Umntu ngamnye unomlingani-oku kuqinisekiswa ngokwesayensi. Kukho iimpawu ezivela kuthi ngenxa yokuzalwa, ezavela ngenxa yeempawu zendalo, njl njl. Kodwa yintoni indoda enomlinganisi? Sithetha ntoni xa sithi "unomlingiswa"?
Ukwenza uhlamvu
Oko sithethayo yintoni esithethayo. Wonke umntu ubeka iingcamango zakhe kwintsimi yento ekuthethwe ngayo. Kodwa ngokubanzi, iphuzu kukuba "umntu onomlingisi" ngumntu onokukwazi ukuwela "akafuni" kwaye "akakwazi", kwaye enze oko kuyifunayo kuye. Lo ngumntu onqwenela ngamandla.
Ngoko, ngokwenene, ungathanda ukwazi indlela yokuthukuthela umlingani nendlela yokuba "ngumlingiswa" umntu.
Iingxaki
Bathi ubunzima bubushushu. Kwaye inenyaniso yayo. Emva koko, umntu osindayo into eninzi esingazifumani ngayo ngokuqinisekileyo uya kusabela "kwiintlekele" zethu malunga nezinto ezincinci zobomi. Kodwa ubunzima buza kuvela kubo, asikwazi ukuzibiza, kwaye akukho mfuneko.
Ukuzivocavoca
Kukho iindlela ezahlukeneyo ezingabangela impendulo kumbuzo osihluthulayo: indlela yokufutheka intando kunye nomlingiswa.
Okokuqala, le njongo. Beka injongo, nikeze umhla wokusebenza kwayo. Yilungiselele ngengqondo into omele uyikhuphe kuyo into ethile ngenxa yinjongo, kwaye ke, qalisa uhambo lwakho.
Injongo kuphela kufuneka ibaluleke kakhulu kuwe.
Kukho indlela elula: yenza ukhangele kwisandla sesibini sewashi yonke imihla ngemizuzu emi-2. Ngexesha elifanayo, zikhuphe ukucinga malunga nantoni na, kwaye ngokukhawuleza xa utyelela ingcamango encinci - qalisa.
Kwaye, okwesithathu, kodwa kungengokugqibela. Yenza into oyikayo. Uloyiko lokuzibonakalisa kumntu wakho wokuqala, owathi, njengokuba uyazi, akusekho yedwa, hamba uye uye. Zibalele ngendlela enobubele, ngokuthe ngqo, utshabalalise yonke into "andifuni," "Ndiyayika," "andinako," kwaye uya kuzinqoba.
Umntu onomlingani uhlala ephumelele ukunyameka kwakhe.