Ngelishwa, ubudlelwane abuyinto efanelekileyo kwaye ngokuqhelekileyo abantu abanezithuba ezimbalwa ezedlulileyo badlulisela omnye amazwi amazwi omthandayo angabambana. Ukuba intombazana ixabana nomthandi wayo, ngoko kuphela into enokuyicinga ngayo ngokukhawuleza ukuba enze nalo mfana. Kwaye kukho iindlela ezinjalo, ufuna nje ukwazi.
Unokwenza njani uxolo kunye nomfana?
Ukuba kukho ingxabano esandula kutshanje, kulungile ukulinda encinane. Ixesha lokupholisa phantsi kunye nokuzinza kuyimfuneko kwintombazana kunye nomkhethiweyo wakhe. Emva kwakho konke, ngobushushu bentukuthelo, wonke umntu akavakalisi amagama angathanda ukusho. Ngako oko, intombazana kufuneka ikulinde iiyure ezimbalwa kwaye ifike emva kwayo okanye uyibize isoka lakhe ukuze uzichazele. Ezi iiyure zinokuthi zimele zichithe kwizinto ekumele zitsho kumfana ukuba ayenze, kunokuba avuselele ukuhlaselwa kwakhona.
Okokuqala, ungaqali ngento yokuba ngumntu omele axolise. Kungcono ucele ukuxolelwa ngokwakho. Yenza nje ngokucokisekileyo. Intombazana inokuthi yayingenakulungile ekungabikho kwakhe, okanye ngenxa yokuba akazange ayibone ngokukhawuleza indlela ubuhlungu okanye ukubaluleka kwalo mbandela kwakuxubusha ngayo. Akunakwenzeka na ukuba ucele ukuxolelwa ngenxa yezinto ezingahambelani nongquzulwano ezenzekile.
Okwesibini, umfazi kufuneka akhulume ngeemvakalelo zakhe ezavela kwimpikiswano. Umzekelo, unokubeka oku: "Ndivakalelwa kukuba andiyomfuneko xa uthe iifowuni zam zikuvimba." Ungamangaleli umntu, ungatsho ukuthi uphosakele. Oku kuya kunzima kuphela imeko.
Kwaye, ekugqibeleni, kuyafaneleka ukuphulaphula iqabane lakho uze udibanise. Esi sibini sifanele sithole isisombululo esisodwa, esiya kuhambelana nentombazana kunye nomfana.
Yintoni ebhaliweyo kumfana emva kokuxabana ukwenza?
Ukuba indoda ayifuni ukuphendula intombazana yeefowuni emva kokuxabana, kufuneka uthumele umyalezo. Emva koko, akufuneki konke ukuba umfana akafuni ukubona ngaphezu komntu owamcaphukisayo, mhlawumbi ukuba akakwazi ngoku ukuwuthabatha ifowuni.
Isigidimi sifanele sibe sisigxina kakhulu. Akuyimfuneko ukuba "ubhale inkondlo," kungcono ukunciphisa uxolo kunye nesicelo sencoko yomntu. Kwakhona, amaninzi amantombazana enza impazamo yokuqala ukuthumela umyalezo omnye emva komnye. Oku kungaphinde kumcaphukise umntu. Ngoko ke, ukuba uthumele umyalezo, linda ubuncinane iiyure ezingama-4-7 ngaphambi kokubhala oku kulandelayo.
Ukuba loo mntu akaphendulanga kwileta, unokumthumela umyalezo wesicatshulwa, umcele athi yonke into ilungile naye. Musa ukucinezela umntu, musa ukumxelela ukuba akalungile, ushiye umyalezo wakho ungaphenduli. Mane ubuze ukuba ufumene i-SMS kwaye ukuba ulungile. Le yinye yeendlela zokudibanisa nomfana. Emva koko, amadoda ayesoloko eyika loo mvakalelo ibhinqa libonisa, ngoko i-tone yesigijimi ithobile kwaye ukungabikho kweentlawulo kungamnciphisa.
Indlela yokuxolelana ngayo nomntu, ukuba waqhekeka?
Oku kwenzeka. Isiqabane sinokutshatyalaliswa ngenxa yamagama asisidenge kunye
Kakade, kule meko umntu akufanele athathe izigqibo ezikhawulezayo, umfazi akufanele alahle umyalezo kunye nesicelo sokubuyisela ubudlelwane okanye ukufowunela aze achaze ngothando.
Kungcono, ukuba intombazana iya kumnika umntu ukuba athethe, kwaye kwintlanganiso yakhe iya kuthetha ukuba uyazisola malunga nokuhlukana. Ukuba ukhethiweyo wakhe ufuna kwakhona ukuhlalisana ubudlelwane , uya kukuthabatha ukuthatha inyathelo kwaye acele ukudibana kwakhona. Ukuba uthando lomfana sele ludlulile, akukho nto enokuyenza, intombazana iya kufuneka yamkele le meko kwaye kungekudala okanye kamva uya kumfumana nothando lokwenene.