Nayiphi na iholide yeholide ayidabuli nje kuphela, kodwa nayo yinto enzima, ingakumbi kumntu ophethe indlu. Umbuzo wendlela efanelekileyo kwaye unomdla wokubhiyozela umntwana oneminyaka eli-1 ubudala, uxhalabisa oomama ixesha elide ngaphambi kokuqala kokubhiyozela okuzayo. Esi siganeko sentsapho asibalulekanga ngaphaya kwanoma yimuphi umtshato . Kungakhathaliseki, sithetha ngomntwana wokuqala, umntwana wesibini okanye wesithathu, uhlala efuna ukudibana nomhla wokuqala wokuzalwa kwakhe, ngakumbi xa kunokwenzeka, eyona nto yokuqala. Ngoku unokufumana iindlela ezikhethiweyo, indlela yokugubha umfana oneminyaka eli-1 kwindalo, ekhaya okanye kwindawo ethile yokutyela. Siyakholelwa ukuba zonke iindlela kufuneka ziqwalaselwe kungekhona kuphela kwiimali, kodwa ziqwalaselwe ngokubhaliweyo kunye nesimo somntwana omncinci wokuzalwa. Siyathemba ukuba iingcebiso zethu ekuhambeni kweeholide leentsapho eziphambili ziya kuza kubafundi ngendlela.
Ukubhiyozela umntwana oneminyaka eli-1 ubudala ekhaya?
Le ndlela yokubamba iintlobo ezinjalo, abaninzi banokubheka njengento enokuthengwa, kodwa umsikazi kufuneka enze yena okanye ngabahlobo bakhe imenyu, uyihlobise igumbi lokuhlala, afike nemincintiswano kunye nezinye iinkqubo zemikhosi. Ngokwemvelo, bayamenywa kwimibhiyozo yentsapho, egujwa ekhaya, kuphela izihlobo eziseduze, abazala kunye nabahlobo abathembekileyo.
Ukuhlobisa kwegumbi ngalolu suku kudlala indima ebalulekileyo kunokuba ukhethe izitya zomthendeleko, ngenxa yokuba i-interior ekhethiweyo ikwazi ukulungisa ngokukhawuleza abaphulaphuli abamenywayo. Ngoku i-fashionable for birthday not to hang a lot of balloons colorful, kodwa kwakhona ukwenza zonke iintlobo zamathoyizi ezivela kubo, zihlala zifuna ukungena kwiindwendwe ezincinci.
Abantu abadala baya kuzidlalisa nge-photo-report-photo evela kwiifoto, apho ungabona zonke izigaba eziphambili zomhla wokuzalwa ukususela kwiminyaka yakhe yokukhumbula. Ngendlela, enye yeenombolo zeprogram yividyo kliphu malunga nobomi bombhiyozo kunye nabazali bakhe abonwabileyo. Inketho eyinomdla kukuhlobisa igumbi elinomfanekiso omangalisayo wentsapho kunye nezithombe zootatomkhulu, oogogo, oomama kunye nonina, oomama kunye nobabeni abenziwe ngonyaka. Eli lithuba elihle lokulandelela ukuba zibukeka njani zifana nefana yakho yokuzalwa.
Enyanisweni, kufuneka ifakwe kwifoto yazo zonke iindwendwe kunye nomntwana wakho othandekayo, loo mifanekiso ibe yimifanekiso engabalulekiyo nayiphi na intsapho. Etafileni, wonke umntu makanikwe ithuba lokuthetha isicupho. Unokwenza oku ngohlobo lomdlalo othakazelisayo ngendlela yokufakela ikhandlela ngawo wonke umntu othetha intetho yentuthuko. Kwividiyo, ezi zinto zikhangeleka kamva kamva.
Xa ucwangcisa indlela yokubhiyozela usuku lokuzalwa lomntwana oneminyaka eli-1 ubudala, ungalokothi ulibale ngokudlala imidlalo yokuzonwabisa. Ngokomzekelo, cwangcisa iindwendwe zokubhula kunye nemiklomelo. Bayeke bazame ukuqikelela ukuba yiyiphi intombazana okanye intombazana yokuzalwa ephethe isidlo esithandayo, yintoni ubunzima bomntwana ekuzalweni, indlela amehlo akhe okanye umbala weenwele eziguqule ngayo. Ekupheleni kweqela, xa inkqubo ifika ekugqibeleni, unako ukumema wonke umntu kwiphepha elikhulu, apho wonke umntu angashiya isifiso esibhaliweyo senkwenkwe, awancedise ngomzobo wakhe othakazelisayo. Uhlobo olunjalo, olufakwe kwisakhelo, luyakwazi ukuhlobisa igumbi lomntwana ngobuchule obukhulu kwaye limkhumbuze nabazali bakhe iminyaka emininzi ngemibhiyozo ezukileyo.
Kulungile njani ukugubha usuku lokuzalwa lomntwana onyaka-1 kwiziko lokuzonwabisa?
Xa kukho imali eyaneleyo yokuqeshisa igumbi lokutyela okanye i-cafe, kunokwenzeka ukubhiyozela esi siganeko ngokubanzi kwaye ngokuvuya kunye neendwendwe ezininzi, ukutshintsha zonke iingxaki zokubhala iskripthi, ikhitshi kunye nokuhlobisa iholo ukuya kumahlombe ootitshala. Kuphela kufuneka kuqatshelwe ukuba ama-clowns, ama-fairies kunye nezinye iimpawu zomntwana wakho omncinci akakwazi ukuthokoza nje kuphela, kodwa uyothusa. Ngonyaka ongeyena bonke abantwana basabela ngokuzinzileyo kwisihlwele esikhulu sabantu kunye nokunyuka kwengqalelo kumntu omncinci. Thatha lo mzuzu obalulekileyo ukuze ungamcasuli umntwana. Ukuba izinto ezinjalo azibangela ukuba uxhalabele, kwaye kwiziko elikhethiweyo unayo ikhefu elihle kakhulu kwaye unamava amaninzi ekubambeni iintsuku ezinjalo zegama, uze udibanise iholo, ulungiselele iifesi zeeholide.