Ngenxa yokungafani phakathi kwamadoda nabasetyhini, kunzima kakhulu ukuba siqondane. Kubonakala ngathi sinxibelelana ngeelwimi ezahlukeneyo, ngamanye amaxesha ngenxa yokungaqondani kukho izikhalazo kunye nolwalamano nabantu abaluleke kakhulu kuthi. Ngoko ke, ukusebenzisana ngokuphumelelayo namadoda kunye nemisebenzi yobungcali, kwaye kwintsapho kufuneka ukwazi ukuba uyayiqonda njani indoda.
I-Psychology yamadoda - njani ukuyiqonda?
- loo mntu ucinga ngokuthula, ebonisa kuphela umphumo wokugqibela wokucamngca, kwaye bacasulwa xa ibhinqa livakalisa zonke iingcamango;
- uzimisele nje ukwabelana ngeengxaki, kwaye umntu uyayibona le nto njengefowuni kwisenzo;
- Amadoda agxininiswe kwinjongo ethile kwaye ayicasulwa xa ibhinqa liphuka kwisihloko sencoko;
- ngelixa uxoxa ngento ethile, indoda idinga ixesha lokuphendula;
- Amadoda aphikelela kwaye anzima, azibongela, azikhusele izimvo zabo;
- bahlala bezenza izenzo ezingenakugula;
- ukulawula kakuhle iimvakalelo zabo, ukufihla ubuthakathaka, ukuhlambalaza kunye nokuhluleka kwabo;
- ubona yonke imifanekiso ngaphandle kokuqaphela iinkcukacha;
- engazi kakuhle iimvakalelo abafazi abazibona njengezame zokugwema ingxoxo, kwaye baqwalasele abantu abangenakuqonda;
- ababonisi iimvakalelo kwaye bahlala befuna ixesha lokuba baqonde ihlabathi labo elingaphakathi. Impendulo yombuzo, indlela yokuqonda into umntu azivakalelwa ngayo, uya kuthathelwa amanyathelo athembekileyo, kungekhona amagama, kuphela ngale ndlela unokugweba isimo sengqondo somntu kuwe;
- zichanekileyo, kwaye aziqondi iingcebiso zabasetyhini. Khawuqwalasele oku, kwaye kuwe akuyi kuba yimfihlo indlela yokuqonda kangcono indoda.
Xa sisebenzisana nendoda, kunokubakho ingxaki, njengokuba kufuneka ukuba uqonde ukuba wayecaphukile. Ukuba umntu ubenokugculela - ngoko ke kunzima. Uya kuhlala ethule kwaye akayi kucela ukuxolelwa, kodwa unokuya kwiiklabhu kunye namaqela kunye nabahlobo bakhe, ebonisa ukuba yena ngokwakhe ulungile. Ngokumalunga nommoni, ngokukhawuleza ubonisa ukucaphukisa, unokumemeza nokunyaniseka.
Unokuqonda njani into efunwa ngumntu?
- umphulaphule, unako ukuthetha oko akufunayo. Ngokomzekelo, uphinda athi umlingane wakhe unomnxeba we-classy-mhlawumbi ufuna into efanayo;
- jonga ukuba ngaba abadobi bebubula buhlungu - ngokucacileyo, wayefuna intlanzi okanye intlanzi. Xa udlula ivenkile kwaye uyakuma ukujonga kwibhokisi yokubonisa kunye nebhebhulethi - oko kuthetha ukuba uyazijonga;
- ukuba ukhangele ubuso obukrakra phambi kwakho kwaye akakho kunye kwaye akaphulaphuli kakuhle - zimbini iindlela: mhlawumbi ukhathele kakhulu kwaye akakwazi ukulinda ukuphumla, okanye awunomdla kuye kwaye ufuna ukugqiba incoko ngokukhawuleza;
- ukuba indoda ifuna ibhinqa - ingaqondwa yimivimbo engapheliyo, iqhuba, ukuphefumla ngokukhawuleza kunye nabafundi abaxubhayo, okanye iya kubanga kunye nezenzo ezisebenzayo.
Ukwazi ukulungisa izifihla zabantu, uya kubona ukuba kulula kangakanani ukuqonda ukuziphatha komntu.
Indlela yokuqonda umntu kwaye ziphi iimfihlo zakhe?
- Abantu bayakuzonda ukuziva bengalunganga, becaphukisa xa abafazi bebona kuqala. Kwiimeko ezinjalo, okokuqala, ukuzithemba kwindoda kuhlupheka.
- Amadoda ayithandi xa umfazi exhalabile okanye ephazamisekile, ngoko uziva entloni kwaye akanakunceda, njengoko engakwazi ukumnceda ngenxa yokuba akaqondi iimvakalelo neemvakalelo. Ngoko ke, ungabi ngumfazi, ukuba ulinde uvelwano, umntu ufuna ukuthetha ngokuthe ngqo oko akumele akwenze.
- Amadoda azibonela ngokwabo kwimisebenzi kwaye bayakufumana kunzima ukutshintsha ingqalelo kwiingcamango ukuya kwiimvakalelo. Xa unenkathazo emsebenzini, akayi kuvakalelwa. Ukwazi oku
inkalo yengqondo yesintu, ungaphendula umbuzo wendlela yokuqonda umntu. - Amadoda athanda ukufundisa kwaye kaninzi atshabalala nabasetyhini abababonayo njengabacebisi.
- Amadoda afana nabasetyhini abahlakaniphile nabaqinileyo. Kodwa batshata nabasetyhini abavumela ukuba bakhokele kwintsapho, bazive bebaluleke kakhulu.
Ekuhambeni kwexesha, ukuba uyayinyamekela umthandayo, indoda iya kuba yimfihlelo kuwe. Kodwa ungacingi ukuba ungayiqonda njani amagama omntu-jonga izinto.