Ukwahluka kwiminyaka engama-20

Wonke umntu uyazi ibinzana elithi "Uthando lwamaxesha onke luthobela." Abaninzi bakholelwa ukuba unokuhlangana nomntu womphefumlo wakho, intliziyo yakho, kwiminyaka engama-20 ne-50. Ukusuka kwesikrini semathelevishini eluhlaza, ngamehlo ajabulisayo, abatshatileyo bajonga ngathi, abaneminyaka yabo yobudala imida engaphezulu kweminyaka eyi-10. Kodwa nayiphi na intombazana ebomini bokwenene, ezimisele ukudibanisa ubomi bayo nomntu ophindwe kabini, ngokuphindwe kathathu ubudala bakhe, usengozini. Makhe sizame ukufumana into yokufihla umngcipheko onjalo kwaye kufuneka yintoni umahluko ophezulu kwiminyaka yabatshatileyo .

Ukwahluka kwiminyaka engama-20

Nangona intombazana eneminyaka engama-20 kwaye uneminyaka engama-40, kubonakala ukuba konke kulungile: ufana nawe, uzele uthando, iiminqweno namandla. Kodwa ixesha lithatha umthwalo walo kwaye kuya kwenzeka ntoni xa unama-40 ekhefu? Kwaye, kungakhathaliseki ubunzima obubonakalayo, amantombazana athandekayo aphakama echibini kunye neentloko zawo, evala amehlo abo kwinto yokuba kunomda omkhulu kumtshato wabo?

1. Izizathu ezinamanye amaxesha ngamanye amaqumrhu kumtshato walolu hlobo. Ngoko, umntu okhulileyo ngumntu ocebileyo, onako ukubonelela yena kuphela, kodwa umfazi wakhe. Ngokuqhelekileyo, ukusebenzisana okunjalo kufana nesivumelwano sebhizinisi.
2. Ukuba le ntombazana yayingenalo uthando lwabazali ebuntwaneni bakhe, ayinakunyulwa ukuba yinkwenkwe yale minyaka ukuba ibona indoda yamaphupha akhe.
3. Kukho uluhlu lwamadoda, ekubomi bentsapho, ngokudlala ngokuzithandela indima yomcebisi, kunye nabasetyhini, nabo bafunda. Ngoku, ukuba abantu babini badibana kunye nexanduva lweentsapho, ngoko kuya kwenzeka ukuba ubomi obatshatileyo buya kuphumelela, nangona ukuba kule nxulumano yobudala bexesha lidlala indima ebalulekileyo.
4. I-Psychology ayibandakanyi ukuba kungenzeka ukuba abathandi ababini baziva bevalelwa ngokwenene kwaye kulo mzekelo umehluko kwiminyaka yabo idlala ihlaya elibi.

Umlinganiselo ophezulu kakhulu weminyaka

Kubalulekile ukuba uqaphele ukuba uphando olwenziwa yi-American Sociological Institute yoFundo lweNtlalontle, kwi okubandakanyekayo malunga namawaka amabini amabhinqa namadoda, kubonisa ukuba, ngelishwa, kuphela i-1% yabaphendulayo bakholelwa ekubeni kukho ubuhlobo obuhle kunye namadoda abancinane kunabesifazane bawo. I-40% yaqaphela ukuba kubo abahlukeneyo beminyaka yobudala beminyaka engama-4, kwaye i-30% ibambe uluvo lokuba iminyaka emi-5 okanye-6. Iingcali zihlalutye zonke iimpendulo zaza zafika kwisigqibo sokuba umlinganiselo wobudala obuhle kakhulu ungama-4.4 iminyaka.

Ngoko ke, ukuba ukhumbule iinkwenkwezi zenkwenkwezi, umahluko phakathi kweminyaka engama-4.5, umzekelo ocacileyo wenkosikazi u-Elizabeth II (iminyaka eyi-87 ubudala) kunye nomyeni wakhe uPhilip Mountbetten (92) ngokukhawuleza bafika engqondweni.