Ingxabano yooyise nabantwana ikhona kuwo onke amaxesha, abazali abaninzi bazama ukufumanisa indlela yokuseka ubudlelwane nomntwana omdala. Iphutha eliphambili kwisizukulwana esidala kukuba abakwazi ukuwamkela ukuba umntwana uye wakhula, kwaye lixesha lokuyeka ukumlawula.
Abazali banokuphucula njani ubuhlobo babo kunye nendodana yabo endala?
Kuhlekisa kwaye kuyimangalisa ukubona unyana omdala, owamnakekelayo njengomama ongenacala. Kakade, oonyana basoloko behlala kubazali babantwana, kodwa ulwalamano kufuneka ludlulele kwinqanaba elitsha, kodwa hlala usondele kwaye ufudumale ngelo xesha.
Okokuqala, kuyimfuneko ukuqonda ukuba unyana akayena umhlaba wabazali, kwaye nangona kwiminyaka elishumi elivisayo le nkwenkwe ayizange ilwele inkululeko, ibe ngumntu omdala, iya kuba yinkcaso yokugcina. Ngako oko, abazali kufuneka batshintshe indlela yobudlelwane nomzali nomntwana kumntu omdala-omdala. Isibonakaliso sokuqala sobudlelwane bubunokuhlonipha, kuba unyana ngoku uhamba ngokulingana nabazali bakhe.
Abazali abafuna ukwazi indlela yokuseka ubudlelwane nomntwana omdala - unyana okanye umntwana onyana - mabaphulaphule ingcebiso elandelayo yesazi sengqondo.
- Akufanele ubeke ingcinezelo kumntwana wakho omdala, usebenzisa amava akho njengengxabano. Umntwana omdala kufuneka ngokwakhe "azalise izibonda" kwaye afundise ubomi.
- Kubalulekile ukushiya ubuhlobo bobuzali - unyana unendawo yakhe, kwaye kufuneka ihlonishwe.
- Iingcebiso ezingamkelwayo ngenye indlela yokuhlukana nendodana, nokuba ngaba isigqibo somntwana omdala siphutha, nguye ngokwakhe uxanduva lwakhe.
- Ukuba umzali ungenelele ebomini bomntwana omdala, ngumqondiso wokuthi akanalo ubomi bakhe. Ngaliphi na ubudala umntu kufuneka abe neminqweno, ubudlelwane, izenzo.
- Ukuba umntwana okhulile uhlala ecasulwa yi-negativism yakhe, kufuneka ubhale uluhlu lwezinto zakhe ezintle kwaye usebenzise kuye kwiimeko ezinzima. Indodana mayibe nekratshi ngabazali bakhe, kwaye ukuba umntu ufuna ukunyamekela umntu, umntu makabe nekati okanye intshontsho.