Ukuba umfazi ucinga ukuba akadingeki ukuba asebenze amadoda, ngoko uyomntu onoyolo. Okanye, ngokuchaseneyo, akayivuyo, ngoxa engaphumelelanga namadoda kwaye ngoku kukholelwa ukuba ukuxhaphaza iingqondo zabo kuyinkalo yesibini. Kwimeko yokuqala, kunokwenzeka ukuba le ntokazi sele idibene nomyeni wakhe womntu, indoda eyiqonda njengayo, engenakho imifanekiso kunye nemaski. Nangona kunjalo, ubugcisa bokuxhaphaza buyingqungquthela kwisini esifanelekileyo ngcaciso, kusegazini lethu. Omnye umbuzo kukuba siyiqonda loo nto okanye siyayisebenzisa ngokungazi, kwaye nokuba sikwazi ukwenza ngokufanelekileyo. Makhe siqwalasele indlela yokulawula umntu, yintoni ubuchule bokusetyenziswa, kunye nantoni na ukuyisebenzisa.
Ukuxhaphazwa ngumntu-kutheni?
Ukuphathwa komntu kwindoda akuyiyo kuphela ulawulo lwakhe oluvulekileyo kunye neenjongo zobugovu. Yaye akuyiyo yonke into eya kuncika kwimpembelelo evulekileyo yowesifazane kuye. Naluphi na ukuphathwa kwezesondo eziqinileyo kuyinxalenye ebalulekileyo yobomi besini esicuthakathaka. Olu bubungqina bokubukeka luhle (bonisa amandla akho kwaye ufihle iimpazamo), utyalo lomfazi wesintu kunye nomdlalo wothando (ukukwazi ukwenza umdla), ukunakekela nokunyamekela (umnqweno wokubonisa ukuba indoda ayikukhathaleli).
Nayiphi na ubudlelwane phakathi kwendoda nomfazi ibonakala ngorhwebo: ukuba ufuna into ethile kumntu, unomvuzo kuye. Le yindlela ekhethekileyo yokuxhaphaza indoda. Kwaye okokuqala, ibhinqa limele liphendule lo mbuzo: kutheni kufuneka ayenze oku okanye ukuba malunga nendoda, ufuna ukufezekisa ngolu hlobo? Ukuba oku kumenza abe nolonwabo ngakumbi, ke lo mthandayo naye u-ennobles.
Ukuphathwa komntu - njani?
Kukho iindlela ezahlukeneyo zokuphatha indoda, enye yeyona nto iphambili kukuba "ukubandakanya ibhinqa." Oko kukuthi, ukuba ufuna ukufezekisa into evela kumntu, kufuneka umenze abe nomtsalane. Emva koko, akakwazi ukuqiqa ngesizathu, kodwa uzive ekho amandla akho. Indlela engcono kakhulu yokuphuma kule meko kukukwenza oko ucela.
Ngakolunye uhlangothi, umntu akafanele adibanise inkululeko yendoda ethandekayo, engafuni into ethile kuye. Kukulungele ukubuza okanye ukumkhathalela kakuhle, kwaye ukuba awufuni ukuba enze into ethile, mnike enye indlela ebalulekileyo. Izindlela zokuxhaphaza abantu zilula, zisekelwe kwinto enye elula. Udinga ukukholisa indoda ukuba wenza into engekho ngenxa yokuba uyibuze, kodwa ngenxa yokuba wayeyifuna.