Ngaphandle kokuzithemba, awukwazi ukuphumelela. Lo mgaqo uyaziwa kuwo wonke umntu, kodwa yintoni - ayiqinisekanga ukuba abantu bayishiye iminqweno yabo? Musa ukucinga ngokukwenza, kukho iindlela zokufumana nokuzithemba. Into ebalulekileyo kukugqiba ukuba uyayidinga kwaye uqale usebenze ngokwakho.
Ukuzithemba - yintoni na?
Ukuba ufuna ukwazi indlela yokuhlakulela ukuzithemba, kufuneka uqale uchaze lo mva. Unokuzithemba ngamakhono akho, ukuba unako ukuvavanya ngokuqinisekileyo amandla akho nayiphi na imeko. Abantu abathembekileyo banomgangatho oqhelekileyo wokuzithemba, ukuzithemba, ukuqonda indawo yabo ebomini.
Ukuba awukwazi ukuthetha oko ungathanda ukukwenza, ungathanda ukufezekisa, awufumani ukwaneliseka kubomi bemihla ngemihla, mhlawumbi unganakho ukuzithemba, kufuneka uyihlakulele.
Ukuba ukhangele impendulo kumbuzo wendlela yokwandisa ukuzithemba, ngoko kukufanele ukuqwalasela izinga lakho lokuzithemba. Ukuba ngaba kuncinci, kufuneka ilungiswe. Kodwa asihlali siqwalasele ngokwaneleyo, sisoloko sicinga ukuba sinako konke, kodwa xa sibhekene nenyaniso sithola ukungabi nolwazi nolwazi. Oko kukuthi, ngokuqhelekileyo abantu banokuzithemba. Kule meko, akudingeki ucinge ngendlela yokuzithemba. Kungcono ukufunda ukuvavanya ngobuchule ubuchule babo kwaye benze ukuphuhlisa.
Indlela yokuhlakulela ukuzithemba?
- Kukho izizathu ezininzi zokungabi nantembelo, kodwa ukuxinezeleka kudla uxanduva. Indlela yokubuyisela ukuzithemba kwimeko? Kufuneka ukuba uqiniseke ukuba awukho uxanduva kwizinto ezenzekile (okanye emagxeni akho zihlala kuphela inxalenye encinci yecala). Kutheni kubalulekile ukwenza oku? Ngenxa yokuba, xa sibhekene noxinzelelo, sibhekene nokusilela, sizama ukufumana ityala, kwaye indlela elula kakhulu ukuzigweba - bonke abanye abaqeqeshiweyo, abanako ukuphosakela. Yaye indlela yokuphinde uqiniseke ukuba uziva unetyala? Ewe kunjalo, akukho nanye kule nto iza kusebenza. Ngoko funda ukuqonda ukuba awukwazi ukulawula yonke into.
- Ngaba uyazi ukuba ziphi iimfihlo zokuzithemba ngabantu abaninzi abaphumelelayo? Ukubonakala kwazo. Ujonge ukuthunyelwa komntu onjalo, ngendlela yakhe yokunxibelelana, awusoze wathetha ukuba esikolweni wayegqoke iziglasi kwaye wayengaphandle kwikhosi. Ewe, uyaqonda indlela yokufumana ukuzithemba? Ukulungisa umva wakho, lungisa amahlombe akho, uphakamise phambili kwaye phambili. Ungazivumeli ukuba ungathandabuzeki ukuba awukwazi ukwenza into ethile, unokufezekisa yonke into oyifunayo (ngaphandle kokuba awukwazi ukufumana iNyanga ukusuka esibhakabhakeni kwaye ngenxa yokuba ukwesaba ukukhupha ama-cataclymsms).
- Indlela yokuphakamisa ukuzithemba? Ngokwemvelo ngokusetyenziswa kwansuku zonke. Zifundise ukufezekisa into yonke imihla. Cinga ukuba kufuneka unike isaphulelo xa uthengela iimpahla, ngoko umbuze. Nangona uyanqatshwa, uloyiso luya kubakho ukuba unqabile ukuzingela ngokwakho.
- Funda ukuzidumisa kuzo zonke iimpumelelo. Kwanjalo
encinci, njengomntu oqinileyo "ona" kunye nesicelo sokwenza umsebenzi wakhe. - Indlela yokuphumelela xa ungagqibi ukuzithemba? Ngokuqhelekileyo awudingi nantoni na, cinga nje ukuba ufanelekele zonke izinto ezifanelekileyo. Unemfundo enhle, ingqondo eqiqayo, ihlabathi elityebileyo, ukhangeleka kakuhle. Ingaba loo ntokazi ingafanelanga indawo engcono, indoda enhle, ubomi obonwabisayo? Ukuba uvakalelwa kukuba ngamanye amaparitha akayi kubamba ibha efunwayo, zize uzibandakanye ekuzikhuleni, uqale ukuhlawula ngakumbi ukuzinakekela.