Ngokuqinisekileyo, uye wakuva ngokuphindaphindiweyo ibinzana ongenakukuthanda into ethile, kodwa ngamanye amaxesha ufuna ukucela umthandi wakho: "Uyazi ukuba kutheni ndiyakuthanda?". Nangona wena ngokwakho awuzange ucinge ngempendulo. Emva kwakho konke, uthando luhlala luphakamisa umnqweno wokucinga nokuthetha ngawe. Kwaye nokuba ihlabathi lehlabathi lihlala libuza isizathu sokuba sithandane kwaye, ngokuqhelekileyo, oko abantu bathandanayo, akukhamanga ukuba ezi ngcamango ziza kuwe. Masiye kwaye siza kucinga (iinkcazo zenzululwazi zincinci kakhulu), ukuba ngubani onokumthanda umntu, kwaye yintoni umntu onokuthi kumntu ukuchazela amandla okuvakalelwa.
Ngoko, xelela lo mfana izizathu: "kutheni ndiyakuthanda":
- kuba ndiyamthanda kufuphi nawe. Kuyavakala kungamangalisa, kodwa kuyinyaniso. Sivame ukuzithanda thina kunye nemeko yethu eduze komntu. Yingakho sifuna kakhulu ukuba into yokudumisa ihlale "isondele." Asiyithandi nje ngomntu, sithandana nomxholo othi "thina" njengomnye;
- ngenxa yokuba undiphupha. Iphupha livakalelwa ngobuntwana, xa ubomi bukhanya ngembono kunye nomoya wamandla. Ukuvakalelwa komzimba kuvuselela imibala yobomi kunye nemvakalelo yenkcazo apho yonke into inokwenzeka;
- kuba undiphefumlela. Emva kwezinto ozithandayo ofuna ukuba ngcono. Ndifuna ukumangaliswa, ukuphuhlisa-oku kukuvuyela kwisiqingatha sakho. Ekugqibeleni, ubomi bakho buba lunomdla ngakumbi kule nto;
- Ndiyakuthandana nawe. Ngothando siya kukwazi eli hlabathi libhetele. Uyandisa imida yakhe, ibe yinto evuyisayo kunye nenomdla. Nangona imvula eqhelekileyo iba yinto yemilingo xa uyibheka kwifestile, ubambe isandla sothandekayo wakho. Ufuna ukufumana eli hlabathi kwakhona, ngokusebenzisa i-prism yothando lwakho;
- Ndiziva ukuba ndihleli. Imvakalelo engabonakaliyo (ukunyamezela, uthando, ukunakekelwa) ngokuqhelekileyo kusishukumisela ukuba sixineke. Simele simthande, kwaye uyakunika eli thuba, yingakho unombulelo. Umvakalelo wokubonga ubaluleke kakhulu kubo bonke abantu, kwaye, njengomtsalane, ufikelela ebomini bakho nangakumbi uthando kunye nolonwabo;
- kuba mna ndiziva ndikhethekileyo. Kutheni ndiyakuthanda, kukufumana ithuba lokuzikhethela, isisithakazelo esincinci, ubuthakathaka obuthakathaka, udibanisa, kodwa uthanda njalo. Uyavuya ukuba ube nguwe;
- kuba mna andiyiki. Awunesabi ukuba ingomso iya kuba yimozulu embi, ukuba utitshala / umlawuli uya kuba ngaphandle kweentlobo, njl. Uyakhathazeka kuphela ngamaqabunga: nokuba uya kuyithanda ingubo yakho entsha, nokuba ngaba isidlo sakusihlwa siya kwenzeka kwaye nokuba uya kuba nexesha lokumhlangabeza. Kodwa oku kuvuyisa;
- kufuphi nawe Ndifuna ukunikela. Ubume buntu bunjalo ukuba sisoloko sineliseke ngakumbi kwinkqubo yokufumana. Ufuna ukunika nokunika, kwaye oku kukuzalisa ngakumbi ngothando. Ufumana okungakumbi, kwaye le nkqubo inxilisayo;
- kuba ndihlala ndiphupha ngawe. Kubonakala ukuba abo basetyhini, abasenobuntwaneni baqonda ngokucacileyo ukuba impumelelo yomntu, ngokukhawuleza "bayazi".
Nangona kunjalo, nangona uphupha into ethile engacacanga kwaye engaqondakaliyo, xa udibana nentanda yakho, kubonakala kuwe ukuba wayehlala ephantsi kwamaphupha akho; - kuba akudingeki wenze nantoni na, ukuze ndikuthande. Abayithandi nto, kwaye uthanda ukuqonda ukuba uthando lwakho lulolu hlobo.
Ukubuza isizathu sokuba simthande umntu, into ephambili kukugqiba nale ngcamango. Zonke iimpawu zayo, esizixabisa kakhulu (kunye nesithandwa sakho, nesona sidima esincinane kunazo zonke sijongwa kwisigxina esiphezulu) sisifundo sethu sokuzikhukhumeza, kodwa udibana nomnye umntu onomfanekiso ofanayo, oku akuqinisekisi ukuba kwenzeke iimvakalelo. Jolisa uvakalelo nothando kwaye ujabule!