Ngenxa yokuba indlela yokuphila phezu kweenkulungwane zokugqibela ishintshile kakhulu, abaninzi abafazi bayazama ukufana nabantu. Amagama ahlaselayo, afaneleke ngakumbi kumlingiswa wamadoda, njengendlela yokubonisa ulwalamano lwabo. Ukusebenzisa amagama afanayo entetho yakhe, ibhinqa lizama ukufumana igunya.
Ungayeka njani ukuthukisa intombazana?
Kwintetho enhle kunye nenkcubeko akufuneki kube ngamazwi angenakuguqulwa, ngamanye amagama - amathala. Kodwa kwenzeka ukuba yonke indawo: eofisini, ezothutho zikawonkewonke, ipaki yedolophu, idilesi yesikolo. Ukuba le ntombazana inomdla kakhulu kumbuzo wokuba ungayinqanda njani ukuhlambalaza, oko kukuthi, icebiso eluncedo. Okokuqala, kufuneka ufumane izizathu. Mhlawumbi, le ntombazana inabantwana abancinci kwaye ayifuni ukuba ivakaliswe. Okanye sifuna ukuba yintombazana efundiswe kwaye efundiswe.
Iingcali zengqondo kule nkcazo zincoma ukuba zifunde ukufundiswa kwamagama obhaliweyo, okunye okunye okubhekiselele kulwimi oluhlazo.
Indlela yokuyeka ukungena?
Njengoko nawuphi na umkhwa omubi, ukusuka kumagama angcolileyo kufuneka ulahleke ngokuthe ngcembe. Isinyathelo esibalulekileyo kule meko kukuqonda ukuba into kufuneka iguqulwe ebomini nasekuziphatheni. Qonda ukuba elinye iqabane livale intetho kwaye alenze intombazana ibe yinto enhle. Kwiingcinga kunye namazwi kufuneka kube ne-positive, kwaye ikamva liya kukhanya ngakumbi kunamhla.
Funda indlela yokubonisa iingcinga zakho kunzima kubantu abajwayele ukufungela izinto ezimbi, kodwa ukuba ufuna, zonke izinto ziyakulungiswa. Kubalulekile ukulandela intetho yakho. Ukwenza oku, ungasebenzisa i-gum yonyango, egugu kwikhanda kunye nanini na xa ubiza igama elihlazo ukuba ulilibale. Intlungu encinane ngokuchofoza i-gum elukhumbeni iya kuncedisa ekugqibeleni i-reflex kwaye inokunceda ukuphelisa ingxaki yendlela yokumisa intombazana ukuba ingafungi.