Kutheni umntu afanele enze inxaxheba ekuziphuculeni nasekuziphuculeni, kuba abaninzi abantu bahlala ngaphandle kwayo? Kodwa abantu abanjalo, njengomthetho, banenkinga enkulu ebomini kunabo bafuna ukuphucula. Ukuzihlakulela yindlela yokuphila ubomi obunomdla kunye nobutyebi, ukufezekisa iphupha lakho. Umsebenzi onzima kakhulu, umntu ubeka iinjongo kunye nemisebenzi yakhe, ukufumana ulwazi olutsha kunye nezakhono zokufezekisa iphupha. Uyazi ngokucacileyo ukuba yintoni na into ayifunayo kwaye ayithinteka kuyo. Ukuba awuyena umntu othembekileyo, uhlala ekhubeka endleleni yokuphila, ungenakufumana ulonwabo nolonwabo ebomini, ngoko uya kufuneka uqale ukuzihlakulela nokuziphucula.
Isizathu sokuphucula ngokwabo silula - abantu ababandakanyekayo ekuphuhliseni ukuzincama abakwazi ukugula, kuba ukuvumelana emphefumlweni kubangela ukuvisisana emzimbeni. Abantu abanjalo bahlala bephumelele ebomini, benentsapho eyonwabileyo kunye nomsebenzi omhle. Le yindlela yokuphumelela nokuphumelela.
Yintoni enokuyenza ukuphuhliswa?
Ukuphucula ukuzihlaziya komntu kudlula, njengomgaqo, kwikhosi yobomi, ngokuqaphelayo nangokusoloko, ezenza iimpawu ezintsha zobuntu. Kubaluleke kakhulu ukuba ungayikhohlwa malunga nokuphucula ngokomoya nangokwenyama. Emva koko, abaninzi kwixesha lethu bakholelwa ukuba akufanelekanga ukuchitha ixesha, elingenanto. Ngokuphambene noko, ukukhula ngokomoya kubaluleke kakhulu. Emva kwakho konke, ootata bexesha elide babhala kwiimfundiso zabo ukuba ukukhula ngokomoya kuhambelana nokuhlanganiswa kobuntu, ingqondo kunye nomoya. Abantu abanjalo abanobudlova, bezolile kwaye balinganise. Kwakhona, ingqalelo kufuneka ihlawulwe ekuthuthukisweni komzimba, kuba emzimbeni ophilileyo - ngengqondo ephilileyo. Abantu baqala ukuvavanywa ngobukeka, kodwa emva kokuba engqondweni. Umzimba yithempeli lethu, ngoko kufuneka silinakekele kwaye sithintele ukutshabalaliswa kwalo.
Iindlela zokuzigqiba
Ngokuyinhloko emsebenzini wabo ngokwabo. Funda ngakumbi, uxoxe nabantu abahlukeneyo, wenze ulwazi ngokwabo, ufunde ukuthanda nokuxabisa abanye. Kufanelekile ukutshintsha i-psychology ye-self-improvement. Sisoloko silwa ezininzi "mna", ngokuqhelekileyo sithetha ukuba babefuna ukuba njalo-kwaye-njalo ... kodwa yintoni na? Injongo, inxano lobomi, inomdla, inontlalontle. Kanye nokuziphucula ngokwabo kukuzimelela. Ukuzifundisa-xa umntu ehlawulela ngokwakhe iimpawu azifunayo yena ngokwakhe. Ezi zenzo ngamabomu, ngenjongo, ukuphumeza iziphumo. Wonke umntu ufuna ukufezeka, emehlweni abo, kwimeko yoluntu olujikelezile. Ngamanye amaxesha le ngxaki yokuziphucula. Ekubeni wonke umntu akayikukholisa wonke umntu, wonke umntu unelungelo lakhe.
Ngoko, ndifuna ukukhankanya ezinye iindlela zokuphumelela ngokuziphucula ngokwenza izinto:
- Ukulala kancane. Emva koko, umntu udinga malunga neeyure eziyi-8. Vuka ngeyure kwangoko kwaye, ngoko, uza kuba nexesha elingaphezulu lokukhulula ukuphumeza izicwangciso.
- Yenza izinto ezibalulekileyo kuqala. Hlaziya nokuba usebenzise amandla ngokuchanekileyo. Ukulawula ixesha kuthetha ukulawula ubomi.
- Fumana iphefumlelweyo. Gcina incwadana ecaleni kwesandla sakho apho ungabhala phantsi iingcamango eziza kuwe emini.
- Ukuthetha ngefowuni ngokuzithemba nangomdla. Bonisa intlonelo kumnxebi.
- Khumbula injongo, kungekhona iziphumo. Yenza umsebenzi owuthandayo, kungekhona ukuqonda.
- Hlaka ekuseni. Ziphakamise le meko, tyalela umzimba wakho.
Ngako oko, iinqununu eziphambili zokuziphucula ngokwabo kunye nokuzikhusela ngokwabo zi: ukuqeqeshwa kunye nokuziqhelanisa, iphupha, injongo kunye nokuphumelela, amandla onoyolo, ingqondo, umzimba nomphefumlo, ukuphefumlelwa, ukunakwa ngabathandekayo nabanye. Ukuqhubela phambili ngasentla, siyaqonda ukuba nakwephi na ixesha lobomi bomntu, nje ukuphuculwa komntu kunye nokuphucula ngokwabo yinto esemqoka yokuzibonela kweli hlabathi.