Umbuzo wendlela yokuba negunya kwiqela okanye kumntwana, unomdla kuninzi, ndifuna ukuhlonipha wonke umntu. Kuphela apha ukufezekisa oko akunjalo kulula njengoko kubonakala ekuqaleni. Enyanisweni, abanye abantu benza ilizwi labo nomthetho kubonakala kungenayo inzame, kodwa imayelana nemfundo, umntu akakwazi ukuziphatha ngokungafaniyo. Kwaye wonk 'ubani uya kufuneka asebenze kanzima ukufezekisa oko afuna.
Indlela yokuba negunya lomntwana?
Abazali abaninzi bayamangaliswa kuba kutheni i-word yabo yomntwana ayithethi nto. Enyanisweni, into yonke ilula - ilungu elincinane lentsapho alikholwanga kwaye alihloneli abadala . Yaye nabazali bayaligxeka oku. Iimpazamo eziphambili zilandelayo zihlandlo zokuziphatha.
- Ngokuqhelekileyo abazali basebenzisa iindlela zengcinezelo yengqondo okanye yomzimba. Ngale ndlela kuyinto engokwemvelo ukuba endaweni yokuhlonela abazali ifumana ukuloyika kunye nentlonipho yabantwana.
- Kwakhona kaninzi kunokwenzeka ukubona ukuba abazali basebenzisa njani iiyure ezininzi zokwakha kunye nokuziphatha ngendlela "eyiyo" ngayo, bengamniki umntwana kunye nesinyathelo sokunyathela. Isiphumo sisicaphuko kunye nomnqweno wokwenza izinto ezichasene, nokuba ngaba kukhokelela kwimiphumo engathandekiyo.
- Abazali abanamaviki nabancinci abakwenzayo nantoni na, basebenzisa umgaqo othi "Ndingumdala - kufuneka ndihlonishwe". Le ndlela ikwahlukana nokuhluleka, akukho mntu uya kuhlonela umntu ade aqonde isizathu sokuba umntu afaneleke ukuba nesimo sengqondo.
Kodwa nangona ezi zindlela zokuziphatha ziphephelwa, umntwana akasoloko eqonda igunya lomzali. Ngokuqhelekileyo izizathu zezi
- ukunyaniseka, uhanahaniso lwabazali okanye ukuthoba okukhulu. I-recipe yokufumana inhlonipho ilula:
- gcina ilizwi lakho, ngaphandle koko liya kufunda ukunika izithembiso ezingenanto;
- ukucacisa umntwana ukuba ezinye izinto akufanele zenziwe, kwaye ungenzi ngokwakho. "Awunako ukutshaya, kodwa ndingumdala kwaye ndiyakwenza oko" - izenzo ezinjalo zamagunya aziyi kwanezelwa kuwe;
- ningenzi nantoni na "kwimiboniso," abantwana banentlonelo enkulu ekukhohliseni;
- Musa ukufuna ukuziphatha okugqibeleleyo kumntwana, wena ulahlekile;
- Okona kubaluleke kakhulu - hlonipha ubuntu bomntwana wakho, uqaphele ilungelo lakhe kwimbono yakhe, ungatsho ukuba ukuthanda kwakhe kuyingozi kuphela kuba awuyiqondi.
Ungaba njani negunya kwiqela?
Ukuza kumsebenzi omtsha, wonke umntu wayezibamba ecinga ukuba: "Ndifuna ukuba negunya, ukuze balaphule uluvo lwam, kwaye ungaphuthelwa."
Umgaqo wokuqala kunye obaluleke kakhulu, indlela yokuba negunya kwinkampani entsha okanye phakathi kwabahlobo, izandi zilula kakhulu - zifunde