Uyakhumbula yonke into njengokungathi izolo. Iqabane lakho lithathwe emkhosini. Uyakhumbula iinyembezi ezikhethiweyo kunye nezithembiso zokulinda. Kwakunzima kangakanani ngaphandle kwakhe. Yonke imizuzu yokuhlukana yayibonakala ingunaphakade. Ngamanye amaxesha iileta ezingenayo zifudumala, kodwa ulindele njani uze uphoswe. Naye, ngokuqinisekileyo, kwakungelula. Enkonzweni kwimigangatho yemikhosi yanamhlanje kukho iingcamango. Abaninzi bathetha indlela abafana batshintsha ngayo emva komkhosi. Kwaye inyaniso yinkonzo kwimigangatho yemikhosi ngumcimbi obalulekileyo kwaye ungalibalekiyo ebomini ngamnye umntu.
Kwaye ke, ixesha lidlulile kwaye iqabane lakho livela emkhosini. Ngokuqinisekileyo, ukudibana nomfana ovela emkhosini kufuneka kulungiswe ukuze amkhumbule ubomi. Ndikholelwe, oku kubaluleke kakhulu kuye. Kwaye ekubeni ukulungiselela kunokuthatha ixesha elithile, kungcono ukuyiqala ngaphambi kwangaphambili, ukuze kamva ungenakuyenza yonke into ngomzuzu wokugqibela.
Kodwa ke, njani ukudibana nomfana osuka emkhosini, ukuze intlanganiso ihlale inkumbulo yakhe iminyaka emininzi ezayo.
Mthobele intlanganiso kwisikhululo. Akuyimfuneko ukuba le ntla nganiso iya kufana nomdlalo wefilimu apho intombazana idibana nomfana ovela emkhosini. Okokuthi, musa ukuya kwisikhululo sodwa, kuba kulo mzekelo, awuyi kuphelisa iinyembezi kwi-pyronome, neendwangu zokuvuya. Shayela bonke abahlobo bakhe, bhala iipowusta, bhalle ibhaluni kunye nokumemeza okukhulu "Hlalani !!!" kunye neengoma zithatha emotweni.
Nika umfana ithuba lokuchitha ixesha kunye nabahlobo-hambani ndawonye kunye nepakini. Ewe, ndifuna ukuba kunye ngokukhawuleza kunokwenzeka, kodwa ke uya kukhwaza ngeefowuni eziqhubekayo zabahlobo elinde ukunakwa kwakhe. Kwaye ke, emva kokuchitha ixesha kunye nabo, unako ukutshitshisa ungaboni. Ukuba uyaphawula indiza yakho, baya kuqonda.
Into ephambili kumfana emva komkhosi - oku okubizwa ngokuba yi-social adaptation "kummi". Isihlandlo sokugqibela sasisemkhosini kuphela. Wayenakho konke kwishedyuli ngqo: ukunyuka, ukubuyela ekhaya, ukutya. Kwaye ukuba indoda engaphambi komkhosi yayingenanto inokuyenza kunye nemikhosi yokuxhoba, kwakunzima kakhulu.
Ngoku ukuba le ndoda ibuyele emkhosini - ncedise ukuba alungelelanise - uye kwi-cinema okanye kumdlalo. Kuyinto enqwenelekayo ukuba isenzo sinobuhlobo obunothando okanye obuhle, andicinga ukuba ufuna ukubona ifilimu emfazwe.
Ungayifumana njani enye indoda ephuma emkhosini? Yisebenzise ityelelo le sixeko, ngokuqinisekileyo xa engekho kwisixeko kukho utshintsho oluthile. Kwaye ngoku, xa umfana evela emkhosini, uya kuba nomdla kuyo yonke into, nokuba oko, kwaye phambi kokuba engakwazi ukuphulaphula-isikhala esitsha, indawo yokutyela, umboniso womculi wendawo. Mxelele ngobomi bezihlobo kunye nabahlobo: mhlawumbi umntu otshatileyo, nomnye umntu unabantwana.
Musa ukulibala ukuba abazali bakhe balinde ngokungapheli nto. Mhlawumbi banxibe ietafile ezicebile nge-raznosolami, ewe kuyaqondakala-into endiyithandayo umntu ukuba adle. Kodwa kwakudla ukuba adle ukutya kwelizwe ixesha elide, okwakungekho mnandi kuye ngeentlobo ezahlukeneyo zokuvumba kunye neendapu.
Kodwa akukho mntu uthi ukuba ngaba abazali babeke itafile, ngoko awukwazi ukwenza okunye. Emva komthendeleko kunye nabazali kunye nezinye izalamane zimmema ukuba atyelele.
Amantombazana amaninzi anomdla kumbuzo: ngaba abafana batshintsha emva komkhosi? Kwaye bavela phi na? Impendulo engafanelekanga kule mibuzo awufumani, kuba bonke abantu ngabanye. Yintoni ekuthethwa ngokuqinisekileyo kukuba abafana emva kokuba umkhosi ube lukhulu kakhulu kwaye uxanduva. Zonke ezinye iinguqulelo, ukuba ziyakuthi, uya kuzibona ezinsukwini ezimbalwa zokuqala emva kokufika kwakhe.