Akunjalo nje namhlanje, kodwa ngamaxesha onke, uthando olungelona luhlobo aluzange lwenzeke. Ngaphezu koko, ukungafani, nothando olungathandabuzekiyo luyinto eqhelekileyo kunokuba ihlukaniswe. Kubonakala nokuba olo luthando olungelona luthando luyinto enamandla ngakumbi kunothando. Kuzo zonke iimvakalelo ezingathandekiyo ezithandayo, uvakalelwa intlungu enamandla, eyenza zonke iimvakalelo zomelele kwaye zibe nzima. Makhe sihlolisise ukhetho xa umntu eqonda uthando olungelona luthando, kunye nento enokuyenza kule meko.
Kutheni kungabikho uthando kunye?
Ngamnye wethu unomfanekiso ocacileyo woqabane lomntu obunzulu kwi-subconscious. Lo mfanekiso awubonakali ngokupheleleyo kuthi, asikwazi ukuwuqonda, kodwa sinokuyilungisa zonke iimpawu eziphambili zobunjani nokubonakala kumntu onesihawu okanye onomdla kuthi. Ngamanye amazwi, asidibana nendoda efanelekileyo, ubonakala nje ngathi. Kwaye kucacile ukuba umntu esicinga ukuba, ngokwenene, akunjalo. Le yeso sizathu sokuqala sothando olungelona luhlobo: asiyi kuthandana nomntu ongokoqobo, kodwa ngethuba lethu elihle, ngefantasy.
Kwiifilimi ezintle kunye ne-melodramas, uthando olungelona luthando luhlala luphela ngovuyo olugqibeleleyo, kodwa empilweni yangempela lunokubangelwa kwimiphumo embi nakakhulu. Umntu othanda ukungafuni, uzinikela ngokwakhe, uyaziqonda kwiimeko apho angayi kufumana khona uthando. Iyakhula kuyo iimeko ezinzima, iingcinezelo kunye nokuphazamiseka kwemihlaba, kunye nokudandatheka okude.
Iziphumo zothando olungelona luthando
Kubalulekile kwingxaki yokuthandana okungenakufunyanwa ngumdala. Into eyingozi kakhulu kubaselula ingaba yintando engavumelekanga. Yintoni enokuyenza kulo mzekelo kunye nendlela yokunceda umntwana? Emva koko, lo akayena umntu oqolileyo okwazi ukujamelana neengxaki zakhe. Ngokuqhelekileyo abantwana abaselula baqhuba isicatshulwa sabo esincinci kwiinkwenkwezi ezidumile ze-movie okanye iinkwenkwezi ze-pop. Uthando olungelona luthando luya kuba lububi obungathandabuzekiyo, kwaye umntwana wakho ubonakala ukuba akukho luthando.
Abazali abaninzi bacinga ukuba le ngxaki iza kudlula ngobudala, kodwa umfana kufuneka ahlawulwe ngantoni na, ngoko unokukrazula imiphumo engathandekiyo. Kule meko, kuya kuba kubaluleke kakhulu ukwazi indlela yokuncedisa uthando olungenakulandelelana nentombazana kunye nengqondo yakhe engumntwana onokukhubazeka. Zama ukukhathalela umntwana ngenye into, mfumene umsebenzi wangempela, qinisekisa ukuba unako konke okunokwenzeka kwaye udla ukuthetha kunye noontanga bakhe. Oku kuya kumphazamisa ekucingeni ngothando olungelona luhlobo kunye nokuhlala kwihlabathi leengcinga kunye namaphupha.
Siphatha uthando olungelona luthando
Kunzima kakhulu ukujamelana nothando olungenalo uthando kumntu omdala. Ubumba obunjalo, ngokuziqonda kakuhle zonke izinto ezingokoqobo kwimihla, akusekho umntwana osemtsha, oye kwiimeko ezininzi "uphuma" iingxaki zakhe. Siza kuzama ukunika iingcebiso ezifanelekileyo malunga nendlela yokulahla ngayo
- Fumana isibindi sokuvuma ukuba uthando lwakho aluhambanga, kwaye nayiphi na umzamo ayiyi kukhokelela kwisiphumo esifunileyo. Zixhomekeke kwiimeko zezinto - eli liyinyathelo lokuqala lokuphilisa.
- Qala ubomi ubomi boqobo. Gcwalisa yonke iminithi yexesha lakho, zama ukugcina intloko yakho ihlala neengcamango zothando olungelona luthando.
- Zithuthukise: ubhalisele iikhosi zoqeqesho, umzekelo, iikhosi zolwimi, ubhalisele kwi-gym okanye umdaniso, ufumane umsebenzi ngexesha lakho lokuzikhethela.
- Nika ixesha lakho lothando olungelona luthando olufundisa, lusiphilisa, lusenza sibe namandla. Ndikholelwe, emva kwenyanga / ngonyaka uya kuba nokukhangela emva kwexesha elidlulileyo ngokumomotheka.