Ngexesha apho indoda yakhe ibonakala inkosikazi, umfazi uhlala eqala ukuva utshintsho kumyeni wakhe kwaye aqonde isizathu. Kwaye yonke into yokuba intukuthelo yesetyhini inamandla kunokuba yindoda. Ewe, kunye nokukwazi ukubamba isimo sengqondo somntu uthetha ngokwabo. Kodwa kulungile ukuba akusizo zonke izikhalazo ezinokuthi zilungele, kuba kukho izizathu ezininzi zokutshintsha imixholo kunye nokuziphatha.
Kwezinye iimeko, ngokuqhelekileyo kwenzeka ukuba ibhinqa ngowona wokugqibela ukufunda ukuba unomdla kwaye awukwazi ukukholelwa ngokupheleleyo kwizinto ezenzekile. Umbuzo ngokuphakanyiswayo, ukufumana ukuba umyeni unenkosikazi .
Ukwazi njani ukuba umyeni wam unenkosikazi?
- Sitshintshela rhoqo imihla . Kubalulekile ukunyamekela ingqalelo imihla ngemihla. Ukuba itshintshile kakhulu, ngoko kufuneka uyibeke ingqalelo kuyo, kuba ithatha ixesha elide kwikosikazi. Kwaye le ikude imizuzu eyi-10. Indoda inokuxelela ukuba wayedlulile emsebenzini, ibhasi yaphuka okanye iya kufuneka ihlale ebusuku. Ukuba oku kwenzeka njalo ngexesha, ngoko kufuneka liqaphele.
- Ifowuni yefowuni . Indlela yokufumana ukuba umyeni wakhe unkosikazi uya kunceda umnxeba wakhe. Emva koko, kufuneka ahlale edibanisa naye, ngoko uya kuhlala egcina ifowuni yakhe kwintsimi yakhe yombono. Nangona indoda enobuqili kunye neqaphile ingakwazi ukugcina ifowuni ivulekile, kodwa enye ibhinqa (ukuba ikhona) iya kubhala phantsi kwegama lomntu, kwaye ivele isuse imiyalezo. Khangela ukuba uthintana naye ubiza njalo okanye ubhala i-SMS, ukuba imigaqo ikuvumela ukuba ufunde iincwadi kunye nomnye umntu ngaphandle kwemvume.
- Isimo sengqondo esahlukileyo kuwe . Abasetyhini abaninzi abazi ukuba bangafunda njani ngeendoda zendoda yakhe, kodwa kuyafaneleka ukubeka ingqwalasela indlela aphethwe ngayo ngoku kutshanje. Ukuba waqala ukuzama ngokucophelela kwiingubo ngaphambi kokuba aphume, okanye wayeka ukuthanda oko wayenxiba iiveki kwaye akazange adubule, kuba
njengoko wayedangele ngengubo yokugqoka, kufuneka kwakhona uqaphele. - Umsebenzi omningi - imali encinci . Kukho enye indlela yokufumanisa ukuba inkosikazi yomntu kufuneka ingqalelo ingakanani yemali ayifakayo. Ukuba kukho, njengoko athi, umsebenzi owongezelelweyo kwaye uhlala ehlala, ngoko, ngokwemvelo, oku kufuneka kuthinte umvuzo wakhe omkhulu. Kodwa ukuba uthetha okuninzi okanye nangaphantsi, ephikisana nokuba baye babala okanye bafumana esinye isizathu, ngoko ke ukusola ukuba akunakunikwa (ngaphandle kokuba ebeka ngasese kwindandatho ngomfazi wakhe).