Imvelaphi yepipi ibuyela kumaxesha amandulo xa abafazi bekhohliswa nguDon Juan, uGiacomo Casanova. I-pikaper yanamhlanje - ngubani lo? Umphandi womntu wesetyhini okanye umntu onokuzithoba ngesondo, kunye namantombazana enkqantosi kwizinto zokuzonwabisa ezithakazelisayo?
Ngubani umculi othabathayo?
Kwi-intanethi, umfanekiso wesipopu unempawu ezingathandekiyo kwaye ubangela ukucaphuka ngokwesini esifanelekileyo. Ngubani na umntu othabathayo? Lo ngumntu usebenzisa iindlela eziphathekayo zokukhohlisa amantombazana ukuze alale ngesondo aze apheleke kwiindawo eziphezulu ukuze anqobe oku kulandelayo. I-pickup ingafaniswa nomfanekiso we-moth ephuma kwientyatyambo ukuya kwientyatyambo.
Iipopu kwisitayela sephepha - yintoni na?
Iyiphi imifanekiso - ngowe-1992 umlobi waseMerika uPaul Jeffrey encwadini yakhe ethi "Indlela yokudonsa umfazi wamaphupha akho elele" wabiza inkqubo yokucola inkohliso kubantu abadiniweyo bokuzilungela, kodwa bengaphumeleli ngesini esahlukileyo. Ikhefu ekuguquleleni ukusuka kwisiNgesi. i-slang ithatha - "thabatha", "khupha" - ubugcisa bokukhawuleza ngokukhawuleza, obuvela eNtshona. Intlanganiso kwisitayela sepopu ihlala ekulawuleni "ukutyelelwa oku-3":
- Isigaba sokuqala - ukuqhelana. Ukukhangela intombazana kwindawo kawonkewonke: i-metro, iipaki, iiklabhu. Injongo kukufumana inombolo yefowuni (kungekho ngaphezu kwemizuzu eyi-15).
- Umhla wokuqala - iipopu idala umoya wokuthembela, isebenzise ukukhanya okukhawulezayo, ukujonga okubonakalayo. Ukugxininiswa ngokupheleleyo kwintetho yesantombazana ngaye, ihlala iyalathisa kulo mzila. Injongo kukukhupha inzala (ayithatha ngaphezu kweyure), kwaye intlanganiso iyenzeka.
- Ukuqeshiswa okwesibini kukukhwabanisa ngezandla: ukukhawula, ukuxubha, ukunyanzela, ukuzama ukubonisa ukuba uthathe intombazana. Ixesha likhawulelwe kwiiyure ezingama-4-5. Injongo yentlanganiso yenguqu ehamba phambili kwiintlanganiso ezi-3 kunye nesigqibo esivakalayo ngesondo sakhe, okanye ukuba le nto mbazana ayilungele, mema kuye kwesithathu.
- Umhla wesithathu . Injongo yesondo. Ngenxa yoko, ukukhethwa "ngengozi" kukhumbula ukuba kukho enye indawo enhle eyindlu yakhe, okanye igumbi labahlobo.
Liliphi iloli elihle?
Naliphi na inqubo enesici esicacileyo nesincomekayo. Iphoyinti yokuchazwa kwanamhlanje yahlula yaba ngamanzi: iipopi ezingcolileyo kunye nokukhohlisa ngamabomu. Akunabo bonke abantu abazi indlela yokuqhelana kunye nokuziphatha ngokukhululekile nabasetyhini. Omnye unalo lwentloni, abanye banenkathazo eninzi ngeendleko zabo, kodwa bahlanganiselwe umnqweno wokuziqhelanisa nentombazana ngobuhlobo obude. Iinkonzo zeloli yecala yaqaphela:
- ukubona kwibhinqa umntu onomhlaba wehlabathi ocebileyo;
- ukufundwa kolwimi lomzimba ukuze kuqaphele iimpawu, xa intombazana ingenzi ukungazi kakuhle;
- utshintsho lomntu;
- sebenze ngokuzithemba;
- ukufundwa kokwesaba okuvela kumhlobo
Yintoni ephosakeleyo ngeloli?
I-psychology yokupakisha yakhiwe kwiindlela zobuqili zokusetyenziswa kweenkqubo ze-neurolinguistic (NLP) ezisungulwe nguRichard Bendler. Ukusetyenziswa kwamaqhinga kubandakanyeka ngokubanzi iziteshi zokujonga: i-kinesthetic, i-audial, ibonakalayo, ixhoba lepopu liqaliswa ngoluhlobo lwe-trance, charm charm. I-pikaper engcolileyo - ngubani lo? Uluhlu lwabafana okuza kuthiwa umoya wokukhuphisana kunye nokugqwesa kuqala. Iinkqubo ezisetyenzisiweyo:
- Ukuphikisana nemigaqo yokuziphatha.
- Zijoliswe ekuphuculeni ukuzithemba kwentombazana. Kule meko, sebenzisa ibhanti, amahlaya ahlukeneyo (angagqoki kwindlela, iinwele zincinci, njl.).
- Ukuvakalela iimvakalelo, iimvakalelo. Unokuvela ngeziganeko ezingafaniyo: ukuthanda izilwanyana, ukunqwenela ukuhamba nokuthetha ngentshiseko ngawo. Amantombazana asabela kwiimvakalelo ezinjalo, oko kuthetha ukuba ukuthabatha kuye kwafikelela ekujoliswe kuyo.
