Iingcali zengqondo zithi ukuthembela phakathi kwendoda nomfazi kuyisiseko sobudlelwane obude kunye novuyo, xa uyazi ukuba umthandayo uya kunceda kwiimeko ezinzima; xa ekwazi ukuthetha ngokungathandabuzeki kwayo, uqiniseke ukuba uya kuguqulela ngokucacileyo yonke imbonakalo yakho kwaye anike iingcebiso ezilungileyo. Hayi, ubomi buvame ukuveza izinto ezinzima, kwaye uyaqonda ukuba lowo uvulele umphefumlo wakho izolo, namhlanje unokungcola.
Ukulahlekelwa yithemba, ngokuqinisekileyo, kulula, kulukhuni ukuyibuyisela, kwaye ukuba umphefumlo unobungozi, kunzima ukuqonda indlela yokufunda ukuthembela kumntu, ngoko ke isiluleko sengqondo sengqondo, kule meko, ayiyi kuba yinto engafanelekiyo.
Indlela yokufunda ukuthembela kumntu-iingcebiso zengqondo yengqondo
- Ukuphulukana nokulahlekelwa yithemba kumntu omthandayo kunzima, kodwa ukuba ulwalamano, zama ukuthetha ngokunyanisekileyo naye, ngaphandle kokuhlambalaza, ukuhlambalaza kunye nokumangalela.
- Ukuba amabini omabini alungele ukuphulaphulana, zama ukuchaza isizathu sokuba akukho themba kumntu osondelene nawe.
- Kwintetho, ungacingi ukuba yintoni enye into eyithethileyo, musa ukuseta into into, mhlawumbi, ayikho.
- Zama ukuqonda iinjongo zesenzo, okwabangelwa ukulahlekelwa yithemba, ukufumana izizathu eziye zaqala njengeyona nto yokuqala.
- Khumbula, ingaba wanikela ithuba lokuba umntu othandayo uqale kuwe kuwe into yokufihla: ukukhethwa ngokugqithiseleyo, ukucaphuka rhoqo kunokuvusa ukuziphatha okunjalo kwendoda.
- Ukuba ithemba lithe lalahleka, lingabuyiselwa kuphela yimigudu yamacala omabini, ekuhambeni izikhalazo kunye nokusola. Kwaye ukuba ufuna ukuqonda indlela yokufunda ukuthembela intanda yakho, sebenzisa ingcebiso yesazi sengqondo, mhlawumbi, kunokusinceda nje kuphela ukufumana indlela yokuphuma kwimeko enzima, kodwa kwakhona ukuba uphinde ulahle ithemba nentonwabo.