Kuye kwenzeka: isifo sele sibhekene nawe nomntu ongekho nto, kodwa awukwazi nje ukushiya uze ushiye phakathi kwengxoxo, kuba impumelelo yenkampani yakho incike kwisiphumo sentlanganiso? I-psychology yokunxibelelana nabantu iyasifundisa ukuguqula iintshaba zethu zibe ngabahlobo abathandekayo, ngaphandle kokulibala ngexesha elifanayo ukubonisa indlela yokufumana ulwimi oluqhelekileyo nabantu babantu abanobunzima kakhulu.
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Ngaba uhlala uqaphela ubuchule bokuthetha? Oko kukuthi, unxibelelwano lwakho lunjani? Ukuze incoko ibenze uhlale ujabulisa, kwaye ingekho ukuphelelwa ngumzimba, kuyimfuneko ukuqonda umdibaniselwano womntu, ukucacisa indlela ayenzeka ngayo kwiintetho ezithile, masithi, ukuba simbone ngaphakathi. Ngoko ke, sebenzisa ezi zinto zilandelayo zengqondo zoqhagamshelwano phakathi kwabantu, ngenxa yokuba kuya kubakho ukulungiselela ukuba unxibelelwano:
- Impembelelo kaFranklin . Wonke umntu uyazi ukuba lo mntu ube neetalente ezininzi. Ngoko, xa wayefuna ukuphumelela ukuthembela komntu owayengathandeki kuye. UFranklin wamcela ngokukhawuleza ukuba aboleke incwadi. Ukususela ngoko, ubudlelwane phakathi kwababini bububele. Ingongoma yonke kukuba xa umntu ethanda ukukwenza, emva koko, ube ngaphezu kokuzithemba, lo mntu uya kuphendula kwisicelo sakho kwakhona. Kwimeko elolo hlobo, umntu uyazibona "ngerekhodi" kuye kwinani labo baya kumnceda, xa kwenzeka.
- Umnyango uqonde ngqo ebunzini . Ngaba ufuna into evela kumnxibelelanisi? Mbuze kuye ngaphezu kokuyimfuneko. Kakade, ukhetho lokugatya alufakiwe. Emva kwesikhashana, mbuze ngokuphinda. Umntu onokulahla uya kuba nokuzisola kwaye, xa uvile isicelo esifanelekileyo, uzive unyanzelekile kuwe.
- Mimicry . Ukufumana uphando oluthe gqwaniso lweengqondo kunye nokusebenzisana kwabantu, umntu kufuneka aphendulele kwimisebenzi ka-Alan Pisa, indoda eyayifunde ngokubanzi iinkcukacha zolwimi. Ngoko, kwelinye leencwadi zakhe uchaza indlela yokuziphatha ebantwini, ekuthiwa "ukulinganisa" okanye "ukucamngca". Ngamanye amaxesha uyaziqonda okanye uphinda ngokuphindaphindiweyo ukunyakaza, ukunyameka koxhamli lwakho. Oku kuphucula kakhulu umnxibelelwano. Kutheni? Ewe, abantu banentlonelo kunye nabancinci, kodwa bafana naye.
- Amagama . UDale Carnegie, umbhali Wendlela Yokufumana Abahlobo Nefuthe Abantu, wabhala ukuba ngenxa yentetho yomntu, akukho nto ibumnandi ngaphezu kwesandi segama lakhe. Ukuqhubela phambili kulo, ngethuba le ngxoxo, ungalibali ukubiza umntu ngegama. Kuyafana nokwakhiwa komoya onobungane. Ngaba ufuna ukuba umnxibelelwano wakho abe novelwano kuwe? Mbiza ngokuba ngumhlobo wakho, kwaye kungekudala uza kuziva ugugu lobuhlobo bakhe ngobuntu bakhe.
- Mamela oku . I-psychology yokunxibelelana nabantu ngokukhawulezileyo ayincomo ukukhomba umntu ngenxa yeempazamo zakhe, ukuba ufuna ukumguqula umntu onjengaye. Ngaba ufuna ukubonisa ukungavumelani nento yakhe? Ngexesha elilandelayo, ukuphulaphula intetho yakhe, zama ukuqonda oko akuyiyo yonwabileyo. Mhlawumbi uxinezelekile okanye uxinezeleke ngento ethile. Zama nakuphi na umzekelo ukufumana ukuxhamla kwiimbono zakho,
kwaye ke, ukuchaza, qiniseka ukuba uqale isiphakamiso ngemvume yokuqala. Olu lokugqibela luqinisekisa ukuba umnxibelelwano akafuni ukushiya phakathi kwintetho. - Yenza kwakhona . Kwi-psychology yokunxibelelana nabantu abadala, le ndlela iphumelela ngakumbi kunaphambili. Uninzi lwabantu abanjalo bafuna ukuva nokuva, kwaye ngoko ke, zilungiselele wena, usebenzisa ukuphulaphula ukulalela. Ngamanye amagama: phinda uphendule oko umxeleli ekuxelele khona. Ngaloo ndlela, uya kuba nokwakha ubudlelwane obuhle. Kungcono ukuguqula ibinzana elivezwe nje kumbuzo.