Uphi na umqondo othi " ngaphantsi kokuzithemba "? Ewe, ukususela ebuntwaneni. Ngokuqhelekileyo ngaba abazali abangayithandabuzekiyo ukuzithembela komntwana, banakekelwa kakhulu ebuntwaneni bakhe, baxela oku ngenyameko. Nangona kunjalo, kwixesha elizayo, imo yomntu ayinayo impembelelo encinci kwinqanaba lokuzithemba.
Kodwa kwenzeka ukuba abantu abadala abadala baneengxaki ngokuzithemba kwaye ihla e-zero, umzekelo, ngenxa yeemeko ezixinzelelekileyo. Kubalulekile ukuba uqaphele ukuba unobungozi obuninzi obunjalo obuntshintsho obunjalo kunye nomoya we-choleric okanye i-melancholic.
Umbuzo uvela: "Uphakamisa njani ukuzithemba?" Akuyinto enqwenelekayo ukuba uvuke yonke imihla kwindawo ebuhlungu kwaye ungakholelwa kuwe. Ukuzithemba kunokunyuswa ngokuzimeleyo xa kungakafumani uhlobo lokudandatheka . Kwimeko yokugqibela, kucetyiswa ukuba ufune ingcebiso yengcali.
Khawuleza njani ukuphakamisa ukuzithemba? Musa nje ukugxila kwiinjongo zakho. Impumelelo iya kukhokelela ekuzithembekeni nasekusebenziseni rhoqo imizimba efunekayo, eya kuxoxwa ngezantsi.
Indlela yokuphakamisa ukuzithemba kwintombazana?
Ixesha lesishumi elivisayo liyingxaki yokuguquka ebomini bomntu okhulayo. Yaye ukuzithemba kwile minyaka yindawo eyingozi kakhulu yomntwana. Ukuba izinga lalo lithe gqolo, lingakhokelela kwiinkomfa, ezinokudambisa ubomi bomntu nangona umntu ekhulile. Abazali banokunceda njani umntwana wabo ngexesha elinzima kuye?
- Abazali abaselula bayadingeka ukuba bajonge ukubonakala kwakhe. Mamela oko umntwana wakho akufunayo. Makhe akhethe iimpahla zakhe zokugqoka. Kwaye kuphela ukulawula okunyathelo kwayo.
- Dumisani umntwana. Musa ukujonga iingxaki kuyo - thobela kuphela isithunzi. Mncede enze into ebomini bakhe.
- Abaninzi abazi ukuba kunokwenzeka ukwandisa ukuzithemba ngokufunda ukuthi "hayi." Ukuba umntwana osemncinci akanako ukugatya nantoni na umntu, emva kwexesha uya kuziziva exhomekeke kwabanye kunye nomlandeli. Ngoko zama ukumfundisa ukuba aphike abantu ngexesha elifanelekileyo.
- Hlonipha. Awudingi ukumphatha njengomntwana. Ngamanye amaxesha bathetha, kodwa baziphathe njengomntu omdala.
Indlela yokuphakamisa ukuzithemba umntu?
Amadoda awanakwenzeka ukuba ahlangabezane neengxaki nathi. Ewe, bahlala bezama ukuba phezulu kwaye baqhathanise ukwabelana nabo nabani na amava kunye nokwesaba . Nangona kunjalo, umgaqo onjalo ngokuthi "ukungabi nantoni ukuzithemba" akunjalo kubo. Ukuba unesiqiniseko sokuthi ukhethiweyo wakho uhlangabezane nale ngxaki kwaye ufuna ukuqonda indlela yokuphakamisa ukuzithemba kumntu kwaye uncede ngaloo ndlela, ngoko kufuneka ulandele le mithetho elandelayo:
- Ngokuphathelele othandekayo kufuneka athatyathwe. Iminyaka emihlanu kuye okanye 50 ayinandaba. Bahlala befuna i-caress yabesifazane kunye nokunyamekela.
- Indlela yokuzithethelela umyeni wakhe? Hlala uhlangana naye ngeentsikelelo ezikhethekileyo kunye nokumncinca ebusweni bakhe, kungakhathaliseki ukuba ukhathele kangakanani kwaye kungakhathaliseki ukuba unomsindo kangakanani ngosuku olusebenzayo.
- Musa ukufuna rhoqo abantu. Abayithandi. Emva kwexesha bafumana ingcamango yokuba basetyenziselwa iinjongo zemali.
- Kubalulekile ukuqonda ukuba amadoda asemngciphekweni njengabasetyhini, ngoko ke kubalulekile ukunyamekela yonke ibinzana ebhekiswe kummeli wesini esomeleleyo.
- Jabulela kuyo yonke impumelelo yakhe.
- Ungaze uthelekise namanye amadoda.
Indlela yokuphakamisa intlonelo yentombazana?
Ukuphakamisa ukuzithemba kwentombazana, kwanele nje ukukhumbula imithetho embalwa elula:
- AmaQueens azalwanga, kodwa abe yiminyaka kamva. Kubalulekile ukuzikhumbuza ukuba "Ndifanelwe kakhulu."
- Simele sahlukane kunye nosongelo kunye nokungabaza, ukulibala malunga neengxaki.
- Kubalulekile ukukunceda ukufezekisa injongo okanye ukucebisa iindlela zokufezekisa.
- Gcina idayari yokuphumelela, ngokuqhelekileyo uzikhumbuze ngempumelelo yakho kunye nokuncinci okuncinci.
- Gcina iingcinga zakho. Ukuhlaselwa ngesimo sengqondo esifanelekileyo njengaleyo thina ngokwethu esiya kuyenza: "Andifanelanga oku," njl.
- Smile kaninzi. Ukumamotheka kunemiphumo yokuphumla nokuthoba.
Indlela yokuphakamisa ukuzithembela komntwana?
- Dumisani umntwana wakho ngokufanelekileyo. Nceda uqaphele ukuba akukho dumiso: ubunjani obuhle, ubuhle, impilo, iimpahla, amathoyizi kunye nokufunyanwa ngezihlandlo.
- Mcele ngandlela-thile uncedo okanye iingcebiso, kodwa kungekhona njengomntu omncinci, kodwa njengomntu omdala.
- Khuthaza iqhinga kulo.
- Kanye kunye nosana, hlaziya iimpazamo zakhe kunye nokuhluleka.
Into ebalulekileyo yokukhumbula kukuba ukuzithemba kungakhutshwa kuphela xa kukho inkolelo yokuba inokwenzeka.