleko ezincinci;
- ukukhethwa komculo kunye nezobugcisa zomlingane utshintshile (ngokukhawuleza waqala ukuphulaphula umculo ongaqhelekanga, ukufunda iincwadi ezazisetyenziselwa ukuhleka, njl);
- Umyeni wam wayesoloko ediliza imoto, ngakumbi ngokuhlwa nakwiempelaveki.
Umfazi ngamnye, ngaphambi kokuba afune impendulo yombuzo othi "Indoda iyitshintsha njani?", Umntu kufuneka acinge ngezinga lokuthembela kulwalamano lwabo. Ngenxa yokuba imibuzo engakumbi kunye nokunyamekela kwengqalelo kwinqanaba lomfazi kunokucaphukisa kunye nomsindo. Kwaye, oku, njengokuba uyazi, akanalo umphumo omuhle kwimpilo yomtshato.