Indoda esatshatileyo kunye nomfazi otshatileyo - ingqondo yezobudlelwane

Kukho izizathu ezininzi zokuba kutheni abantu abadala abangatshatanga banokuqala ukuthetha ngokuthe ngqo ngakumbi kunokuba kunikezelwa oqhagamshelwano oluthile. I-psychology yobudlelwane phakathi kwendoda esatshatileyo kunye nomfazi otshatileyo isekelwe kwizinto ezilindeleke kuzo kunye nakubantu, ukuba le nto iyaziwa. Kwakhona kuxhomekeka kakhulu kwiimeko apho unxibelelwano lufumene uluhlu olutsha.

Izizathu zokuvela kobudlelwane

Akunjalo ngaso sonke isikhathi ukutsala phakathi kwendoda esatshatileyo kunye nomfazi otshatileyo ngokuphathelele ulwalamano ngokukhawuleza lukhula ebuhlotsheni obusondeleyo, ngamanye amaxesha kunokudlulela iminyaka, ngamaxesha apho amaqabane ayanelisekile ngokuqhagamshelana kunye nokuthandana komnye nomnye, ngaphandle kokuhamba ngaphaya komgca wokungcatsha. Ngokuqhelekileyo kwenzeka ntoni ukuba abazange bafumane ulonwabo kumtshato okanye bekugqityiwe okokuqala ngokubala. Uthando aluqhelekanga kwaye luphela, oluxhomekeke kwimeko kunye nemimoya yabalingani, luhlala ngaphezu konyaka omnye. Enye ityala - emva kokuba iqabane lomtshato lifumene ukuba ahlangani kunye, kwaye enye yazo "ishiywe" ukusuka ekugqibeleni, ngelixa inkani inqwenela ukunika umtshato.

Kwinqanaba elisondeleyo, ubudlelwane phakathi kwendoda esitshatileyo kunye nomfazi otshatileyo kunokudlula emva kwexesha, okanye uqale kuye kwaye ungasuki kwiimvakalelo ezinzulu. Oku kwenzeka: ekungonelelweni emtshatweni (ukuziphatha, ngokomoya kunye / okanye kwimizimba), ukusuka kwisisu kunye neengcinga ezikhoyo kunye nokulangazelela intsha. Ngokuqhelekileyo kukho uthando lwexesha elifutshane.

Ukuziphatha komlingani

Ngokuxhomekeke kwisimo sengqondo sale ndoda esitshatileyo, kunye nomfazi osetyhini kakhulu, ubukho boxhumano ngokwaso okanye isondo esithandanayo: unokuzifihla ngokukhawuleza (umngcipheko wokubetha, ubukho bomlingani onomona, abantwana, umtshato ongathandekiyo) okanye nje ungabhengezi.

Ekubeni ngokuqhelekileyo abantu abambini babethandana ngenxa yokubonakala okuthembekileyo kunye nokungabikho kwemingcipheko ethile edibene nabalingani abangatshatanga, omnye akufanele asabe (xa kungekho sizathu). Kufuneka ukuba uhlale phantsi uze ucinge ukuba kutheni ngokwenene bajoyine le nxu lumene noko bafuna kuyo. Ngokusekelwe kulo, hlengisa indlela oziphatha ngayo nokwakha ubudlelwane obusondeleyo.