Ukuziva konke, kuhlabelelwa kuyo yonke iinkulungwane ngeepatethi zehlabathi, umvakalelo onika imbala yemibala yemihla ngemihla. Igama lakhe luthando , kodwa kaninzi ludidekile ngothando oluqhelekileyo, liphi ifu ingqondo, ivimba ukucinga okuvakalayo. Ngoko, yintoni umehluko phakathi kothando nothando? Akunakwenzeka njani ukuwela emgibeni weemvakalelo?
Indlela yokuqonda uthando okanye uthando: iinkcazo ezisisiseko
Uthando luvakalelo oluphezulu, ukuqinisekiswa kokuphila. Isiseko saso sinokuthembela ngokupheleleyo kumlingani wakho, ukuzinikela, ukulungele ukuqonda ihlabathi lakhe eliphakathi, amava, ngelixa ulahla inxalenye yakhe yokuzimela, i-ego yakhe.
Uthando, ke, alukho nto ngaphandle kwengxaki yengqondo ekwazi ukuxhamla kwiimvakalelo zomntu. Amandla amakhulu okuqhubela phambili kule nto kuxhomekeke kwinto enomnye umntu, umnqweno wokulidla, ingqalelo, njl njl
Iingqondo zothando nothando
Ngaphandle uhluko phakathi kothando nothando luba lukhulu kakhulu, kodwa ukuvakalelwa kokugqibela kunokuthiwa yi-antipode, eyahlukileyo yowokuqala. Ngoko, xa ukhwelwe kumntu kwinqanaba lomzimba, kukho ithuba eliphezulu lokuba akukho uthando apha. Ingqamaniso ebangela ukukhanga komntu omnye, ukunyameka kumfanekiso waloo mntu, ukubonakala kwakhe, iimpawu zobuso, njl njl. Ngaphezu koko, kukufanelekile ukubonisa ukuba uthando luphawu lwesigxina, oko kukuthi, ixesha elithile unokuba lunomdla kulo mntu, kwaye ke oku umdla, njengoko kwakukho.
Ngothando, akukho ziguquko ezibukhali zengqondo. Ubonakaliswa ngobumnene, ubunzulu, nangona uvakalelwa. Inokuqala kwayo, okokuqala, ekuthandeni ngokwayo. Hayi, akukho malunga nokuzingca. Kuthetha ukuba ngaphambi kokuba uthande omnye umntu, kufuneka ufunde ukuzivuma ngokwakho, ukulahla iimvakalelo zetyala, ukuvavanya okungakumbi, ukuzithelekisa nabanye, ukugxeka ukulungelelaniswa kunye neentlanzi. Ndiyabulela ukuzithemba emphefumlweni womnye, umntu unokuqonda into efihliweyo, efihlakeleyo kwamehlo.
I-Psychology of love ichazwe ngokucacileyo kwincwadi yakhe ethi The Art of Love yi-psychologist nefilosofi u-E. Fromm. "Uthando lukhululekileyo," - eli lizwi liye kuye.
Uthando lusondelelene ngokuxhomekeka komnye umntu, ongeke unike nantoni na, ngaphandle kweemvakalelo zengqondo ezibuhlungu.
Kubalulekile ukugqiba ukuba umehluko phakathi kothando nothando yilo:
- Umthandi unika umlingani wakhe, ngaphandle kokufuna into nayiphi na imali. Ngothando ulindele ukuba iqabane liyakuhlangabezana neemfuno zakho.
- Isinamathiselo ayiniki nto ngaphandle kokubandezeleka. Uthando lunamandla kunye nenkululeko yabalingani bobabini.
- Ngothando, akukho ndawo yokuzingca .