Kakade, zonke iintombazana ziqinisekile ukuba indoda yakhe iyimfuneko, bonke abafazi abasondelayo bayammxela kwaye banomdla, ubuncinci, ukunxibelelana .
Kodwa kuthekani ukuba unomona ngomlingane wakho? Kukholelwa ukuba umona uyisiphumo sabantu abangakhuselekanga, kunye nokubonakaliswa ngokugqithiseleyo kwimbono yobunini. Inzondo iyamnandi kumntu okhethiweyo xa inikwe amanani amancinci. Ukubonakaliswa okugqithiseleyo kwimiba enokuthi ibe nefuthe elibi kubudlelwane bakho, kuze kufike kunye nokuquka ikhefu. Ukuba uhlushwa ngumbuzo wendlela yokuyeka ukukhwele umfana wakho, eli nqaku liya kuba luncedo kuwe.
Ungamyeka njani umona ngomfana?
Cishe wonke umntu unemithwalo emva emva kohlobo lwangaphambili, kodwa kubalulekile ukuqaphela ukuba umona kubo awunanto kwaye ungenza ingozi enkulu kuphela. Akuyiyo imfihlo kunoma ubani ukuba abafazi banomntu onobuzenzisi kwaye banokwenza isityholo ngaphandle kwesizathu. Sinikeza iingcebiso ezimbalwa eziya kunceda ukulahla umona wexesha elidlulileyo.
- Fumana into enomsindo wakho kumfana osebudlelwaneni obudlulileyo. Ukuba unemikhwa efanayo - zama ukuwagxotha ngokukhawuleza okanye, ubuncinane, ungaziphathe ngale ndlela kunye nomntu oyintanda. Njengomthetho, abameleli besondo esomeleleyo bakhumbula emantombazaneni ezo zimpawu ezibangele ukungaboni ngaso ludlelwane: ukuxoxisana ngokugqithiseleyo, ukugqithisa, ukukhawuleza, ubuvila.
- Kufuneka uqaphele ngokucacileyo ukuba ukuba umntu wakho unawe ngoku, kwaye engekho naye, ngoko akusayi kuba mnandi kuye. Uchitha ixesha kunye nawe, uthetha ngamava, izicwangciso zexesha elizayo elizayo? Ngempendulo efanelekileyo, kufuneka uqonde ukuba akuyena umlingani wakho. Kodwa ukuba umthandi wakho ufumana imilayezo ye-SMS evela kwinombolo engaqhelekanga, ngokukhethekileyo ebusuku, kufuneka uhlolisise imeko. Ngaphandle kobuxoki abangenasidingo.
- Fumana ukuba umdala wakhe usebudlelwaneni ngoku. Ukuba kunjalo, ukhulule, akukho sizathu sokuba nomona. Kodwa hlalani,
ukuba "uyabhukuda ngokukhululeka" - kungenzeka ukuba le ntombi ingabiza indoda yakho ngaphandle kokunyamezela okanye ifuna induduzo kunye nesihawu. - Ukumelana nomgaqo owodwa olula - ngokuqhelekileyo ulungelelanisa iingxabano kunye neentlanzi ezisekelwe kumona kwaye ukhumbuze intanda yakho ngothando lwakhe lwangaphambili, ngokuqhelekileyo uya kukhumbula ubudlelwane naye. Ingaba kukho isiqinisekiso sokuba emva koko akayi kuqonda ukuba uye waqhatha kwaye ufuna ukudibana naye?
Intombi yakhe yangaphambili akumele ibe yinto yesithathu engathandabuzekiyo kwimeko yakho, ngoko ke ungamfungi, ngakumbi ukuba akaphazamisi ubomi bakho.