Abanye abafazi, behlukana namadoda, baduduza ngokwengcinga "Kodwa makunyuke, kuya kubuya kum." Ndiyabuza ukuba abantu banokuphindaphinda kangakanani ukuba babuyele kwixesha langaphambili kwaye kutheni benza njalo?
Ngaphi na amadoda abuyela?
Iingcamango zihluke kule nqanaba - akukho mntu wenza uphando olusemthethweni. Abanye abafazi bayazibuza ukuba kutheni amadoda ephosa, kwaye ahlale ebuyela. Kwaye oku kwenzeka ngokuphindaphindiweyo xa ibhinqa lisele lonwabela ubudlelwane obutsha kwaye lilibale malunga nexesha elidlulileyo. Amanye amabhinqa angathandabuzeki ukuba ngaba amadoda angaphambili abuyele, nokuba oko kwenzeka ntoni nantoni na, kuba le nto ayenzanga. Njengoko sibona, ngokuqhelekileyo abameli beesondo eziqinileyo baya kubuya kwabasetyhini abashiyiweyo, kwaye kaninzi oku akukwenzekayo. Ngoko musa ukuhlala emnyango uze ulindele ukuba anqume ukubuyela, nangona awukwazi ukukhuphela ngokupheleleyo elo thuba. Ewe, ukuze uqonde ukuba ngaba umnxeba wexesha elidlulileyo uya kuzwakalisa kwihostele yakho, kufuneka uqonde kwiimeko apho amadoda abuya khona.
Kutheni amadoda eyeka aze abuye?
- Wabuyela, kuba waqonda ukuba uvuyo lwakhe lulapha kwaye akukho ndawo. Le yona nto ifunwa yintliziyo yintliziyo yinyameko, kodwa, ngelishwa, inguqu yokuphuhliswa kweemeko. Emva koko, ukuba indoda ishiya emva kobudlelwane obude, ngoko ngokuqhelekileyo iya kwintsimi elungiselelwe, kwelinye iqela. Ewe, kutheni kufuneka abuyele kule ngxaki, kumfazi oyeke ukuthakazelisa kuye? Uthando luhle, kodwa lwenzeka ngokuphindaphindiweyo kwizikrini zeTV okanye iphepha leencwadi kunokuba ubomi boqobo.
- Kwaye kwenzeka ukuba amadoda ashiye intsapho, kwaye emva kwexesha elifutshane abuyele. Kutheni oku kwenzeka, ngaba baqhathanisa abafazi ababini kwaye bakhethe umfazi? Kwaye akukho apha. Ngokuqhelekileyo kwenzeka ukuba ngobudlelwane besikhathi eside, amadoda aqala ukungabi nalutho, ngelixa ezinye izinto zifanelana nazo. Kule meko, inkosikazi ibandakanya, kwaye ngamanye amaxesha amadoda ahamba aphile nomfazi othile, kodwa utshintsho. Abazange bahlose ukushiya intsapho ngokusisigxina, ngoko ke babuya, emva kwexesha elifutshane.
- Ukuzimela ngaphandle kweemeko apho umntu, ukuhlukana nobudlelwane, ubuya, uqala ukukhangeleka kakuhle kwaye uthembisa iintaba zegolide. Yonke iya kuba yinto enhle, ukuba kungenjalo "kodwa": yenzayo, xa ibhinqa eliphosiweyo liye lahlengahlengisa ubomi bayo kwaye mhlawumbi liya kutshata. Kutheni amadoda ebuyela kule meko? Kungakhathaliseki ukuba kubonakala kukubi kangakanani, kodwa abameli abanobugwenxa besondo esomeleleyo basoloko beqhutywa ngumona. Le ndoda yakuva ukuba loo mfazi wayiphonsa yonke into, ngelixa ubomi bakhe bengahlali buhlungu, waza wagqiba ekubeni kwakungalunganga. "Ulahlekelwe buncwane obunjalo, njengoko ndingazange ndicinge ukubeka ubomi bam umnqamlezo? Yiyiphi into ebomvu, kubalulekile ukwenza into. " Kodwa njani ukulungisa imeko kwimeko? Ngaba ufuna ukunqwenela ulonwabo uze uzame ukufumana umphefumlo wakho? Kodwa hayi, amadoda anjalo ngesizathu esithile acinga ukuba umsebenzi wabo oyingcwele uwonakalisa ubomi babo babengaphambili. Ngoko konke ukudibana kunomgomo omnye kuphela - ukuphazamisa ubudlelwane obukhoyo bhinqa. Ngokukhawuleza xa kuvela, kwaye unquma ukunika i-returnee ithuba, uya kupheka - awuyidingi.
- Kwaye nenye enye inketho. Esi sibini sasiqhekekile, kumntu ongenakho umnxeba okanye ileta, kwaye ngokukhawuleza emini ekwindla yemvula ebiza (kungekho rhoqo ngefowuni, ngamanye amaxesha emnyango) kwaye uqala ingxoxo engacacileyo malunga nokuba uyedwa kwaye uhlala njani kunye. Ngaba ucinga, waqonda, wabuya kwaye ngoku yonke into iya kulungile? Ngokuqinisekileyo, kunokwenzeka, kodwa ebomini akupheli. Kunokwenzeka ukuba, onovuyo kwaye wonke umntu oshiywe
nje ukukhangela indawo yokuhlalisa ubusuku okanye amabini. Mhlawumbi ubiza onke amantombazana akhe ngaphambili ukuba nethemba lokuba umntu uya kuba nesihe - ungabondli abasetyhini ngesonka, makungabikho umntu ozisola ngayo. Aba bantu baya kubuya ixesha elide? Kwaye ngokukhawuleza, kuba buhlungu kangakanani kwaye bubuhlungu kuba yinto yabo, eyona yangaphambili yinto ehlukileyo, ayikho mfuneko yokuyizuza, kunye namantombazana kuya kufuneka achithe kakhulu kwiiklabhu.
Ngoku uyazi ukuba zeziphi iziganeko amadoda abuyele kuzo, kwaye kwiingxelo "zabangenangqondo", bathi, ngokuqinisekileyo uya kubuya, kungcono ukungaqiniseki. Le ndoda ayisona i-boomerang ukuba ihlale ibuya.