Ungayiqonda njani umculi wepipi?
Abafazi abaninzi abajongene nomdlalo wokungathembeki wamadoda babuza umbuzo: indlela yokujonga i-pickup ebomini, ukuze ungabi noluvo lwentlungu "yokusebenzisa" kwakhona. Qaphela ukuba "i-macho" ingaba ngesiseko se:
- Kwakukho ukungathandeki xa kuthethwa.
- Umbuso ongeyena unobungozi: izenzo, iimvakalelo, ubuso, ubuso, iimvakalelo eziphikisanayo. Kubonisa uvuyo - kunye namagxa kunye nombono womlomo wehlisa, iingalo ziyawela phambi kwesifuba.
- Ingqwalasela eninzi ihlawulwa ngokubonakala: i-hairstyle engenakulungile, i-perfume ebiza.
- Ukuqala kwepikaper ufuna ukufumana umnxeba kwintombazana kwaye ufihle ngokukhawuleza, kunye "namava" uya kunika ingxoxo ixesha elithile.
- Incoko iqalisa ngamagama angagqibekanga angabandakanyeki.
- Indlela yokwahlula umculi wefayile evela kunomdla onyanisekileyo: ukuzitshintsha ngokwabo zikhetha indawo zokutyelela apho kungekho mfuneko yokuhlawula intombazana.
Kungekudala, i-baton ye-pick-up yafunyanwa ngabameli bezesondo ezibuthathaka. Ibhinqa le-Pikaper - ngubani lo kwaye yiyiphi imifanekiso yecala eyahlukileyo kwindoda? Amantombazana asebenzisa iindlela ezifanayo zokuthandana, kodwa iinjongo ezigqithiseleyo zingafani: ukuhlukanisa ngemali, ukuqokelela amadoda, okanye ukutshata. Ibhinqa linokuhlangana nabantu abaningana, kwaye wonke umntu uya kuqiniseka ukuba nguye kuphela.
Indlela yokunxibelelana nomculi we-pick-up?
I-Pikaper ngumntu oya kwinjongo yakhe, kwimeko ekhohlisayo kunye nesondo. Intombazana into ayifuni ukuyifumana, kodwa ithatha njengomvuzo wokwenza umgudu othile. Ukuba ibhinqa iyayiqonda ukuba ngaphambi kokuba umkhohlisi emva kokunxibelelana nomculi we-pick-up ungasebenzisa iindlela:
- Tshintsha ingqalelo kuye ngokwakhe, cela imibuzo emininzi ngobomi bakhe, intsapho yakhe.
- Ungayithobeli iincwadana kunye nokuncoma kwidilesi yakho: impendulo "Ewe, ndiyazi into enhle (i-smart, i-athletic)".
- Ukukhokelwa ukuzinza nokulinganisela kwangaphakathi, ngokukhawuleza xa kukho intlungu engathethiyo kwingxoxo - ukuyeka ingxoxo, ngokubhekiselele kwingqesho.
Indlela yokuwa ngothando nomculi wokuthabatha?
Indoda-umkhohlisi - ngumntu oqhelekileyo eneengxaki zakhe kwaye naye, akanakukwazi ukuthandana "nomnikelo" wakhe. Ubudlelwane kunye nomculi wokuthabatha kunokwenzeka kwaye, ngokukhawuleza, uya kuqhotyoshelana nentombazana eyayikhupha iimvakalelo zakhe, kodwa kubalulekile ukuqonda ukuba ubudlelwane obuqilileyo kwixesha elizayo akufanelekile ukulinda. Amadoda abandakanyekayo ekukhunjweni kunye nolwazi olunokuthandana ngabanye baya kuxhomekeka kule ndlela yokuphila.
Indlela yokuwubhaduza ipopu?
Iingcali zabaculi bokuthabatha nazo zingasetyenziselwa ukulwa nabakhohlisi ngokwabo:
- bangela kuye inzwa yokungakhuselekanga (iingubo zinyanzeliswe, i-hairstyle endala);
- unyule indawo yendibano ngokwawo: i-cinema, i cafe (i-pepthi ayivumelani, inendlela yakhe "ekhululekile");
- mcele ukuba akhulume ngaye kwaye aholele incoko ngaye (akayithandi, kuba ulawulo lwakhe lulahlekile).
Ezinye iindlela:
- uyayihoxisa: ungaphenduli iifowuni, ii-imeyile. Uyakwazi ukuphendula, kodwa ulungisele kwakhona intlanganiso enye imini yeveki, uze uhambe kwakhona. Ngexesha elide le nto ayiyi kuqhubeka, i-pikaper iya kushiya yedwa ize ithathe enye.
- Ukuphepha ukuxhamla ngokomzimba, othanda ukuwasebenzisa.
Indlela yokufundisa isifundo kumculi wokuthabatha?
Ukuziphatha kwe-pick-up kubangela ukucaphuka kumantombazana ahlangabezane nalo mcimbi ngethuba lokuqala. Iingqungquthela zabasetyhini zixubushe ngokugqithiseleyo imiba enxulumene nesihloko sokukhupha kunye neentombazana eziphosakeleyo ziphupha. Ukuze ufundise isifundo kwi-pickuper, unokuwa kunye naye uze uyeke, uphelelwe ebomini bakhe - yiloo nto abafazi bacinga ngayo. Ngomntu - ubuhlungu kakhulu, kodwa akunakwenzeka ukuba kuya kumenza atshintshe.