Inyaniso yendalo enye intamo yomfazi, kunye nentloko yendoda, kwihlabathi lanamhlanje ifumene ubungqina obunjalo ukuba bambalwa abantu abaphikisana naye. Nangona kunjalo, akuyena wonke umntu owaziyo iinkcukacha zobuqili phakathi kobudlelwane phakathi kwabameli abahlukeneyo besini. Yintoni umfazi okwenene angenako ukuyenza, efuna ukufumana ezinyaweni zakhe isigxina esinamandla sabantu? Phendula kulo mbuzo kwaye ngexesha elifanayo ukufumana amava anenzuzo onokuyenza nathi.
Abasetyhini ubudlelwane namadoda
Omnye ungumfazi kwaye ulungile, "kusho enye into. Kwaye, ngokwenene, ukuqonda oko kwenzekayo kwiingcamango zesigqibo esifanelekileyo, abantu abanamandla behlabathi baye bazama iminyaka emininzi. Kwaye abafazi, okwangoku, beza ngeendlela ezininzi zokufunda indlela yokuphatha amadoda. Kwaye kufuneka ndithi, abaninzi abantu bayayenza ngokugqibeleleyo. Ngaloo nto amadoda ayenzayo kubasetyhini ixesha lokubhala amabali othando kunye namabali adventure. Kodwa ukucinga ukuba bonke abafazi bayakhohlisayo kwaye basebenzise isigxina sabo sesibini kuphela kwiinjongo zabo, kuya kuba yiphutha. Into yokuba amadoda namabhinqa ahlukelelani nje ngesondo kuphela, kodwa nakwizinto ezinxulumene ne-psyche kunye nokuziphatha. Kwaye kukho iimeko apho abafazi abangenakukwazi ukugwenywa khona. Nawuphi na umlingane ngowomntu ongeyena kuphela umama wabantwana bakhe kunye nomgcini weentloko, kodwa kunye nenkxaso, umcebisi oxhasayo kunye nomhlobo ongcono. Yingakho kukholelwa ukuba umfazi wenza indoda ibe namandla. Ungumama wesibini, uyamkela nazo zonke iziphoso, uqondisa iingcamango zakhe nezenzo ngendlela efanelekileyo. Kodwa indlela eyenzekayo ifanelwe ingxoxo eyahlukileyo. Ngoko, makhe sibone indlela kwaye kunye nantoni na into eyenziwa ngumfazi.
Ukunyanzelwa ngumntu
Yintoni umfazi okwenene akwenzele ukufezekisa injongo yakhe aze aqondise iingcamango nezenzo zomntu ngendlela efanelekileyo? Iinkqubo, apho isigxina esisinyanisekileyo sabantu sisenza ngokuzithandela, kuninzi. Kodwa siya kuhlalutya kuphela iindlela ezona zifanelekileyo zokusebenzisa kakuhle umntu.
- Isidenge, buthathaka kwaye ingenakunceda. Inendima enjalo nayiphi na umntu iya kufuneka ithambe. Ngenxa yokuba kuthathwa njengamandla kunene, owokuqala, owesilisa kunye nokunye, uya kuguqula iintaba aze afumane iinkwenkwezi esibhakabhakeni. Inyaniso kukho enye inkqubela - yindoda enamandla ngokwenene iya kuyenza. Kwaye ababuthathaka, bevile ukuba ungokoqobo kunye nendoda yelfabhethi, ngokubanzi bayeka ukwenza nantoni na.
- Flatter okanye ukuncoma. Ngokuchasene nenkolelo esithandwayo yokuba abafazi bathanda ngeendlebe zabo, ngokwenza oko kubonakala ukuba isondo esinamandla asihambisani namazwi ahlabayo malunga nalo. Ndiyabulela amagama ambalwa athandwayo, athanwa ngenyameko, phantse nayiphi na indoda "inyibiliki" kwaye iya kuba ilungele nayiphi na into aya kucela yona.
- Nomona. Enye indlela enkulu abafazi abaninzi basebenzisa ngayo ukuzithoba nabanye abameli bendoda. Ukuvakalelwa kukuba intanda yakhe ithatha ixesha kunye nomnye umntu kunokubangela ukuba umntu abe neengxabano, kwaye uya kuqala ukubonakalisa ngamandla akhe onke ukuba ungcono, unamandla, unethenda ngakumbi kwaye unomdla.
- Umgcini wendlu. Ukuze umntu aphephe ngokusisigxina indoda, abafazi bahlala bethetha kwizinto ezinjalo njengento yokuqinisekisa ukuba ngaphandle kwakhe indoda yayingadluli ebudeni obudala, yafa yindlala kwaye yayingasebenzi. Oku akusoloko kusebenza, kodwa kwiimeko ezininzi indoda iqala ukukholelwa ukuba ngaphandle komfazi wayengazukuphumeza nantoni na kwaye yayiza kugxobhozwa kwidaka nobumpofu.
- Scandal. Enye yezona ndlela eziqhelekileyo ukufeza injongo yakho kuku
Isimo ngezinyembezi nokuhlambalaza, ngokuqhelekileyo akunako ukunyamezela nayiphi na indoda. Kwaye ngenxa yale nto, ngokukhawuleza yaphela, zilungele nantoni na, nantoni na.
Kukho iindlela ezininzi zokuxhaphazwa kwabasetyhini ukuba lixesha lokudala i-encyclopedia yonke enikezelwe kwinto abafazi abenza ngayo amadoda. Abangqiqo nabanengqiqo besondo esomeleleyo bayazi kakuhle kakhulu ezo ndlela kwaye bakhetha ukukhawuleza ukuba benze ulungelelaniso ukuze bagweme ukulahleka okungadingekile. Nangona kunjalo, abafazi abazizilumko abaninzi bahlala bezisebenzisa kwiindlela zabo. Emva koko, ukufezekisa ngokwakho, akuyimfuneko ukwenza ama-scandals, amaqhinga, ukumela ixhoba okanye i-doe ephazamisayo. Kwindoda yayinomdla kwaye iyanyamekela, yanele ukumxhasa, ibe yindoda emele ngokuzimeleyo kunye nobumnene, kwaye ngokuqinisekileyo mxelele ukuba uyona mhle kwaye uyintanda.