Ubudlelwane phakathi kwendoda kunye nomfazi mhlawumbi sisihloko esithandekayo, sisinceda iintliziyo zezizukulwana ezininzi. Inkokheli yamantombazana ikhetha umlingani wokuphila, ngoko, njengomthetho, ubhekane nobunzima obunxulumene nesimo, iminyaka yobudala kunye neembono ezichasene namaqabane.
Ngelishwa, namhlanje akukho zikolo zebhodi ezidlulileyo kunye nezikolo apho amantombazana afundiswa ukuziphatha kakuhle nendlela yokuziphatha nomntu ngesithunzi. Oomama banamhlanje bazimeleyo kwaye banqabile, ngoko baqonde le nzu lulwazi. Ukuncedisa abafazi kwimiba enzima, siza kuthetha malunga nendlela indoda ehlakaniphile eziphatha ngayo nendoda, ukuze uhlale ekhangele emehlweni akhe unomdla kwaye unomdla.
Indlela yokuziphatha nomntu otshatileyo?
Kubonakala ngathi indoda enomngxube wokubambisana esandleni sayo kunye nesitywina ngomtshato kwipasipoti yakhe ayikho into ebalulekileyo ebhinqileyo. Ngokwemvelo, oku kufanelekile, kodwa akusoloko umtshato kumntu - isibambiso senjabulo ebomini bakhe. Kukho izizathu ezininzi ezenza ukuba "isithembu samadoda" ingakhathazeki ukudlala ngaphandle.
Kulo mba, umbuzo wendlela yokuziphatha kakuhle nomntu otshatileyo uceliwe ngamantombazana amaninzi azama inhlanhla ekusebenzelaneni "nabalingane" abathandanayo. Ngelishwa, ulwalamano olunjalo luhlala lungathembekanga, kodwa lunomdla, luzele ngezinto ezimangalisayo kwaye, ngelishwa, izithembiso ezingenanto. Ngoko ke, indlela yokuziphatha ngokufanelekileyo njengomntu onentsapho yakhe, kungcono ukufumanisa ngaphambi kokuba uqhube endleleni yeso siqhwithi.
Kuyaziwa ukuba bobabini badinga isondo esikhulu kule meko. Ubomi obusondeleyo obunxulumene nobudlelwane busebenza njengenye yezona ziseko ezisisiseko zencwadana enomdla kwaye inomdla. Ngoko, bafazi abathandekayo, kufuneka nihlale nixhobile kwaye nincoma umthandi.
Nangona kunjalo, umntu osondelene naye akakwazi ukwenza, kuba kuyimfuneko ukuziphatha kakuhle nomntu otshatileyo kungekhona kuphela embhedeni, kodwa nakwizonxibelelwano. Kumlingane, ogcwele ubudlelwane ngokupheleleyo, akazange aqalise ukukhangela omnye umntu, uzuze uthando lwakhe ngokuqonda. Fumana into enomdla kubo bobabini, zama ukuchitha ixesha kunye kunye nesizathu esifanayo. Umzekelo, gxuma kunye ne-aqualung okanye uhlele izifundo zokuqhuba ngokuqhutywa ngaphandle kwesi sixeko.
Kukho iingcamango ezahlukeneyo malunga nendlela yokuziphatha kakuhle kunye neendoda. Into ephambili ayiyikulahlekelwa ngumntu ngamnye. Ukumangalisa umlingane kunye nempumelelo emitsha, ukufumanisa, umdla onomdla kunye ongaqhelekanga. Ngamanye amaxesha uchitha ixesha kude nomthandi wakho, ukhululeke kunye nabahlobo, uhamba. Ngoko uba yinto enomnqweno, umnqweno kunye nokunyaniseka, kwaye kungekhona umfazi wesibini wezindlukazi ezincinci.
Kwakhona, ukukhanya ngothando ngokubhekiselele kwicala akuyi kubuhlungu. Kwintombazana enendima yenkosikazi, ifana nokunyanga kwedwa kunye nendlela yokugcina iqabane elithile, xa lifumene ukhuphiswano, ngokukhawuleza liqala ukunqoba intliziyo yakho.
Indlela efanelekileyo yokuziphatha ngayo nomntu omdala?
Namhlanje siphila kwihlabathi apho ukuhluka kweminyaka phakathi kwesibini okanye iminyaka emininzi kuyimqobo yokuthandana. Ngoko ke, ngokuqhelekileyo kunokwenzeka ukudibana nesibini esibini esonwabileyo, enokubonakala ngathi iyafana noyise nentombi ngaphezu kwezithandwa. Kwabesifazane kwimeko enjalo, iingcebiso ezimbalwa malunga nendlela yokuziphatha nomntu omdala ziya kwamkeleka.
Khumbula into ephambili, musa ukumkhumbuza umahluko kuminyaka. Oku kuya kuphazamisa yonke imifanekiso.
Ukuba awuyazi indlela yokuziphatha nomntu omdala kunakho, kodwa uzive uvelwano oluqinileyo, kunye nomnqweno wokuhlala ujikeleze, kubalulekile ukuba ube nomonde. Okhethiweyo wakho akakwazi ukuchitha yonke imizuzu kunye nawe, kuba ukuze aphumeze zonke iinzuzo ezikhoyo, kufuneka asebenze nzima.
Ukwenza kube mnandi kwi-knight yakho, umbulele into akuthethayo kuwe, bonisa intlonipho ngemisebenzi yakhe yokuzilibazisa, umsebenzi, intsapho. Nangona kunjalo, nceda uqaphele ukuba amadoda amadala azinzile, ngoko-ke ungazenzeki. Phakamisa okhethiweyo ngezikhathi ngeziganeko ezimangalisa ukusabalalisa, ebomini obusondeleyo okanye ubonise ikhono lokucoca ekhitshini.