Vumelana ukuba kukho ixesha lobomi xa ufuna ukuba phakathi kwenkxalabo okanye kwenye inkampani, okanye, ukuba uyayicinga le nqwenela kwisikhulu esikhulu, kwisixeko sakho kwaye kungekhona kuphela. Kodwa ke, kungakhathaliseki ukuba kuya kuhlungu, ingaba abaninzi abantu bacinga ukuba inkokheli yabo yokuthetha ayiphuhliswanga ngokufanelekileyo ngoku. Uyazibuza ukuba "njani ukukhangela umdla?", Kodwa ngoku ukukhangela impendulo akuphumelelanga? Emva koko ngaphantsi kwakho uya kukwazi ukulungiselela onke amanqaku angentla "e" kulo mbuzo.
Iindlela eziphambili zokutsala ingqalelo
Isazi sengqondo esaziwayo u-Eric Berne sathi ubuntu ngenxa yokuphila kwakhe, ukwandisa ukuzithemba , ukuphuhliswa kwezakhono zonxibelelwano, njl. Ngamanye amazwi, le nto ingqalelo. Ngako oko, ukunyuka okunjalo kungabini kwindlela yamagama kwaye kuthinte. Abanye abantu, bebona ukuba abanako ukulinda ukutshatyalaliswa okuntle, kubangele ukuziphatha kwabo okungafaniyo - okungekho. Umzekelo, abantwana abafuna abazali ukuba bawabonele bangasebenzisa amagama atyelela ingqalelo. Ukuba oku kungagcinwa ngulo mva, ke umntwana omncinci angabambelela kwisigwebo ngenxa yokuziphatha kwakhe kakubi, okuya kulandelwa ngokuqinisekileyo ukuba abafumani i-stroking efanelekileyo (indumiso yabazali).
Ngoko ke, masikuqwalasele uluhlu lweendlela eziphambili ezikunceda ukuba ungabi ngumphefumlo wenkampani kuphela, kodwa ukuba uqonde ukuba ungaluthabatha njani ingqalelo, zombini intombazana kunye nomfana.
- Zonke iintombazana, nangona kunjalo, njengamadoda athile, banandipha imiqondiso. Kodwa akusoloko kusebenza. Kuba kulungile ukukhumbula ukuba akufanele uyilibale ngokubonakala kwakho. Ngoko, abantu, ngokuqhelekileyo, baqwalasele imilenze emihle kunye namabele. Kodwa khumbula ukuba ukungcola kuyabalisa isondo esahlukileyo. Izixhobo ezahlukeneyo azigcini nje ngokuzalisa umfanekiso, kodwa nazo ziyakwazi ukuthobela ingqalelo kwiindawo ezithile zomzimba wakho. Ngokomzekelo, ukufaka amasongo kunye namakhanda, musa ukulibala ukubeka izandla kunye nezipikili ngendlela. Kwabafazi, kwindawo yokuqala, ukubonakala komnxibelelwano kubalulekile. Kwaye oku kuphakamisa ukuba kufuneka uzame ukubukeka kakuhle kwaye ulungele kakuhle.
- Ungakulibali ukuba umomotheka unokutshilo kakhulu, bonisa ubumnandi bendalo yakho. Uhlala ekwazi ukukhanga abantu. Nangona udibene nomntu kuphela, ukumomotheka kwakho kulula ukuxelela umntu odibana naye ukuba iinjongo zakho zihlambulukile.
- Khumbula ukuba ngaphandle kwamazwi alungileyo, kukho ulwimi lomzimba, olungenanto. Emva kwakho konke, phantse yonke ingcaciso umntu aqonda ngayo ngoncedo lomntu ongeyena umlomo. Ngoko ke, sincoma ukuba usebenze phambi kwesibuko somzimba. Ngenjongo yokuvavanya ukuhamba okusebenzisa xa uthetha. Mhlawumbi, phakathi kwabo kukho abo bahlutha abantu abavela kuwe (umzekelo, "Isikhundla esivaliweyo": ukuwela iingalo kwisifuba).
- Indlela yokutsala ingqalelo kwindoda yabasetyhini okanye yamadoda? Musa nje ukwesaba ukuba ngumqalisi wencoko. Akukho sizathu sokwesaba ukuba uya kuthetha kuqala. Ngokuchasene noko, abaninzi abantu bahlonipha abantu,
ngubani ongesabi ukuthabatha izithintelo zikaRhulumente ezandleni zakhe. - Ukuzithemba. Uluntu alwamkeli ababuthathaka, bahlala bekhononda ngobomi. Khumbula umthetho wendalo yonke: "Unamandla ngakumbi."
- Ukuba awuyazi apho ungayifumana khona, ngoko siyakukunika ingcebiso: inokuba yinto eninzi, imimandla yezemidlalo, imiboniso.
Ngamaxesha onke ulungele ukunika ithemba lakho kwabanye. Kodwa, ukuba iinzame zakho zokutsala ingqalelo ekuqaleni zingazange ziphumelele, ungaze udikibala. Funda kwiintsana: ngaphambi kokuba baqale ukuhamba, bawa ngamaxesha amaninzi, kodwa ke bavuka kwakhona njalo njalo baze bafezekise.