Ukunyamekela kunye nomonde kunceda ukugcina uxolo kwengqondo yabo bonke abachaphazelekayo kwimpikiswano kwaye ngokukhawuleza bafumane indlela yokuphuma kwimeko. Nangona kunjalo, ukukhathala komntu, imeko ebuhlungu okanye umkhwa wezinto ezinokunyaniseka kunokukhokelela ekuxabaneni . Yaye nangona iqela lesibini alizange lixhase ingxabano, i-sludge okanye i-heartache engavumelekanga ingahlala emphefumlweni wakhe.
Ngendlela efanelekileyo ukuphendula njani ukuhlambalaza?
Uninzi lwabantu lunetyala ngenxa yokuhlambalaza: i-mood iyancipha, ulwaphulo kunye nokunyusa ukunyuswa. Umntu, njengokuba kunjalo, uphazamisa wonke umntu ojikeleze ngaye. Ngaphezu koko, kunokuthatha iiyure eziliqela okanye iintsuku, kwaye igama elihlambalazayo okanye ibinzana liya kuhlala kwimemori yakho kwaye liphazamise ubomi obupheleleyo. Ngokuphindaphindiweyo umntu uhlala ekhumbula kwakhona imeko eyacaphukisa ngayo, uyipheqela ekhanda, ahlalutye kwaye acinge ukuba kwakudingeka ukuba asabele njani ngokuhlambalaza kwaye oko kungathiwa ngaloo mzuzu ukukhawulela umoni.
Nangona kunjalo, abo bafuna ukuqonda ingqondo yeengxabano kunye nendlela yokuphendula ukuhlambalaza, iphuzu elibalulekileyo kufuneka lizaliswe. Kuqulethwe kwinto yokuba umntu onobundlobongela okanye ongendawo, umoni, ngamazwi akhe aqala ukulawula phezu kwengqondo yabantu abajikelezile. Ukuze kungabi phantsi kweempembelelo zayo kuyimfuneko ukuba ungasabele ngendlela yokuhlambalaza, ukuziphatha njengokungathi akunjalo ngawe.
Ungafunda njani ukuba ungaphenduli ukuhlambalaza?
Enyanisweni, ukuziphatha ngokubambisana yinkinga yomntu ngokwakhe. Kubalulekile ukuzisola emphefumlweni womntu ongenakho okanye ongafundile ukuphendula ngenye indlela. Kwinqanaba elithile, ungabiza umntu onjalo ogula ngengqondo. Mhlawumbi umntu onjalo wayefumene ingxaki yengqondo ebuntwaneni, mhlawumbi wakhuliswa njengaye, kodwa mhlawumbi umntu wamthuka ngaphambi kokungqubana, kwaye uyabuyela emuva.
Ukuze ungaphenduli ngokuhlambalaza, unokwenza oku:
- umele umntu omemeza njengomntwana ongenamdla ongawaziyo oko akufunayo;
- ukumela umxhaphazi ngeentlanzi ze-aquarium, evula umlomo wakhe, kodwa engakhulumi igama;
- unobumba lomsebenzi kule ngxelo, njengokuthi "Ukunyaniseka okumangalisayo! Ixesha lokuba mna! ยป.
Akunakwenzeka ukufumana indlela yendalo yonke indlela yokusabela kwiintlanzi kunye nokuhlambalaza, kuba zonke iimeko zihlukile. Nangona kunjalo, kubalulekile ukuba unganiki amandla omoni ngaphezu kwengqondo yakho kwaye ungavumeli uhlaziswe. Ukunyaniseka nokunyamezela komntu okhwaza okanye othukwayo, kumenza abe phezulu kunomntu owonayo, ophelelwa yimiqondo ngokwale meko aze ahlale enganeliseki ngolu hlobo.