Ibhinqa eluthandweni lisoloko liba luthando kwaye luthandana, nangona ngaphambi kokuqala kweemvakalelo ebezibizwa ngokuba "yintombi yensimbi". Abathandekayo baqala ukuphupha kwikamva eliqhelekileyo, intsapho, ikhaya, abantwana, uxolo nothando, ulonwabo olungenamlilo. Ngandlela-thile itshintsha yonke into elula kakhulu, yathandana-kwaye sele ingaqapheli ukuba ubomi ngelo xesha lilodwa.
Kodwa ngokuqhelekileyo abathandi bafumana iingcamango ezingathandekiyo, umzekelo, indlela yokulahla ukuwa ngothando. Okokuqala baxoshwa kubo, ngoko, bayaqonda ukuba le yindlela yokuphela kunye nosindiso olungenalo uthando.
Inyathelo ngesinyathelo
Kwimeko yothando, bonke abadlulayo bafuna ukumemeza ngovuyo lwakhe. Kodwa ekuzama ukukrazula le mvakalelo, sihlala sisondele ngaphakathi kwethu-oko, ngokuchanekileyo, kuyahambisani noko kufuneka kwenziwe.
Ukuba uhlushwa yintando engathandabuzekiyo, xelela malunga nabahlobo bakho, abaqhelana nabo, izalamane. Xa uqhubeka uthetha ngawo, iimvakalelo ezingaphantsi kakhulu ozifumanayo. Yenza ngengqiqo yomntu.
Khangela inkxaso kulabo baziyo ukuphelisa iimvakalelo zothando. Kubalulekile ukuba uqaphele ukuba awuyena mntu ongenamdla kwihlabathi lonke, kwaye ngokukodwa, umfazi wokuqala "akanamathela" akwenzeki. Kukho ezininzi iincwadi, iifilimu, iiforam ezizinikezelwe kumxholo wokuwa othandweni. Ukuphazamisa ekuthandweni kwakho kwintando yokufunda i-biographies yabasetyhini abakhulu: ebomini babo ngamnye kufuneka kube yimeko kunye neengxaki ezingavumelekanga.
Qaphela ukuba uthanda. Ukuze unqobe into ethile, umntu makabone imeko yeyona nto. Ukuba uhlala usixubusha ingxaki, gxi ninisa ukuba awunanto nantoni na, awuyi kukwazi ukunqumla uthando, kuba awuyi kuqinisekisa ukuba khona kwayo.
Ngenyanisekileyo, yedwa kunye nawe
I-Psychology yabathandi banesici esinye sendlela: ukungabikho kokucaca kwengqondo. Ngeke ukwazi ukujongana nale ngxaki uze uqonde ubunzulu bayo. Ukuze "uxoxe" ngokucacileyo, thatha iphepha kunye nokubhalela kuwo onke amabango ebomini: indlela abayithandanga ngayo "inye", kutheni engakunxunguli (mhlawumbi akwaziyo ngeemvakalelo zakho), yintoni na intlungu yakho, kutheni ucinga ukuba ubomi ngaphandle "kona" akunangqiqo. Kwaye kuloo moya.
Unako ukusho konke ngokuzwakalayo (yedwa, ngaphandle kwabaphulaphuli). Konke oku kuya kunceda ukuqonda imeko kunye nentlalo yakho.
Thetha naye
Abesifazane bathetha ukuthetha ngendlela indoda efihla ngayo uthando lwakhe , nangona abantu besenza nje kangangoko kunamaqabane.
Indoda inokuba neentloni kunye nexhala. Emva koko akayi kukwazi ukuthetha okokuqala ngeemvakalelo zakhe, kodwa uya kunika umfazi umqondiso-uhlala phantsi ngokulandelayo, xa ejikeleze ezininzi kwiindawo ezingenamntu, amenze amnandi
Abasetyhini, beqinisekile ukuba bathanda ukungathandabuzeki, ncinane baqala ukuzonda abo bafana. Umzekelo, kwakhona ukususela kumsebenzi wokusebenza: ukudibana kwiporori, uyamthobela, njengabo bonke, kwaye uguquka, ahlaziye, okanye konke uhlala ethule.
Amadoda akakho ukuqonda ukuba sisenza ngokuthanda kakhulu. Ukuba uthanda, zama ukuthetha ngokunyanisekileyo nendoda uze ufake onke amanqaku angentla "kunye". Nokuba uza kuphinda abuyele, okanye zonke izithemba zakho ezincinci ziya kutyunyuzwa, kwaye uthando luya kuphazamiseka kwangoko.