Ngaba ingcinga ibonakalayo? Kuthetha ntoni "iingcinga"? Kwaye kunjalo, ziziphi iingcamango kwaye kuyinyaniso ukuba bangaba impahla? Umbuzo unomdla kakhulu, kubangele inkcaso kunye neminqweno, ndicinga ukuba baninzi. Abanye bakholelwa ukuba izinto eziphathekayo iingcamango ziyingxaki epheleleyo, kodwa kukho nabo banomdla obunzulu kwaye bawusebenzise ngobomi babo. Kwaye, ngokulandelelanayo, emva kwayo yonke into, ingacingi nje into kodwa inxalenye yolwazi lomntu, ngaphandle kokuba lukhona phi ukuqonda okungeke kwenzeke. Ukucinga ngezinto ezintle unokuphucula indlela ovakalelwa ngayo, kunye nokubi ngokuchaseneyo - ukuphazamiseka kunye nokuxinezeleka. Akunakucatshulwa ukuba iingcamango zichaphazela ukuqonda kwethu kwengqondo, kodwa ngaba singakwazi ukwakha ikusasa lethu lezinto kwaye sifezekise iinjongo ezifunwayo ngoncedo lwabo? Ngaba yonke ingcinga?
Kutheni iingcamango eziphathekayo? Bungqina
Ukuze uphendule lo mbuzo, i-psychiatrist yaseRussia uVladimir Bekhterev wanikela ngobomi bakhe bonke. Emva kokwenza uphando oluninzi, wafika kwisigqibo sokuba ucinga ngenye yeentlobo zamandla kwaye wachaza ukuba ingqondo ichaphazela ngqo umba. Ngaloo ndlela, ngokutsho kweBekhterev, nayiphi na, nokuba yinto engqondweni, ihamba ukusuka kwelinye ilizwe ukuya kwelinye kwaye ayikwazi ukunyamalalala ngokomthetho wolondolozo wamandla. Akukho ngcamango echazwe ngelizwi, isenzo, okanye ukujonga nje okanye ukulinganisa, ayikwazi ukusalala ngaphandle kokulandelwa.
Indlela yokwenza izinto zokucinga?
Yonke imihla, nangona kungakhathaliseki ukuba yintoni iminqweno yethu, iingcamango zethu zibonakala, kwaye le nkqubo idla ngokungazi. Kodwa ukuyikhokela kunye nokufezekisa iziphumo ezifunwayo, kuyimfuneko ukuyilawula kakuhle. Siza kukunceda ekuqaliseni iiminqweno zakho, ukuba ube nolwazi olunemiqathango ethile:
- Qalisa ngolwazi. Qaphela yonke ingcinga, umnqweno kunye nesenzo. Landelela ukudibanisa okungabonakali phakathi kwabo. Ukuba uqaphela into yokuba ayinayo, baxoshe. Lo msebenzi awunzima, kunjalo, ungazithethi, ukuba usenayo ingcamango engaphezulu - okuqhelekileyo, ngexesha uya kuba nako ukulawula.
- Emva kokuba ufunde ukuqaphela nokuyeka iingcamango zakho ezingekho phantsi, uya kufuneka ubeke endaweni yazo ezintle kwaye ezintle. Igama kufuneka libe nethemba, ngaphandle kokusetyenziswa kwezinto ezingamangalelwa, yindlela kuphela eya kusebenza ngayo.
- Sebenzisa amabinzana amancinci kunye acacileyo, umfutshane kwaye utyhawule le ngcamango - bhetele kuya kukhunjulwa kwaye kuya kuba lula ukuyiphinda yonke imihla.
- Kufuneka ukholelwe oko utshoyo kwaye kwinto yokuba ingcinga yakho ibonakala, nangona ungaboni iziphumo. Qinisekisa iingcamango zakho ngeemvakalelo, ngoko zomelele kwaye zikhawuleze zibe yinyaniso.
- Ngenqwenela ukuthanda kubo bonke abantu odibana nabo kulo lonke usuku, enoba neentshaba nabantu abangathandeki kuwe. Thumela izibilini ezintle ngaphandle kwaye ngokuqinisekileyo ziya kubuya kuwe ngekhulu.
- Kungakhathaliseki ukuba ngabafundi kunye neengqondo zezinto zengqondo bathi ngamandla okucinga, kuba namandla xa sikhohlwa kwaye singakhathaleli ngento. Iingcinga ezilungileyo kuphela ezidibeneyo nezenzo zangempela zizisa
umphumo o nqwenela.
Kwakhona, ukuba zonke iingcamango zizinto eziphathekayo kwaye zilungile, ngoko kuyacaca ukuba iingcamango ezimbi zizisa nje umonakalo. Izigwenxa kunye nabangendawo bacinga kakubi, oku kuholele ekubambeni ubugebengu ngenxa yemisebenzi yabo. Ngaloo ndlela, ngokungenjalo, akukho bubi ehlabathini, abantu ngokwabo bazala iingcamango zabo kunye neminqweno.
Ndifuna ngokwenene ukuba iingcamango zolonwabo, ulonwabo noxolo emhlabeni ziyimfuneko. Masilwe kunye kulo. Jonga iingcamango zakho nephupha, ngokuba iminqweno yinto!