Ukukwazi ukukhusela imbono yombono, ngelixa ugcina intlonipho kunye nesimo sengqondo esifanele kwabanye, kufana nobugcisa. Oku akunakwenzeka kumntu wonke, iingxabano zisoloko ziphendukela ekusebenziseni kakubi, njengoko abachasileyo bayalibala malunga nesihloko sentetho kwaye bajika kubuntu. Singaxelela ukuba abantu abanjalo abanalo imfundo, kwaye sinokucinga ukuba izinga labo lokubambezela liphantsi kakhulu kunxibelelwano olwaneleyo. Ndiyakuvuyela ukuba imeko ingahlaziywa, ukuphucula lo mgangatho, uqeqesho luya kubanjwa, kwaye umntu unokuzibandakanya nokuzikhusela ngokwabo.
Vavanyo lwe-Assertiveness
Ukuba ungathandabuzeki malunga nokukwazi kwakho ukuqhuba ingxoxo ebonakalayo, ngoko kukufanelekile ukugqithisa uvavanyo olulula lokuqinisekisa. Kufuneka uphendule "ewe" okanye "hayi" kule mibuzo elandelayo, emva koko uza kubala amanqaku uze ufumane iziphumo.
- Uyacaphukisa ngezinye iimpazamo zabantu.
- Ngexesha elide ulala.
- Unokuzinyamekela ngokwakho.
- Uyakwazi ukukhumbuza umngane womsebenzi.
- Ukubambisana kunomdla ngakumbi kunobambiswano.
- Ngamanye amaxesha uhamba nge "hare".
- Uhlala uzixhaphaza ngaphezu kwezinto.
- Uzimeleyo kwaye usombululo.
- Uthanda wonke umntu owaziyo.
- Ukholelwa kuwe, unamandla okujongana neengxaki ezikhoyo.
- Ngoko ke ilungiselelwe ukuba umntu uhlale egcina izinto zakhe kwaye ahlale ekwazi ukukhusela.
- Awusoze uhleka amahlaya angcolileyo.
- Uyabona igunya kunye nokubahlonela.
- Awuze uvumele ukuba ulawulwe kwaye usoloko ukhonkxa.
- Unika inkxaso nayiphi na inxaxheba entle.
- Awuze uxoke.
- Wena ungumntu osebenzayo.
- Uloyika kakhulu ukuhluleka.
- Uyavumelana nale ngqungquthela "Isandla soncedo kufuneka kuqala kufuneke kufuneke ehlombe lakhe."
- Uhlala ulungile, nokuba abanye bacinga ngenye indlela.
- Abahlobo banempembelelo enkulu kuwe.
- Uyavuma ukuba inxaxheba ibaluleke ngaphezu kokunqoba.
- Uhlala ucinga ngemibono yabanye ngaphambi kokuba wenze nantoni na.
- Awukhweleli nabani na.
Ngoku kela ukuba ziphi na izihlandlo eziye zathi ewe kwimibandela yamaqela A, B kunye neB B. Iqela A yimibuzo 1, 5, 7, 11, 13, 18, 21, 23. Iqela B - 3, 4, 8, 10 , 14, 17, 19, 22. Iqela B - 2, 6, 9, 12, 15, 16, 20, 24.
- inani eliphakamileyo leempendulo kwiqela A. Uyakuqonda ukuba yiyiphi inqobo, kodwa ungasebenzisi olu lwazi ngokwenza. Uhlala uthabisayo wena nabanye;
- inani eliphakamileyo leempendulo kwiqela B. Unako ukukwazi ukuzimisela kakuhle, sele usenza ngendlela efanelekileyo. Ngamanye amaxesha iinzame zakho zizityhalalwa kubudlova;
- Ininzi enkulu yeempendulo kwiqela B. Unamathuba amaninzi okuqonda ukuqinisekiswa, kuba unako ukuzihlolisisa ngokuqinisekileyo, sisiphi isiseko esibalulekileyo ekufundeni nasiphi na isakhono;
- inani elincinci leempendulo kwiqela A. Awukwazi ukuhlala usebenzise onke amathuba okuba ubomi bukunike, kodwa akusiyo inhlekelele, funda nje ukuhlala ngokuvisisana nawe ngokwakho, uqonde oko ufuna ngokwenene;
- inani elincinci leempendulo kwiqela B. Ukuqinisekiswa kungafundwa, umnqweno omkhulu;
- inani elincinci leempendulo kwiqela B. Esi siphumo sibonisa ukugqithiswa kwamandla kunye nokungaqiniseki. Uzibona ungcono kunokuba ungubani.
Uphuhliso lokuqinisekisa
Ukuphuhliswa komgangatho ofanelekileyo, uqeqesho luqhutyelwa, apho ukuqeqeshwa kobuchule bokubambisa kwenziwa. Kodwa unako ukuzisebenza ngaphandle kokuya kwiikhosi. Kule nto kubalulekile ukukhumbula imigaqo embalwa engundoqo, ukugcinwa okuyimfuneko ukuze uqeqesho luqiniseke.
- Phendula ngokukhawuleza nangokufutshane.
- Ukuba ungathandabuzeki ubulumko besigwebo, cela inkcazelo.
- Xa uthetha, jonga umntu, jonga utshintsho kwizwi lakho.
- Ukuvakalisa ukukhathazeka okanye ukugxeka, kuthetha kuphela ngokuziphatha, ukuphepha ukuhlaselwa kumntu womntu.
- Thetha egameni lakho.
- Zizuze ngeempendulo ezithembekileyo.
Ngamanye amaxesha ukuzama ukusebenzisa ukuqinisekiswa kubangela ukungaqiniseki okanye ukuziphatha okubi . Ungazithengisi ngokwale nto, kodwa hlalutya imeko kwaye uzama ukuqonda ukuba yintoni iphutha lokukhusela ngexesha elizayo.