Ukunyaniseka okuninzi kunokuba ngumqobo kumnqophiso wakho kunye nephupha lonwabo kunye nomthandayo. Umncedisi obalaseleyo kubantu abathobekileyo nge-intanethi uya kuba yi-intanethi, kuba ngokubonakala kwakhe, abaninzi banomhlobo kwaye banweba isangqa sazana nabo. Kodwa ngaphandle kwezonxibelelwano zentlalo kukho iindlela ezininzi zokuvuma umntu onothando, ukuba unamahloni, kodwa njani, kuya kuxelwa kule nqaku.
Ungavuma njani ukuba uthande umfana ngaphandle kokushiya ekhaya?
- Mthumele umyalezo we-SMS ngamagama athandekileyo. Ukuba impendulo yesikhalazo akuyena ongathanda ukuyibona, unokuhlala ubhala ukuba wenze iphutha ngenani.
- Inketho efanayo, kodwa kuphela ngokubandakanyeka kwekhompyutha. Ukuba le nkwenkwe ikhona "ngabahlobo" kuyo nayiphi intanethi yintlalo, bhala naye ukuvuma. Okunye ngale ndlela kukuba akukho mntu uya kubona kwaye angaboni nayiphi na into ehlazo, ukugubungela, ubuso obomvu kunye nezandla ezifayo. Kwaye ukuba kwenzeka ukuba uvuma kumntu onesihawu, kwaye ulalele okanye ubhala i-muck ekuphenduleni, ngoko iimvakalelo zakhe zingabonakaliswa ngendlela efanelekileyo, ngokomzekelo, ngokuthumela umqondiso "Joke" okanye ukubhala ukuba idilesi iphosakele.
- Ngokuzithemba ngovelwano lwakhe, unokwenza uvumo olukhulu ngokulubhala "eludongeni" okanye phantsi kwesithombe. Unokwenza isayinwe phantsi kwesipho esiyinyani. Ngendlela, ingaba yimfihlo, ngoko umthumeli uya kuvulwa kuphela kwi-addressee.
- Unokwenza iphepha elingaphantsi kwegama elikhohlisayo kwaye unikezele into yobubele bakho kunye noqhagamshelwano. Oku kuya kunceda ufunde kabanzi ngaye kwaye malunga nokuba kukho indawo ekhululekile entliziyweni yakhe.
Amehlo kwiso
Ewe, ukuvuma uthando kumntu ngamazwi akhe akulula, ngaphandle koko, abaninzi banokungabaza ukuba kunokwenzeka yini ukuvuma kumfana othandweni kuqala. Kodwa ukuba unamahloni kwaye unengqiqo, ujikeleze ukuze uhambe ixesha elide, ngoko ke akukho nto kwaye ungafumani. Kodwa ngeli xesha lingasetyenziselwa inzuzo, nokwenza kube nolonwabo ngakumbi kwaye ujabule ngakumbi! Ngaphandle kwale mihla, ngokungafani neminyaka yokugqibela, abafana baxhasa kakhulu kwaye ngokwemvelo babhekisela kwinqanaba lobundlobongela obuthathaka kwaye aboni nto ephosakeleyo ngento yokuba amantombazana abokuqala ukubonisa imfesane. Ngoko ke isibindi ngakumbi ukuhlangabezana neemvakalelo ezintsha!
Zininzi iindlela zokuvuma ngokumnandi ukuthanda umfana ngamagama akho:
- Ukulungiswa kwimeko, apho unokuba yedwa kwaye ubuze ngokuqinisekileyo loo mfana ukuba uza kuthini xa athe wavuma kuye ngothando. Ungatsho ukuba ulungiselela amagama anqwenela kwaye uyesaba ukuba lo mntu uya kuphendula ngokungafanelekanga. Ngokusabela kwakhe nangempendulo, uya kuqonda ngokukhawuleza yonke into.
- Abo banokuzithiba okukhulu, unokuthi phakathi kwamagama athi: "Ndiyakuthanda" kwaye ujonge ukuphendula. Ukuba le nkwenkwe ihlala inganamdla, zama ukujika yonke into ibe yihlaya okanye uthethe oko akuvileyo.
- Ungamfundela inkondlo ngesihloko sothando uze ubuze oko acinga ngako. Into ebalulekileyo kukuzisa ingxoxo kwisihloko esifanelekileyo, kwaye ngekamva akuyi kuba nzima ukufumana ubudlelwane bayo.
Ngokuqinisekileyo, ukuqatshelwa ngabomntu yindlela efanelekileyo yokufunda ngeemvakalelo zinyaniso zomntu, kodwa ukuba unentloni kakhulu ukuba akunakwenzeka ukuphumeza ukhetho olunjalo, unako ukubhala inqaku lomthando uze ulifake esikhwameni, kwincwadi okanye kwenye indawo. Iholide yamaSuku ka-Valentine ngumzuzu omkhulu wokuqaphela, kuba namhlanje ngalowo nalowo umntu uya kunika omnye amakhadi enikelwa intliziyo kunye kunye neentloni angabamba ixesha. Unokucela umhlobo uncedo: mvumele ambuze umntu malunga novelwano lwakhe. Yaye ukuba uthetha kwinkampani enye, kuya kuba lula ukufumana ngokuthetha nomhlobo wakhe omhle.