Ulwalamano nomntu othandekayo lunokuphazamiseka nanini na, kwaye kukho ininzi yezizathu zezi zinto. Abanye besetyhini banokunyamezela ngokukhawuleza i-gap, kodwa kukho nantombazana enokuphelisa ulwalamano nomthandi uvavanyo olulukhuni, ngoko banomdla kwindlela yokusinda ukuhlukana nomfana kwaye ngokukhawuleza ukulibala.
Indlela yokusinda intlungu yokuhlukana nentanda yakho?
Ukuba, ngokuthanda kwexesha elizayo, kwafuneka uhlukane nomntu obathandayo, ngoko ungahlaziswa kwaye "ugijime" emva kwakhe, unxuse ukuba ubuyele, kuba 'uphithizela' iqhayiya lakho. Yomelela uze uzame ukulibala umntu ongaphambili, kwaye uphulaphule la macebiso alandelayo, uya kukwazi ukukwenza ngokukhawuleza, ngoko unokusinda njani intlungu yokuhlukana nomthandayo:
- Zama ukuyeka ukunxibelelana kunye nomntu osekudala . Ukuba uthe wagqiba ngokugqithiseleyo ukuba ufuna ukulibala umhlobo wakho, ungacingi ngento ehlala naye kunye naye, zama ubuncinane okokuqala ukuphepha ukuhlangana nabantu abaqhelekileyo, ixesha elichithwa kunye, mhlawumbi ufunde ngeminqweno yakhe nendawo othanda ukuyivakashela, ngoko uzama ukuphepha okokuqala ezi ndawo zihlangene.
- Nika umoya . Kunzima ukugcina intukuthelo kuwe, ngamanye amaxesha ufuna ukuthetha, ukukhala, ukukhala, ungakhathazeki, uvuselele iimvakalelo zakho, unakho "ukukhala" kumhlobo wakho okanye unina, okanye unokuhlala wedwa kunye nawe, kuxhomekeke ekubeni unjani ziya kuba zikhululekile ngakumbi.
- Zama ukuphazamisa . Fumana umsebenzi oya kufuna ukubuyela kwakho ngokugcwele, ngoko awuyi kuba nexesha lokufumana amava kunye neemkumbulo zakho zintanda. Vumela ukuba awukwazi ukwenza ntoni xa ulwalamano , umzekelo, ungene kwezokhenketho, okanye
ubhale phantsi emidlalweni yokudlala ibhola. - Zikhathalele . Tshintsha iinwele zakho (mhlawumbi nakwikhadini ngokupheleleyo), ubuyekeze i-wardrobe, uye kuphumla kumazwe atshisayo, mhlawumbi uya kudibana nomntu wakho oyinyaniso.
- Lahla nayiphi na into ekukhumbuza ngayo ubudlelwane obudlulileyo . Yiphosa okanye uyifake "kwibhokisi elingemuva" (ukuba awuyikuyikhupha ngaphandle), zonke iifoto, izipho zayo, iileta, naziphi na izinto ezinokuthi zikhumbule izinto ezidlulileyo.
- Qala ulwalamano olutsha . Musa ukuphepha abantu abaqhelana nabo kunye nabafana, udlala ngothando, udibane, kuba ngokukhawuleza xa uqala ukubandakanyeka komnye umntu, ngoko kulula ngokukhawuleza kwaye unokukhawuleza ukuba uphumelele ukuhlukana nomntu owayengumntu wokuqala.