Ukuziphatha okuzidlayo kubonakala ngabantu abaninzi, ngokukodwa kwintlalo yanamhlanje. Ngokuqhelekileyo uphawu olufanayo lwesibonakaliso luvela kubuntwaneni, xa abazali bevumela umntwana ukuba enze konke, ngokude nje akalili kwaye ujabule. Ngokweminyaka yobudala, izizathu zobugovu zibangelwa ukuba umntu uqhubeka malunga nezifiso zawo, engayithobeli abanye.
Iimpawu zomntu ozizingca
Kubantu abanjalo, ukuqaphela nokuvunywa kwabanye kubaluleke kakhulu. Bazama ukwenza nayiphi na inyathelo kuphela ngenzuzo yabo. Ukunxibelelana nomntu ozigwenxa kuhlala kuhlukile, kuba nayiphi na isihloko esixoxwa ngayo, umntu uyithatha. Esinye isibonakaliso sinomdla kunye nokukhathazeka ngokugqithiseleyo ngokubonakala. Kwimeko yeimeko ezingahoywa, ukuzingca kubonakala kuba yi-egocentrism kwaye kwimeko enjalo inzondelelo yokuba yinto ephakamileyo kangangokuba umntu akaqapheli oko kwenzekayo.
Akunakuzingca?
Kukho imigaqo emininzi eya kunceda ukukhusela okanye ukunqoba le mpawu yomlingisi:
- Zama ukungacingi ngawe kwindawo yokuqala. Funda ukunika abanye kwiimeko ezahlukileyo, umzekelo, krupha umntu kumgca. Kubalulekile ukuqonda ukuba yeyiphi imeko ongayifumana kuyo, kwaye apho kungenjalo, ukuze ungapheli emva komntu wonke.
- Zama ukuzenzekela kwindawo yomnye umntu. Oku kuyinyani ngokukodwa kwimeko yothando lobugovu, xa omnye umlingane engacingi ingqalelo enye. Kwimeko nayiphi na imeko ebalulekileyo, kufuneka unqamle okwesibini uze ucinge ngento ochasayo. Siyabulela kumsebenzi oqhelekileyo walo msebenzi, ukuzingca ngokukhawuleza kuya kulibala.
- Funda ukwabelana ngolonwabo kwaye uqaphele abanye abantu. Kubaluleke kakhulu ukufunda ukuvuya ngenxa yeempumelelo zabanye. Kwabaninzi, oku kunzima kunzima, kodwa kunokwenzeka.
Ukuba umntu unokukwazi ukuzithoba aze aqonde ukugxekwa, ngoko akunakwenzeka ukuba umbiza ngokuthi yi-egoist.