Ngokuqinisekileyo, wonk 'ubani wayenxibelelana nomntu ogxothayo ingxabano. Ukuba omnye wabadibaniselwano bayakwazi ukuhlala bezolile, ke ukululaza kwemeko kunokwenzeka, ngaphandle koko ingxabano phakathi kwabantu ayinakupheka. Kodwa yintoni isiseko salo mkhuba - ukungathandwa ngumntu onxibelelana naye okanye kukho enye into?
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Ukulahla ukulawula iimvakalelo zabo kunye nokudibanisa, wonke umntu unokukwazi, kwaye izizathu ezi zinto zihluke kakhulu - kwiintlungu kwiintsapho. Kodwa oku kusebenza kuphela kwiimeko ezinqabileyo, kodwa ukuba ukungqubuzana kuba ngumntu oqhelekileyo, ngoko isizathu sisinzulu kwaye silele kumntu ozama ukunciphisa ingxoxo kwi-scandal. Ngoko ke, xa udibana nomnxibelelwano onjalo, kufuneka ukhumbule ukuba ulwaphulo lwakhe aluhambiswanga kuwe, uyacaphuka kwihlabathi lonke, kwaye uvele wabuya ingalo. Ngokuqhelekileyo, isizathu sokuziphatha okungavinjelwe kukungqubuzana kwangaphakathi komntu, oko kukuthi, umntu, phantsi kweempembelelo ezimbini ezifanayo, akakwazi ukwenza ukhetho kwicandelo lomnye wabo. Umzekelo, umntu ufuna ukudala intsapho, kodwa akafuni ukuthatha uxanduva lomlingane. Kule meko, ubuhlobo besikhathi eside abukwazi ukwakha, kwaye ubudlelwane bemihla ngemihla abukwazi ukuhlangabezana neemfuno. Isiphumo sisinquzulwano phakathi kwabantu, okukhokelela ekwenzeni ukucaphukisa ngokweqile kunye nokugxeka.
Icandelo elithile lomngquzulwano lwangaphakathi luyingxenye engafanelekanga. Umzekelo unokuba ngumfundi wexesha elipheleleyo oye waba nexesha lokufumana intsapho. Ngakolunye uhlangothi, iimfuno zalo zenziwe, njengeyunivesithi yabafundi, nakwezinye - kufuneka zifezekise uxanduva lomgcini wekhaya. Kunzima ukudibanisa le ngcamango, ngokuqhelekileyo kufuneka uhlawulele into ethile, kwaye kwimeko yokulingana nobomi bentsapho kunye nexesha elizeleyo lemfundo, inzantlukwano yendima yobuntu iyabonakala - intombazana ayikwazi ukukhetha phakathi kwendima yomfazi nomfundi. Wonke umntu wabhekana nokuphikisana okunjalo, umntu wakwazi ukuzixazulula ngokwabo, umntu wasincedwa yiengcali, kwaye umntu usekho amandla. Ngoko ke, xa ujongene nomntu onxamnye nomnye, umntu kufuneka acinge ngengqondo yakhe yemoya kwaye avumele "ukuyeka umqhubi", ngoko ingxoxo iyakwazi ukuphumelela. Ukuba ingxabano eyongeziweyo yingxaki yakho, ke yithuba lokuyilungisa, kuba le mfanelo ininzi yothintelo kuwe kunokuba udibanisa nabo.